How to overcome the timidity of meeting strangers?

As a psychological phenomenon, timidity exists in everyone to varying degrees, especially among teenagers. Some students feel inferior because of timidity, and become isolated from themselves, which affects their normal study and life. But timidity doesn't mean fear. Psychologists have developed many ways to overcome timidity. As long as you use it, you can get rid of it and be a fearless you.

First, write down your fears and look for the source of your timidity.

Timidity means timidity, timidity, fear and worry. What do we fear and worry about? Why do we worry and fear? Knowing this problem clearly will help us overcome our timidity. You can write down your timid thoughts about something in the form of a diary, and read it again in a few days, and you will find that these things that worry you are actually not worth worrying about or necessary. For example, you are afraid of speaking in front of the whole class and being laughed at by others, so you are timid and silent. In fact, what does it matter if you make mistakes? Man's progress lies in constantly making mistakes. Only when you make mistakes can you know what you still lack. Otherwise, you will never know where your shortcomings are and how to make progress! Why keep silent and lose this opportunity to recognize your mistakes and make progress? What's more, even if you make a mistake, as long as you don't care, others won't remember it, just as you won't care too much about what others say. There is nothing to be afraid of!

Second, if you are not timid, look for opportunities to show yourself.

Timid people, in fact, think they are timid, all of which are their own virtual psychological feelings. Scaring yourself with virtual psychological feelings or situations generated by hallucinations is tantamount to walking into a trap. Many people are very nervous and timid before they go on stage to perform, but when they go on stage and devote themselves wholeheartedly to their performances, they are not timid, and they are surprised at the ease of their performances. After personal experience, they said that it is important to take the first step to overcome timidity. After taking the first step, you will find a brand-new self, which will surprise you, find your feelings, find your self-confidence and self-esteem. Therefore, in order to overcome and overcome timidity, we can assume that we are not timid and not afraid of anything, speak first in class, seize the opportunity to perform on stage, speak loudly in public places, participate in debates and so on. And try to do it in a way that is not timid. Slowly, you really won't be timid.

Third, prepare for the battle and encourage yourself.

Many timid people worry that they are ignorant, and they will not speak and make mistakes when interacting with others. To this end, you should be prepared for what you want to do, and don't fight unprepared. For example, if you want to meet a stranger, you'd better know the identity, occupation, interests, hobbies and achievements of this person first, so that you can find some interesting topics. You can also find suitable topics from newspapers, radio and television programs, or what you see and hear at school and record them. You can also make a list of topics before the meeting, so that you have nothing to say when you speak. I feel that I am really good, not worse than others. I can say to myself several times: "I am really good!" " ""I will succeed! "You can also talk to your close classmates or relatives and friends, and they will also give you encouragement. Encouraging yourself in various ways can not only enhance self-confidence, but also divert attention, relax excessive tension and overcome timidity.

Fourth, express your timidity and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere.

A salesman of an insurance company often leads his colleagues in performance. One day, he met a tycoon in the automobile industry. At that time, as long as people saw the tycoon, they fell into timidity, fear and tension, and even felt uncomfortable. He had to tell his feelings truthfully: "Once I met you, I was too scared to speak freely ..." When this sentence came out, the timidity and fear that had hung over him suddenly vanished, and then he regained his confidence and was able to speak freely.

Obviously, these "confessions" played a role in dispelling timidity and nervousness, which made him calm. Psychological "introspection" means expressing "observation results" with practical words after calmly observing one's heart, so that one's timidity, anxiety, fear and nervousness disappear, and there is no trouble at the same time. The effect it produces is amazing. So, when you meet a stranger or a big shot and feel timid, scared or nervous, don't let this feeling stay in your heart. You must clearly state your feelings and thoughts at that time. You can say, "I'm so nervous. My heart is pounding, my eyes seem to be blind, my tongue is stiff and my throat is dry. " If you blurt it out like this, your timidity and nervousness will be gone and your mood will be stable.

5. Show a warm and friendly attitude and prepare for the worst. Timid people give people the feeling of indifference, timidity and fear, and speak hesitatingly, which is equivalent to telling others: I am timid and I am afraid. Psychologists suggest that as long as you adjust your body posture slightly, make warm, friendly and well-intentioned gestures that are easy to approach, such as smiling, being cheerful, leaning forward slightly, shaking hands, patting your shoulders and other friendly physical contacts, staring at each other, nodding your head from time to time while listening to others. You will be rewarded with friendliness and goodwill, and you will find that communication between people is not difficult, thus alleviating and gradually eliminating timidity.

Preparing for the worst is also an effective way to overcome timidity. For example, you are afraid of blushing when you speak in public, and you are worried that you will be laughed at if you say something wrong. If you want to be red, let him be red. If you make a mistake, let him be wrong. If you want to lose it, let him lose it. He hasn't blushed before. If anyone has never lost face, let him laugh if he wants to. What a big deal! What can he do to me! With this idea of not being afraid of the worst, there is nothing to be afraid of!

Of course, to overcome timidity, we should not rush for success. You should start from the easiest step by step, persevere, believe that you are no worse than others, and you will definitely become a fearless you.

Phenomenon:

I feel timid when I meet someone who is better than myself and has a higher level, or a stranger.

Reason:

1, the more careful you are, the more nervous you are, and the more you can't let go. This is the thread threading principle.

2. Lack of self-training, inadequate preparation in advance, and fear of being criticized soon after making mistakes-too many nervous psychological hints. ...

3, the performance requirements for themselves are too high.

Countermeasures:

1, find confidence and find a clear position; Don't expect to act like a boss.

2. Have courage and peace of mind; If you don't want to regret when the boss finishes speaking, you should face it bravely. Don't worry, don't think too much, and don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself and say the wrong thing.

3. treat each other as your old friends;

4. Just be yourself!

Treatment:

1, physiotherapy. Take a deep breath for 3 seconds and exhale slowly 1 second. Repeated several times, the effect is good;

2. smile;

3. Happy vault: before giving a speech on stage, meeting important guests, expressing opinions, etc. Imagine something you like and are very happy about. For example, before talking to the boss, you can think about the boss's good side to eliminate the tension;

4. Preview the future: Before acting, put a "movie" in your mind to tell what will happen, and consider some unexpected details as carefully as possible;

It is suggested that you do more challenging sports when you are free, such as mountain climbing and rock climbing, to constantly hone your will and change some eating habits, such as eating coarse grains.

6. Turn strangers into acquaintances and practice repeatedly;

7. Put it to death and regenerate it later.