What are the rules for attending the party?

Banquet is a popular form of advanced etiquette in international and domestic social communication. Generally speaking, banquet is a banquet hosted by government agencies and social organizations with a certain scale; Smaller private parties are called banquets.

Banquets are usually used to celebrate festivals, anniversaries, express congratulations, welcome distinguished guests and other matters. Banquet scenes are generally large and grand, which can make people get a courtesy satisfaction. Different banquets have different functions. Generally speaking, banquets can express friendly feelings such as congratulations, thanks, welcome and farewell. Through banquets, we can coordinate relations, connect feelings, eliminate barriers, enhance friendship, strengthen unity, gain support and promote cooperation.

There are many kinds of banquets.

According to specifications: there are state banquets, formal banquets, informal banquets and family banquets;

According to the types of meals, there are Chinese banquets, Western banquets and Chinese-Western banquets.

According to use: welcome banquet, thank-you banquet, National Day banquet, farewell banquet, reception banquet;

By time: breakfast, lunch, dinner;

Others, such as cocktail parties, buffet parties and tea parties, can all be classified as banquets.

Banquet preparation etiquette

Banquet plays an important role in etiquette and has strict etiquette requirements. Banqueting guests is a high-standard courtesy, so the organizer or host must make all kinds of preparations carefully and thoughtfully.

(a) a clear goal, purpose and form

1. object. First of all, we must clarify the object of the banquet. Identity, nationality, customs, hobbies, etc. Host and guest, so as to determine the specifications, host and guest, dining style, etc. Banquet.

2. purpose. The purpose of the banquet is varied. It can be welcome, farewell, thanks, celebration, commemoration, an event, someone, etc. With a clear purpose, it is easy to arrange the scope and form of the banquet.

3. scope. Who will attend the banquet and how many people to invite should be made clear in advance. The identity of host and guest should be equal. If both the host and the guest bring their wives, the host should generally invite them in the name of husband and wife. We should also seriously consider who will accompany us.

People attending the banquet should also make a list, indicating their positions and titles.

4. Form. Banquet forms should be determined according to specifications, objects and purposes, and can be determined as formal banquets, cold meals, cocktail parties, tea parties and other forms. At present, the protocol work in all countries in the world is being reformed and gradually simplified.

(2) Choose the time and place

The host's decision on the banquet time should be considered acceptable to both the host and the guests. Generally, major festivals, holidays or taboo days are not selected. Choose the date of the banquet, negotiate with the host and guests, and then send an invitation.

The choice of location should also be considered according to the specification. High-standard arrangements are in the Capitol, the Great Hall of the People, or high-end hotels. General specifications are arranged in suitable hotels according to the situation.

(3) Invitation

Banquets are usually formally invited by invitations. On the one hand, it is out of courtesy, on the other hand, it is also a reminder to the guests.

The contents of the invitation should include: subject, form, time, place and host's name. The invitation should be clearly written and beautifully printed. Invitations should generally be sent two weeks in advance, and it is impolite to be too late.

(4) Arrange seats

Generally, tables and seats should be arranged in advance for banquets, so that people attending the banquets can take their places and sit in an orderly manner. The seating arrangement also shows respect for the guests.

The position of the table depends on the distance from the main table. Based on the master's desk, the right side is high, the left side is low, and the near height is far low.

The level of seats, consider the following points:

1. Centered on the host's seat. If the hostess participates in overtime work, it will be subject to the male and female hostess, from near high to far low, from top right to bottom left, in turn.

2. Arrange the guest of honor in the most distinguished position. That is, the host's right hand position, and the guest of honor is arranged in the hostess's right hand position.

3. The host's accompanying guests should communicate with the guests as much as possible to facilitate conversation and exchange, and avoid sitting together and snubbing the guests.

The translator is arranged on the right of the guest of honor.

5. After the seat is determined, the seat card and the table card are placed in front of and in the middle of the table.

(five) to draw up the menu and drinks.

When making a menu and using wine, the following points should be considered:

1. Specification, identity and banquet scope.

2. Delicate and delicious, pleasing to the eye, with outstanding features.

3. Respect guests' eating habits and taboos.

4. Pay attention to hot and cold, sweet and salty, color and fragrance.

The host's manners at the banquet.

(1) Welcome guests. Before the banquet begins, the host should stand at the door of the hall to greet the guests. For high-standard VIPs, it is also necessary to organize relevant responsible persons to queue up at the door to welcome them, which is also commonly known as the welcome line. When the guests arrive, the host should take the initiative to shake hands and say hello.

(2) Form guide. The host asked the guests to take the right hand position, walk to the lounge or go directly to the banquet hall. The service staff in the lounge helped the guests to take off their coats and take over their hats. The guests sat down and brought drinks.

The host accompanies the guest of honor into the main table of the banquet hall, and the receptionist guides other guests to their seats, and the banquet can begin.

(3) Making speeches and toasts. Formal banquets usually have words and toasts. But the time is different. Our habit is to speak, toast and answer before the banquet. When making a speech, the audience should stop all activities, listen to the speech, respond to the speaker's toast and clink glasses in the middle of the table. At this time, the banquet officially began.

In western countries, people are used to making speeches and toasts after hot dishes and before sweets, but speeches at cold meals and receptions are more flexible.

(4) Service sequence. Service personnel should start with the female guest of honor, if there is no female guest of honor, start with the male guest of honor, then the hostess or the male host, and so on clockwise. For those with high specifications, there will be two waiters to serve them, one in sequence and the other from the second guest of honor on the right side of the second host to the previous guest of honor.

(5) pour the wine. Pour wine on the guest's right and serve food on the guest's left. Only pour two-thirds glasses of wine.

(6) When dining, the host should try his best to make the banquet atmosphere harmonious, lively and interesting. Find a topic to talk about from time to time. Pay attention to the preferences of the host and guests when eating, and master the speed of eating.

(7) When the guest leaves after eating the meal and fruit, the host should send him a warm farewell and thank him for coming.

Etiquette of eating.

Whether the banquet is successful or not, the host is in a dominant position, and the host should arrange everything according to the needs, habits and interests of the guests. And the close cooperation of the guests invited to dinner can never be ignored.

(1) invitation. After receiving the invitation, whether you can keep the appointment or not, you should reply as soon as possible. If you can't be invited, you should politely refuse. The person who accepts the invitation should not change at will, but attend on time. If there is an accident and you can't go, you should explain it in advance and apologize. As the guest of honor, if you can't keep your promise, you should be more serious and even explain and apologize at home.

(2) Grasp the arrival time. Don't be late for dinner. It is very impolite to be late, but don't leave too early. Going early, the host is not ready, and it is inevitable that it is embarrassing and inappropriate.

(3) Arrive. When the host greets and shakes hands, he should respond in time, say hello and pay tribute.

(4) send flowers. According to local customs, flowers or baskets can be sent.

(5) sit down. Sit down under the guidance of the service staff. Pay attention to your seat card and don't sit in the wrong position.

(6) posture. Sitting posture is naturally correct. Don't be too stiff and don't lean back in the chair. Don't put your elbows on the dining table, don't hold your chin, and don't stare at the food.

(7) napkins. When the host picks up the napkin, he can also pick up the napkin himself. Open it on your leg. Never hang it on your chest instead of your neckline.

Napkins are used to prevent vegetable soup from dripping on your body and to wipe your mouth. They shouldn't be used to clean dishes, let alone their necks and faces.

(8) catering. Be civilized and calm when eating. Chew slowly with your mouth closed, don't make any noise, sip the soup gently, and don't blow hot dishes and soup with your mouth. Spit bones and fishbones on chopsticks and forks, and then put them in the bone plate. Don't talk with food in your mouth. Cover your teeth with your hands. When eating, don't unbutton your buttons or loosen your tie.

(9) speak. Talking at dinner is an important form of banquet. You should take the initiative to talk to the people at the same table, pay special attention to the people on the host's side, and don't always talk to people you are familiar with.

The topic should be relaxed, elegant and interesting, and don't involve sensitive and unpleasant issues of the other party. Don't comment on banquets and dinners.

(10) exit. After eating, you should stand up and thank your host, and then leave.