What are some behaviors that seem silly but are actually smart?

My high school male classmate Fan Jianbin was married to a second wife, and he also had a child and his ex-mother-in-law. At that time, many people laughed at him for being stupid, thinking that he was a young man whose parents were both divorced. A cadre with a good family background, why would he marry a divorced woman who is 6 years older than him? His father felt so embarrassed that he did not even attend his wedding, and even wanted to sever the father-son relationship with him. But he and his wife lived a prosperous life and became the big winners in life in the eyes of our classmates

Fan Jianbin was my high school classmate. In the 1990s, his family's conditions were among the worst among our classmates. Well, he is the youngest son in the family. He has four sisters. His parents are cadres who went south.

Fan Jianbin’s four sisters are all married well, and his four brothers-in-law are police officers, government officials, university teachers, and road administration workers. He is the youngest brother in the family. Except for his father who has served as a soldier, he is managed in a military way and everyone else in the family dotes on him.

Fan Jianbin is not tall, but he is good at basketball. Under his leadership, our class ranked first in all competitions in the 3rd year of high school. When he plays, many girls in our school go to watch the game.

Fan Jianbin’s academic performance was average. In the early 1990s, universities had not yet expanded enrollment, so it was still difficult to get into college. In the first semester of his senior year of high school, Fan Jianbin was sent to serve in the army by his father.

Fan Jianbin was with Cheng Ya, a female classmate in our class. Fan Jianbin went to serve as a soldier, and the two of them kept exchanging letters. Cheng Ya didn't go to college and went to work as a salesperson in a shopping mall. She worked there for a while, but she quit out of anger because of a dispute with the store manager.

At that time, Fan Jianbin happened to go home to visit relatives. He was also very worried when he saw that his girlfriend was unhappy because she lost her job. He learned from his third brother-in-law that the road administration was recruiting toll collectors. He had never bothered his brother-in-law with his own affairs. For Cheng Ya's job, Fan Jianbin found his second brother-in-law.

He asked his second brother-in-law to find a job for Cheng Ya. Although he was naughty at times, he was also a person who knew what was right. Fan Jianbin's sister and brother-in-law usually loved Fan Jianbin. The second brother-in-law thought that it was rare for his brother-in-law to open his mouth and he was recruiting people anyway, so he helped Fan Jianbin.

The army leader is very optimistic about him, and the leader of his regiment is still his father's former soldier. He hopes that Fan Jianbin can make achievements in the army. But Fan Jianbin wanted to retire from the army because Cheng Ya was waiting for him. They had been apart for five years.

;If you were with me, you would be laughed at by others. And I still have debts outside. My ex-husband is gone, but the debts he owed outside have to be repaid.

After the two got together, some people said some unpleasant things when they saw Fan Jianbin and Feng Yue, who was older than them and had been divorced, together.

Some said: "Maybe that woman is rich, don't think about setting up a stall and do some small business." The income is pretty good.

Some said: "Is Fan Jianbin in bad health? Why did he choose a woman who was older than him and had been divorced? Was he stimulated by his ex-girlfriend?

Yes Said: "Perhaps Fan Jianbin has an Oedipus complex, otherwise why would he look for a woman older than him? He himself is good-looking, and the woman is average-looking. In a few years, she may look like his mother!< /p>

In short, there were all kinds of words, but not many good ones. Even many of our classmates couldn't understand Fan Jianbin. It was 2000, and sibling relationships were not as accepted as they are now.

Fan Jianbin's father knew that he was going to marry a woman who was older than him and had been divorced. He was very angry. The retired veteran cadre said to his youngest son: "If you marry that woman, I will marry you." You sever the relationship between father and son. I don’t want others to say that my son found an old woman and got rich.

The second year after Fan Jianbin and Feng Yue got married, Feng Yue opened a small restaurant. Because of Feng Yue's good craftsmanship and low prices, the business became more and more prosperous, and the profits naturally became better and better.

After Feng Yue became pregnant, she became a key protected person in their family. Her mother-in-law no longer took care of her father-in-law. No matter that Feng Yue ran a restaurant with good business, her ex-mother-in-law also took care of her at home.

We must stay at Fan Jianbin’s house to take care of Feng Yue’s food and ask Feng Yue not to go to the restaurant to cook. The child has not been born yet, and the four sisters-in-law bought countless children’s clothes.

Fan Jianbin and Feng Yue are together. If Fan Jianbin occasionally loses his temper with Feng Yue and plays tricks, Fan Jianbin's mother and sisters will scold him. Fan Jianbin doesn't know what his last name should be.

;Don’t you know that your wife has such a hard time getting pregnant? It’s really inappropriate to be angry with your wife. Fan Jianbin’s mother is a very well-educated person, and sometimes she spits out fragrance in order to help Feng Yue.

Because they were twins, Feng Yue started the pregnancy early before the due date. Seeing Feng Yue's pain, Fan Jianbin felt distressed. Feng Yue himself didn't say anything.

Fan Jianbin said directly: "It hurts so much, we won't give birth, we won't give birth." It made Fan Jianbin's mother want to beat her son violently.

Although Feng Yue was an advanced maternal age, she was very brave and did not ask for a caesarean section despite the severe pain, because Feng Yue felt that children born by natural birth are smarter than children born by caesarean section.

Feng Yueshun gave birth to a pair of twins, which made Fan Jianbin's family extremely happy. The happiest thing was Fan Jianbin's father, who was in his 70s. Seeing his grandchildren, they seemed to be much healthier. He didn't dislike Feng Yue anymore, and said directly: "Feng Yue is a great contributor to our Fan family. Xiao Bin, you must treat Feng Yue well. If you treat Feng Yue badly, I will break your dog legs."

Everything is going well with their family, and their family is getting better and better. At that time, they laughed at Fan Jianbin for being stupid. They only saw that their house was getting bigger and bigger, and they were making more and more money. Fan Jianbin also treated his wife as he had been for 20 years. good.

Fan Jianbin’s eldest daughter was admitted to Peking University. After graduation, she was recommended by the school to study in Germany. After graduation, she worked in a large state-owned enterprise. She was very filial to Fan Jianbin, and the first person she notified when she had a boyfriend was her father.

In 2021, the twins will also be admitted to key universities. Fan Jianbin’s father is over 90 years old, in good health and clear-headed. Fan Jianbin and Feng Yue live with their parents and are very filial. Father Fan said that he can live to be 100 years old because his daughter, son-in-law, son-in-law, son-in-law, grandson and granddaughter are all filial!

At the 20th anniversary gathering of our high school classmates in 2012, I found out that Cheng Ya was divorced and she married a male colleague. It was only later that I found out that my male colleague was capable of domestic violence and even cheated on me.

She endured it for the sake of her son, not wanting him to lose his father, but her husband did not stop because of her tolerance, but intensified his behavior. Later, she got into an affair with a married woman at work, and was caught and beaten by her husband. She also reported her to the work unit, and her husband was fired from the work unit.

After she was fired, her husband took it out on her and continued to violently abuse her. He also said that she was stealing from others and that she was a habitual offender. She was frightened by the beating and filed for divorce in court. In the end, she got divorced only after she left home.

That day she looked at the high-spirited Fan Jianbin and said to me: "If I had not betrayed him at that time and been with him, I should be as happy as his wife."

I didn’t say anything, just smiled! Who knows?

Written at the end:

When Fan Jianbin married Feng Yue, almost everyone said He is stupid. He has a good family background and good personal conditions. Why would he marry someone who is six years older than him, divorced, and has children and his ex-mother-in-law?

But Fan Jianbin took a fancy to Feng Yue's character. He was kind to his ex-mother-in-law, and his character was definitely not bad. It is precisely because Feng Yue is kind and honest, and has a good wife and husband who avoids disasters that their lives will get better and better. She herself was recognized by Fan Jianbin's father.

Is Fan Jianbin stupid? Fan Jianbin is definitely not stupid. He knows what is the most important thing about living together? That’s why their family’s life will get better and better, and they will live a life that is envied by our classmates.