What should I do if I am not in my hometown all the year round and my family's human feelings are not around?

A few days ago, Grandpa Liu died in the village. I helped my father to attend the ceremony and bought good cigarettes and wine to honor my uncle. As a result, when I gave the gift to my uncle, their behavior made me particularly embarrassed.

My grandpa and grandpa Liu are sworn brothers. Grandpa used to take us to visit Grandpa Liu when he was alive. His family lives in the east of the village and mine lives in the west of the village. The relationship between the two families has been good.

Grandpa Liu has only two sons, who are several years older than my father. On weekdays, I always call them uncle.

Since grandpa died, my dad has been working outside all the year round, rarely going home, and our relationship with grandpa Liu's family has gradually alienated, but my dad attaches great importance to feelings. He thinks that Grandpa Liu is my grandfather's brother, and as the descendants of Grandpa, we have the obligation to visit Grandpa Liu. So on holidays, I will visit Grandpa Liu's house for my dad and send some gifts to show our affection.

On the afternoon of June 2 this year, Grandpa Liu passed away. My father, who is thousands of miles away, called me and said, "Doudou, your grandpa Liu has left." Please go back to my hometown to attend my funeral and buy some cigarettes and wine for your uncle Bo Er. "

I asked doubtfully, "What grade is appropriate to buy?"

Dad smiled and said, "Just buy it at your discretion. Our two families have a good relationship and the grade is too low to get. "

I immediately understood my father's idea that I bought it! Have face.

But I was visiting my ex-boyfriend's parents in the countryside, 70 kilometers away from the city. If there is too much delay on the way back to the city, I plan to buy some cigarettes and alcohol in the village shop. At that time, I thought, there should be similar cigarettes and bars in the store?

As it turns out, there are no high-grade cigarettes and alcohol in the shops in the village, so I said to the proprietress, "Hello, bring me four boxes of cigarettes and two boxes of wine."

The proprietress smiled and asked, "Girl, what kind of cigarettes and alcohol do you want? We have many kinds here. Don't tell me, I don't know what price you want? "

Embarrassed, I asked in a low voice, "What kind of alcohol and tobacco do you have here? Give me the best! "

The proprietress is happier. She immediately squatted in the cupboard and dug out some cigarettes. I looked at them. One is China, the other is Wang Furong, and the other two are Yuxi and Nanjing cigarettes.

The proprietress wiped the dust on the cigarette case and said to me, "Girl, how about these?" They are all high-grade cigarettes. "

I don't know the value of the money. When she said it was high-end, I wanted it all. Then I asked her, "Bring me two more cases of white wine. Very good. "

The proprietress pointed to a bottle of wine on the wine cabinet and said, "Is this ok? A box of 388. "

I asked doubtfully, "Is there anything more expensive?"

The proprietress smiled and said, "Little girl, we are in the countryside. Who has nothing to drink such a good wine? " ! This wine is already the most expensive in my shop. If you are visiting relatives, this price of wine is enough to make your face look good. "

I had no choice but to agree: "OK, that's it!" How much do you calculate? I'll transfer it to you. "

The proprietress took out her calculator and calculated it clandestinely: "The total is *** 1896 yuan. I think you look familiar. Just give me 1890. "

After paying the money, I asked the proprietress to help me put the cigarettes and wine in the trunk of the car. To tell the truth, I didn't expect such a small mistake to bring me so much trouble.

Is it because I don't do things properly, or because my uncle has too many things to do? You keep looking down.

When I drove to Grandpa Liu's house, the roadside was full of cars, all of which were relatives and friends attending Grandpa Liu's funeral. I parked the car and found the person in charge. After identifying himself, he gave me a number: "When your name is called in the future, you can go to the funeral shed to mourn, but you are a woman, just bow."

I feel relieved. If I really want to mourn, I really won't.

After waiting for almost ten minutes, the person in charge called my name. I immediately went to Peng Ling and bowed three times to express my condolences to Grandpa Liu.

My uncle and Bo Er came out of the mourning hall as dutiful sons to thank me. I quickly helped them get up: "Uncle Bo Er, my father can't go abroad. I came to grandpa Liu's funeral instead of him. I hope you don't mind. "

Uncle and Bo Er nodded and said, "Doug, it's very thoughtful of you. Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to attend the funeral. "

There were many people that day, and I didn't delay. I made a few brief remarks and went to wait outside the hospital. At half past eleven, the funeral procession left and I followed it to the cemetery. After I came back, the busy people in the village had already opened a banquet.

I took this opportunity to find my second uncle and my second uncle, took the cigarettes and alcohol out of the car and gave them, and said, "My dad can't come back for the time being. He said he would come back to get together with you when he came back. "

They were so happy that they took my hand and said, "Big niece, that's very kind of you. Just come alone. What gift do you bring? "

I smiled and said, "Yes, yes."

My uncle and Bo Er asked the children to bring the presents into the house, insisted that I stay for dinner, and said that they would treat me to a big meal in the evening to show their gratitude.

I was about to refuse when an accident happened. A child came out and pointed at me and said, "What's wrong with you? How to give us gifts is divided into high and low. Why give it to my uncle's house and mine? Do you look down on my dad? "

I know the boy who is talking. He is a child of Bo Er's family, and he speaks no big or small.

I didn't have general knowledge with him, so I explained, "You misunderstood. There was only one good cigarette in the shop, so I took a few more ones that were slightly worse. I never looked down on you."

The child stubbornly said, "I heard you talking nonsense here!" " You just look down on us. All the same. How can you look at people with colored glasses? "

Our quarrel attracted people outside the hospital, most of whom didn't care much about it. Even if several people tried to persuade them, they were drowned out by their voices: "What do you think of this Xiong Haizi? People are kind enough to give you gifts. Why don't you know what's good for you? Just give you some gifts. How can beggars have too many dishes? "

That's not bad, but it annoys the Bo Er children even more. He threw the gift out of the room: "we don't want it, who are you disgusting here!" "

Uncle wanted to say something, but Bo Er said beside him, "Here you are! Children like you and buy you good things. "

Uncle returned to the house awkwardly, moved out the cigarettes and alcohol, and said to me, "I appreciate your kindness and don't want the gift."

I was so embarrassed that I never thought my kindness would turn into a bad thing.

I had to go forward and apologize: "Uncle, I'm sorry, it was my thoughtlessness. I'll go to the county to buy you a good cigarette later. If you don't remember the villain, just think I'm not sensible, okay? "

As soon as I spoke, the onlookers said, "You little girl are not authentic. It's unfair that you give the second child three cigarettes and the eldest child two cigarettes! "

I can't wait to scold them after listening. Watching the excitement is not too big. What have I done to offend them? It's too personal.

Uncle's face changed again and again. At this critical moment, Grandma Liu came out of the room. Pale, she pointed to her uncle and Bo Er and said, "Are you two still sensible? Somebody else's peas kindly gave you a gift. Hello, you still make irresponsible remarks. It's really getting back. "

This time, it's uncle and uncle's turn to be embarrassed. They don't stand or walk. At this time, the kind neighbor came out and advised: "Come on, stop arguing, just kidding."

"The first and second armies, you still don't apologize to the little girl. You are such an adult, and you still care about the little girl. It's not a shame to lose it! "

Note: The Second Army is the name of Uncle Bo Er.

Uncle and Bo Er's anger subsided, and the children in Bo Er took a breath in their stomachs and said to their neighbors, "What's wrong with you here? Go away, I'm tired of seeing you. "

This angered the neighbors, accused him of ignorance and kindly helped them with housework, but also criticized them.

It got worse in the end. I was scared silly. I didn't expect to send a gift with kindness, make such a big noise and drive away.

I told my father about it on my way back. He was silent for a while and said softly, "Doudou, you are wronged because your father is thoughtless."

I didn't say anything, anyway, the gift money followed and the gift was sent, so let them think what to do!

I don't seem to be at home. What if my family doesn't follow me?

I want to ask if you have any relatives in your hometown.

Without relatives, the human feelings at home are fearless. If you don't use them, they won't curry favor with you, so why bother?

If you have relatives in your family, this favor must be followed.

In rural areas, people attach great importance to human relations, and weddings and funerals must be accompanied by gifts. No matter how much the gifts are, it is mainly because someone will take the initiative to help and will not ask for help everywhere.

If you are close to home, this favor should also follow. Not only need money, but also people should come. In rural areas, you are very concerned about this, which can better cultivate neighborhood relations.

As the saying goes, a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and a family's human feelings can be followed. If it's really inconvenient, don't worry too much.