Is this the right attitude among friends?

1. Get attention by laughing at you

Appropriate jokes between friends can enhance the intimacy between each other, but once the joke is over, it is ridicule. A true friend will always avoid your pain points and remain respectful despite the jokes.

But some people will always expose the past that you don’t want to show to others to gain the attention of people around you. This is actually beyond the scope of joking. This is an important sign that they look down on you from the bottom of their hearts, that is, they fundamentally ignore your emotional experience. You do not gain their recognition. You are not their friend, but more like someone they can talk about casually.

Many people feel unhappy after experiencing similar incidents, but they still force a smile and think it is just a joke between friends, but this is exactly how they take advantage of your psychology. We often say that people are kind. We need to be a bit sharp. When someone makes us the butt of a joke, what we have to do is not pretend to be restrained, but learn to fight back in a timely manner so that others can stop.

2. Habitual neglect

Interactions between friends are often intimate. This intimacy is not reflected in daily gatherings, but more like status in the heart. But if a person habitually ignores you every time we get together and avoids too much communication with you, this is also a sign of not paying enough attention to you.

Psychology believes that in interpersonal relationships, we always care about what others think of us. When we cherish a friendship, we will consider what kind of experience our actions will have on our friends.

And this kind of habitual neglect of you means that he never considers your feelings and only focuses on himself. This kind of neglect often also means alienation. They want to stay away from you because they look down on you at all and think that you don't have the capital to get along with them.

3. No one has the same language

True friends can always find the same topics to discuss. This stems from the communication intention between the two people, that is, the two people have the same language. The same willingness to communicate prompted the formation of the topic. Psychological research has found that people tend to pay more attention to the people they come into contact with rather than the topics in interpersonal relationships.

So, for those who look down on you, even if you have roughly the same work and study experience and have countless points of intersection, they will still deliberately alienate you, and this alienation will have a certain degree of Covering up creates a superficial "different topic", but fundamentally it is a kind of alienation caused by disgust towards you.

To sum up, we can identify fake friends in life through these clues. If a friend around you has similar behavior towards you, it is recommended not to continue to get along with him.