What emotional changes will you experience in the process of giving up someone you like very much?

What emotional changes will you experience in the process of giving up someone you like very much? Zhang Xiaoxian said: The saddest thing is that when you meet someone special, you realize that you can never be together, and sooner or later, you have to give up. I thought it was a great honor to meet someone I like. After all, many people have been looking for it all their lives, but they still can't meet the touched person. The heart is like being sewn up layer by layer. You can't open the capsule and let your heart begin to revive.

But when you meet someone you like very much, but you can't be together, you find that sometimes it's good not to meet, because when you don't meet, you don't have such a strong impulse to sow. The feeling of worrying is the most sticky, just like the snack you like very much, but you are full and can't swallow it. Anxiety will be thousands of times more obvious than not seeing it.

There is a question in Zhihu: "Which is more regrettable, not being together or not being together in the end?" There is an answer below: is the essence of this question "don't suffer" or "love and leave pain"? If it were me, I would feel very bitter to leave, because there is a memory in the middle. Many times it's not that person that we can't forget, but these intertwined memories become a scar that is hard to scrape off.

After being in love for a while, they had so many sweet times, but they couldn't be together in the end. This kind of loss is also difficult to calm down casually. It takes a long time to cure. Let go of someone you like very much, from unacceptable to finally learning to let go. In this process, everyone will experience four emotional changes.

1 Unwilling and grievance occupy the whole mind, and we can't accept it. Many times, we can't let go of one person. In fact, it is because I am not willing to occupy the whole mind. Because I don't want to be left behind for no reason, I don't want to face the reality like that, I still want to give it a try, and I don't want to watch my own feelings wither. There is also a feeling of being wronged. Originally, he said that he would accompany him all his life, but it turned out to be just a joke. He was the only one who believed it like a fool.

The moment I just chose to let go, I was a little trance. I dreamed of him in my dream. When I woke up, my whole body seemed to be hollowed out, without a trace of life. Although reason tells itself that it is right to give up, it is difficult to control feelings automatically and there is no way to convince yourself to stay awake. The whole body is like a little turtle, curled up in a hole, unable to accept the objective fact that we can't be together.

Refusing to hear his name and blocking all memories about him is like a thorn for a person who likes it very much but can't be together. Everything about him has become a taboo for you, and you dare not touch it again. Once met, it will be bloody. As long as you see the back of a person close to him in the street, as long as someone mentions his name next to you, your heart will start to cross the river and stir the sea, and your sad mood will be unbearable.

At this moment, you will be vigilant to prevent you from catching something related to him. I no longer go to the restaurant I often go to, listen to the songs I heard together, let people around me mention his name, and force myself to put it down by hiding my ears. In fact, just because there is resentment in my heart, I feel that hate and love are interlinked. At this moment, although you don't admit it, you still love him.

3 completely accept the fact that you can't be together, and only when you can't forget your resentment can you spread it loudly. All your reflections are actually to let him see you, get to know you, or come back to you. Maybe you still have hope of reconciliation. You didn't wake up until you finally realized that no matter how sad you are, no matter how well you live, others are indifferent. It turns out that he really will never look back.

You've completely got the time when everyone can't be together, and now you don't care. You miss him more and more, and you don't have much resentment against him. What you start to think about is his kindness to you. It is said that a mage who has the best time will forget it one day. Time has its own filter. No matter how much you hate someone at first, all the good things stay in your memory and all the bad things are put down. You don't blame him, so you don't love him.

4 Put it down completely. After starting a new life, you seldom think of him. You can call out his name calmly, and you can tell others the story between us. Sometimes when you meet in the street, you won't have such a strong mentality. Just say slowly in my heart: this man, I really loved him. At this time, you really officially started your life. You send a circle of friends on WeChat, not to let him see it, but to go to the area you have been to, or to meet him. All your life trajectories no longer involve him.

You also gradually accept new relationships, not to forget some people, but just because you like you. Everyone is still the same as before, trysting, shopping and repeating every emotional story, but you will never think of that person again. I used to think it was difficult to forget someone, and I didn't know when I could go out. Look, I really let it go by accident.

Giving up a person you like very much is a process that hurts deeply and doesn't matter later. This is a self-healing process and a growing experience. Everyone finally understands that not everyone will always be with themselves, and saying goodbye to different people is the normal state of life. Finally, I have to walk alone for a long time. No matter how much you love someone, don't lose yourself. On the contrary, you should always be integrated into one's life. This is the most important lesson you should learn every time you leave.