"Mom, what if you don't get into a good high school!" Mom's answer is amazing.

? Mom, what if you don't get into a good high school? ? Mom's answer is amazing.

I remember one day at this time last year, in the early morning 12, I passed my daughter's room when I went to the toilet and found that her light was still on.

I gently opened her door. I thought the child forgot to turn off the light when he slept. Later, I went in and found that she was still brushing the questions all night.

? Why don't you sleep? I asked.

? Ok, I'll watch it for a while. ? My daughter seems a little unhappy and loves to answer.

There is still more than a month before the senior high school entrance examination, and I know she is under great pressure now.

? You have a good rest now, don't read until now. ? I tried to persuade her to go to bed.

My daughter didn't answer me, but sighed deeply.

After a long time, her voice trembled and asked me: Mom, what should I do if I fail in the senior high school entrance examination and can't go to a good high school?

Zheng, I asked. What do you think will happen?

? I think if I can't go to the high school I want to go to, it will be difficult to get into a good university in the future, and my daughter will cry in the future.

I patted my daughter on the shoulder and smiled and said:

? If you can't get into college, that's great, so you can stay with me all the time.

Mom doesn't have to worry about you suffering alone anymore. ?

My daughter was surprised. I never thought I would give her such an answer and ask me, Mom, what makes you think so?

I continue to say with a smile:

? Mom was joking just now, but the central idea of mom is really like this.

It doesn't matter even if you can't get into a key high school. You can go to an ordinary high school. It doesn't matter if you can't get into an ordinary high school. We have many ways to learn some skills that you are interested in or go to college through other channels. ?

My daughter opened her eyes wide and asked me: Really?

? Of course it's true. You know, mom wants you to gain not only grades from the senior high school entrance examination, but also stress resistance and learning ability.

Because the current social development is really too fast, if you are just a bookworm who can read, even if you are admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, you will be eliminated, right?

The daughter nodded her head.

? Don't care too much about the scores in the senior high school entrance examination. Sometimes you deliberately care about not reaching the ideal value, just like when I was a child, I took you to the sand dunes to play. Do you remember that you grabbed a handful of sand?

Daughter nodded again and said:

? Yes, I remember you telling me that you can't catch the sand because the tighter you hold it,

The faster the sand leaks. ?

Yes, son:

? In fact, the senior high school entrance examination is also like this. Sometimes, the tighter you grasp the score, the more afraid you are, but you will fail in the exam!

I hope my daughter can relax now and enjoy the process of the senior high school entrance examination and the process of absorbing knowledge, instead of deliberately caring about the results, understand?

? I see. ?

My daughter's face is no longer the anxiety when I first entered the room, but gradually stretches out. I also safely turned off the light in her room and let her rest.

Later, my daughter didn't feel so much pressure in her later study. She was busy and happy every day, and finally she was admitted to her favorite high school.

-02-

Near the entrance examination, many students will have one kind or another collapse.

Stage fright anxiety before examination

I have seen many students have stage fright anxiety before exams.

Usually they have the following kinds. Adverse reactions? ：

? Oh, what should I do when it's time for the exam? Brush for another night, and brush as much as you can remember! ?

? No, I didn't recite the words, and I didn't finish reviewing the biology textbook. What should I read first?

? Alas, I'm tired of watching and don't want to study. ?

Children's boots with exam anxiety generally don't do well, because they are forced to study passively rather than actively.

What exactly is called? Study hard? .

I can't learn anymore, but I just want to learn.

Have you learned anything from serious classics? Not exactly.

Because? Study hard? If you don't have a study plan, just set one for yourself in your heart? Do you think I'm still working so hard? Just comfort.

Panic and anxiety in the examination room

Several students told me:

? Teacher, as soon as I sit in my own examination room, I can't help but get flustered. Forget it. I'm still shaking.

Is that your legs are shaking beyond your control. ?

Indeed, once in the examination room? Shivering, pale and sweaty? There are indeed many such situations.

There is a term in psychology called. Clark phenomenon? .

Clark is a famous athlete and long-distance runner in Australia.

He broke the world record 1963 to 1968/7 times. But it was during this period, at the peak of his sports, that he participated in two Olympic Games without winning a championship.

What is the reason?

It's not that his level is not enough, but that he was under too much pressure in the most critical game at that time, which led to his level imbalance during the game.

So, we call this phenomenon caused by stress? Clark phenomenon? .

Faced with such a situation, it is strongly recommended that all students take the exam? Draw a symbol? .

You can write some on it:

? You really work hard, come on! ?

? One exam doesn't mean anything, just continue next time. ?

If you are so encouraged, check again and again when you enter the examination room and cheer for yourself.

Post-test self-blame anxiety disorder

Some students will feel sorry for their teachers' teaching, their classmates' concern, and especially their parents' love after failing in the exam. Think about your parents' white hair and the wrinkles around their eyes. The more you think about it, the more guilty you are, right?

I even think that life is really a failure and that living is meaningless.

In fact, it is often unnecessary to blame yourself after the exam.

It can be said that being responsible for yourself is more important. You don't care what others think of you. Actually, you can't.

You did well in the exam. what do you think? I did well in this mock exam. Is it because others are not doing well, and I am doing so well because I am playing beyond the normal level?

You didn't do well in the exam. Do you still want to take it? Teacher, why am I so stupid?

So no matter what your grades are, you are not at ease with yourself.

In fact, if you have this kind of mood, it will not only affect your usual study, but also affect your recovery after the exam.

-03-

Since anxiety is so common, we should learn how to relieve it.

Exercise properly at ordinary times

Exercise can really relieve stress. Therefore, in the face of the senior high school entrance examination, reasonable and timely exercise is particularly important.

Therefore, it is suggested that students can run more on the playground between meals.

Some students may say, I don't like running, but I like playing basketball. What should I do?

It's okay!

Choosing your favorite exercise style can get twice the result with half the effort to relieve psychological stress!

Deep breathing method

When you face the exam, what if you are on it? Expression? There are no eggs for you.

After all, once you enter the examination room, it is forbidden to bring irrelevant papers. What if one should motivate himself? Rune paper? And what the consequences are, but I don't take any responsibility.

So in this case, is it necessary to do so? Take a deep breath .

Deep breathing can inject more oxygen into human body, lower heart rate and blood pressure, slow down breathing, calm brain waves, restore physical and mental stability faster, and make people more energetic.

Take a breath and the exam will be better.

Return to textbooks in learning content

My parents always ask me: Why is my child under so much pressure in the middle school entrance examination? Can't sleep every day?

In fact, the reason is very simple, because I can't do the problem!

I always want to do some over-inflated topics to express myself and expand my knowledge reserve. In fact, sometimes it will not only fail to achieve satisfactory results, but also backfire.

Imagine that an over-qualified test paper is placed in front of you. This problem won't, and that problem won't, let alone children, parents will collapse.

Therefore, it is suggested that all children must return to textbooks before the exam, and it is enough to review and sort out the main points of knowledge that the teacher has said. There is no need to chew on biased topics and problems.

Off-topic words and problems will hit students' self-confidence and cause depression.

As long as the basic knowledge is clearly mastered and there is a certain knowledge reserve, students will feel practical and their anxiety will be reduced.

I hope every child can take the senior high school entrance examination. Paper tiger? , successfully entered the ideal high school!

How to guide children's pre-test emotions

in life

Let's start with life. In fact, our concern for children in our life is a continuous process, but it is still crucial in the end. So what did I do last year?

I pay great attention to nutrition collocation. I think every meal should contain protein, vitamins and carbohydrates, and try to have as many varieties and kinds of food as possible. At this time, I pay great attention to making the child's nutrition more comprehensive, because she still has to work hard for the college entrance examination. Your nutrition can keep up, and so can your child's physical strength.

But when I pay attention to the pattern, I still consider whether the child likes to eat, that is, consider her taste. Because no matter how many tricks you play, children don't like to eat, and the nutrition can't be absorbed, so I think the child's usual taste is what she likes to eat. What I try to do for her is to let the children eat well.

Also, although we are busy as parents at this time, we can spend more time with our children and at least cook three meals a day for them. But needless to say, some of our parents have taken time off to go home and do their own things with their children every day. I don't think this is particularly good, it will put some pressure on children.

There is another aspect of life that many parents may not notice. The child's body is under great pressure at the last moment, so pay attention to physical exercise.

Last year, my husband and I took our daughter out for a walk every night when she was finishing her work. Because walking doesn't need a venue, even in the community, we walk around the community yard several times. Children sometimes don't want to go out, because in the third year of high school, sometimes the study task is very heavy and they don't want to go out.

Last year, I made some preparations, such as buying a hula hoop at home, which was very convenient. Then I ask my children to turn around for a while when they finish their study tasks at night, and even we can turn around together. For example, if she turns and I turn, the child will relax. This is one aspect. And skipping rope. We use local materials so that children can get exercise. I think hula hoop exercises a lot, and my daughter is a little sweaty after turning a few hundred times. I think this kind of exercise is also quite good.

psychologically

In the last stage, the child's mood swings are very large psychologically. I think in the final analysis, our parents should pay close attention to their children's emotions.

For example, I recently received some messages from senior three children on the Weibo, but I was scared and worried. I just thought the college entrance examination was coming soon. What should I do? This mood of our children does not come from now. In fact, I think our children have been suppressed by many negative emotions since primary school. This kind of negative emotion is a kind of emotional rubbish psychologically. If the pressure goes down, it will explode at this time of the college entrance examination.

So what should our parents do? How can our parents make this child feel relaxed and then do better in the college entrance examination?

First of all, I think we should relax as parents. You are so anxious and nervous, can you not take it off your face every day? Your words and deeds have this kind of performance, and the child is more anxious. So I said that parents should first understand that study and college entrance examination are actually children's business, and it is useless for our parents to be nervous.

We do what we have to do, and then you don't have to be nervous, you are calm, and children should be calm when they see you calm. In fact, my daughter has been crying since the end of last year. What did I do then? How did our family do it? I hugged her when she cried, and I made her cry on my shoulder. In fact, sometimes when children cry, they cry after crying, and their emotions are almost exhausted.

I just think that at this time, parents really don't want their children to stop crying and make them stronger. Don't say these words. After you said it, the child's crying stopped. On the surface, there seems to be nothing wrong, but there is no venting. At this time, it is better to let him cry enough and let him vent.

There is also a way to make children laugh. Let children move and laugh. Moving is to let her exercise, and exercise is also an emotional catharsis, not only exercise, but also an emotional catharsis. There is also a kind of laughter, trying to make her happy.

It was last year that my husband invented some interactive games, such as tug-of-war with his daughter, and her husband and daughter were at home. In fact, if two people are holding hands, that kind of action is actually quite funny sometimes. Because the father's strength is greater than that of the child, he pulled his daughter to the east and to Sila at once, so at this time, her daughter couldn't help laughing, and I think she was very relaxed after laughing.

My husband just bought an iPhone last year, so he downloaded Tomcat software and recorded it. In any case, some methods are used to cheer children up. There are some jokes, that is, telling jokes to amuse children. Even in our family, there are some activities to make children laugh. If the senior three children can laugh, it is also a very good way to let her vent this emotion.

And what I want to say is the children living on campus. Because some parents and children have communicated with me recently, they said that sometimes their emotions can't be understood because their children live on campus. Because of the children who live on campus, I used to live on campus for the college entrance examination. I also feel that the school atmosphere is very stressful, and you are in the college entrance examination environment.

So if children live on campus, I really think parents should call their children. But don't talk about school when you call, just talk about some happy things at home.

Last year, I had a good friend who did very well. Every night 10, he thinks that his children will make a phone call after self-study at night. Anyway, he just talked with the children and said something happy. What my friend does particularly well is that even if there is entertainment in the evening, he will find an excuse to call the children at ten o'clock in the entertainment. Every night, the children will wait for their father to tell her jokes, because my classmates are very humorous. After listening to her father talking to her, the child went to rest in a down-to-earth manner. I feel very good.

But some children don't like this, for example, some children who live in school, and some parents say that I am tired of calling others. If the child does not have this demand at this time, there is no need for our parents to insist and make this call with this child.

What did I share with my parents and friends? It is when the child is in an uncomfortable mood that his mood comes. Don't say that the baby is fine, the baby is fine, and don't say such things. In fact, it really doesn't matter when you say the child, for example, he didn't do well in the exam or he didn't do well in the exam today? This is very important to him. So I really don't think you should say that.

Last year, a friend told me that his daughter did not do very well in the exam once after she came back. It seems that she also got a second-rate score, 12 May. I met him in May of 12. Then he told his daughter that it was okay. As a result, my daughter suddenly became angry. Is it okay to cry and shout? If it's not important, I can't go to college. And you said it's okay. Did you really say it's okay? Then the child was angry. In fact, this time is not unrelated to our parents.

In fact, in our hearts, when children do not do well in the exam, parents will feel that they do not. At this time, you might as well accompany her to be sad. You might as well say that you didn't do well in the exam this time. It's really not good. If you tell her this, she will think that you understand her and that you are in love with her. It makes her more comfortable.

If our parents don't know what to say, just say, Oh, you didn't do well in the exam this time. Go give her a hug. At this time, you have a kind of psychological support for her, and I think it is almost enough.

If the child is really what I just said, there is always a feeling in her mind. What should I do if I fail in the exam? Many children think that if I don't do well in the college entrance examination, I won't be admitted, or I won't be admitted to a good university. This is an idea. If so, our parents might as well ask their children more questions. What should you do if you ask him if he did badly in the exam? I just can't get into college, so what? Aren't our arms and legs still there? Don't we have any other choice?

I think the first thing to let children know is that parents should not take the college entrance examination so seriously. And even if I don't do well in the exam, I should let my children know that even if I don't do well in the exam, my parents still like me and love me.

No matter how you convey it, I think you should convey it to your children. Including my daughter, who was worried last year. She said, what if I can't get into Peking University? Because she applied for Peking University. Then if you don't do well in the exam, because the students in their class who reported to Peking University usually have stable grades and do well in the exam. Sometimes she thinks they are really nice. If they get in, what happens if I don't?

I sometimes ask her, and I say, have you ever thought about what path to take if you fail the exam? Finally, my daughter said that I couldn't go abroad if I didn't pass the exam, and I couldn't go back to school next year. This has a choice, and there are several choices for everything. Even if it's not so good this time, I won't lack anything. This made her calm and relaxed at this time. I think maybe she will get good grades in the college entrance examination.

A parent asked me that my child's test scores were not as good as usual every time, that is, when he went to that examination room, he began to tremble, knowing nothing, being at a loss, and not knowing what he had known before. I gave him a way to let the child take a deep breath as soon as he entered the examination room, and then told himself in his heart, I can, I can, as long as I can, I will certainly do well.

I think it would be better if this can be done and children can walk into the examination room with confidence. The easiest way is to take a deep breath. For example, don't take the exam after you get the paper in the examination room. Take a few deep breaths and give yourself some hints, which will help him.