What you need to know about the mixed workplace! First learn to control your mouth!

There is a little story: Once, the Berlin Air Force Club of the Democratic Republic of Germany held a banquet to entertain air combat heroes. A young soldier accidentally poured wine on General Udet's bald head. Suddenly, the soldiers were horrified and the whole place was silent. But the general was leisurely. He gently touched the soldier's shoulder and said, "Brother, do you think this treatment is useful?" As soon as he finished speaking, the audience burst into loud laughter, and people's tense heartstrings relaxed. This is the charm of personality. Only when a ruler has a broad mind can he win over the people of the world. For a person who governs others, humility is an important style. "A gentleman's virtue is like the wind." Tolerance and magnanimity will surely inspire subordinates and win people's hearts. Say what needs to be said

1. Not reporting good things to others

When the unit distributes items, receives bonuses, etc., you know about it first, or you have already received it, but you remain silent. He just sat there, as if nothing was wrong, and never informed everyone that there were some things that could be collected on his behalf, and he never helped others to receive them. After doing this a few times, your colleagues will naturally think that you are too unsociable. If something happens in the future, colleagues will not be able to notify you. If this continues, the relationship between them will not be harmonious.

2. Pretending not to know even though you know clearly

It often happens that colleagues encounter problems and ask each other for advice. If a colleague asks you for advice, it shows that he values ??your ability in this area and will respect your opinion. At this time, if you clearly know the solution but are unwilling to make suggestions for your colleagues and pretend that you don't know, it will create serious barriers to your interpersonal relationships. In the future, if colleagues still have something to do, they will not ask you for help because everyone knows that you will not help. On the other hand, if you have any problems and need support from your colleagues, it may not go well.

3. Do not tell each other when you come in or out

If you have something to do, you have to go out for a while, or you have to take leave from work. Although it is the leader who approves the leave, it is your best Talk to your colleagues in the office. Even if you go out temporarily for half an hour, say hello to your colleagues. In this way, if the boss or an acquaintance comes to see you, your colleagues can be informed. If you don't want to say anything and are mysterious when you come in and out, if there happens to be something important, others won't be able to say anything, and sometimes you won't be too lazy to say it. I'm afraid you will be the one who is affected. Informing each other is not only a need for colleagues to work together, but also a need for emotional connection. It shows the mutual respect and trust that both parties have.

4. Not talking about private things that can be discussed

There are some private things that cannot be discussed, but there is no harm in talking about some private things. For example, your boyfriend or girlfriend’s workplace, education, age, personality and temperament, etc.; if you are married and have children, there will be topics about your lover and children. After work, you can chat by the way, which can enhance understanding and deepen feelings.

5. Refusing to ask colleagues for help when something happens

It is right not to ask for help easily. Because asking for help always brings trouble to others. But everything is dialectical. Sometimes asking for help from others can show your trust in others, harmonize relationships and deepen feelings. If you don't want to beg others, they will be embarrassed to beg you; if you are afraid of others' trouble, they will think that you are also afraid of trouble. Good interpersonal relationships are based on helping each other.

6. Like to take advantage of others

When dealing with colleagues, some people always want to take advantage of others. Some people like to tell other people's jokes and take advantage of others. Even if it is a joke, they will never end up with themselves suffering a loss; some people like to argue, arguing if there is a reason, and fighting for three points if there is no reason...etc. Destroying co-worker relationships.

Don’t say what you shouldn’t say

1. Talk to expose other people’s “shortcomings”

Ms. Zhang works as an office clerk in a state agency. She is introverted. , not very talkative. But whenever she is asked for her opinion on something, her words are always very "prickly" and her words always expose other people's "shortcomings".

One time, a colleague in his department wore a new dress, and others praised her as "beautiful" and "suitable". But when people asked Ms. Zhang how she felt, Zhang Ting directly replied: "You are too fat and it doesn't fit." .” He even said, “The color is a little too bright for you.”

As soon as this was said, the person involved was very angry, and the people around him also praised the clothes. Awkward. Because part of what she said was true. For example, the colleague was relatively bloated. Although sometimes Ms. Zhang regrets what she says that is not liked by people, there are many times when she still says things that are very unacceptable. Over time, her colleagues excluded her from the group and rarely asked her opinion on something. Despite this, if by chance she needed to hear her opinion, she still couldn't control herself and would say the things that others least liked to hear. Now almost no one in the company takes the initiative to talk to her because her mouth is too bad!

2. Complain that the boss is constantly making things difficult for her.

Ms. Sun is currently working as a senior programmer at a computer company in Zhongguancun. The main reason why she left her previous company was because she complained about her boss in front of her colleagues. After it reached the ears of her boss, her boss excluded her at every turn, forcing her to resign and leave. Once, the boss gave Ms. Sun a very difficult task and told her in advance, "This task is very difficult. Do you dare to take it on and accept the challenge?" Although she knew her own strength, she felt that among everyone in the company, her boss took the initiative to ask her for advice, which showed that the boss valued her, so Miss Sun accepted it with gritted teeth. As a result, due to the short deadline, she was unable to complete the task on time. As a result, Ms. Sun was criticized, warned and fined by her boss.

In the workplace, being fined is the most embarrassing thing. Ms. Sun believes that since the task is so arduous, it is expected that she will not be able to complete it. I worked so hard at that time, and it shouldn't be considered a work mistake if I didn't finish it. The boss is really too much. In such a short period of time, he asked *** to do such a difficult job. I said I couldn't do it, but he insisted on letting me do it and punished me if I didn't finish it. She always complained in front of her colleagues afterwards. Soon, the boss gave her a new task. Fortunately, this time Miss Sun completed it smoothly. Just when she was happy, her boss gave him a more difficult task. He also said, "I am the boss here, and my subordinates must obey and are not allowed to complain. I don't support people who live for free. Leave if you can't adapt. If you can't complete the task again this time, you have to consider whether you should find another job within your ability." Work." The boss was anxious and wanted to force Miss Sun to leave! Keep your mouth and palms under control

1. Use your brain when speaking, be sensitive to things, and be careful with your words. Talking too much is useless. Many things are accomplished with words, and failure is also done with words. You must always keep the door closed, otherwise it will bring you a lot of trouble. When speaking, don't just talk happily and freely, thinking that when someone smiles at you, you appreciate it, and endlessly say things that hurt your heart. As a result, people will completely find out your family background. I still have to laugh at you secretly.

2. Don’t jump to conclusions when something happens. Even if you have the answer, you have to wait. Maybe there is a better solution. There are different answers from different perspectives. You must learn to think from other people's perspective. Especially when you encounter trouble, you must learn to wait. Take a look and watch. In many cases, not only are the troubles resolved, but good luck may also come.

3. Learn to reduce big things into small things. Try to deal with complex things as simply as possible, and never complicate simple things. Mastering work efficiency is a science, and controlling the rhythm is very important.

4. There is no love without reason in this world, and there is no hatred without reason. Don't comment on anyone, just be aware of it. The reason why the so-called final conclusion is very simple is that some people acted too hastily. No one has a theoretical basis to define good guys and bad guys. To put it bluntly, it is a matter of interest. *** Sanqi opened ***, which shows that great men are not perfect.

5. You must abide by the rules of the game in everything you do. Thieves also know that some things must not be stolen. Therefore, when doing things, you must never do anything, and you must never do things that add insult to injury. Giving others a way out is equivalent to clearing obstacles for yourself.

6. For those who often trouble you or even bully you, tolerate it if you can. There is no need to be in trouble with the reckless person all the time, but you must be aware of it and save it for him. When grievances accumulate, justice and truth will belong to you. You must seize the opportunity and teach him a lesson. Within the authority granted by the law, beat him to death so that he will always remember: No one will tolerate your bad habits except your own father.

7. Some people are used to taking advantage of you. The villain is small-minded and the adult is generous. If you have the opportunity, you will trick them and make them bleed. Let him also remember: There is no free lunch in the world, and there is no free bargain for you to make.

8. It is easy to hide from open guns, but difficult to guard against hidden arrows. The villain who plots against you will never disappear. This is a Chinese characteristic. Villains cannot be offended, and villains cannot be forgiven. This is an eternal truth. Be patient with villains and take a step back to open up the world. Provoking a villain is equivalent to getting into trouble, and most villains in the world cannot afford to offend someone. After all, villains also have a small-minded side, and you must be steady and ruthless when dealing with such people. You can pretend that nothing happened, the world is peaceful, and everything is fine. Then you can build a plank road in the open, secretly cross Chencang, and fight poison with poison, and let him know: Villain Not everyone can do it. It takes a certain standard to be a good person, but it is equally difficult to be a villain. However, throughout the ages, there have been villains in every dynasty. There is really no good way to deal with villains. Is it possible to keep a distance from them?

9. Money, only the part you spend is your wealth. You have a rich family and you were reluctant to eat or wear clothes when you were alive. Once you close your eyes, do you know who spent the remaining money? Unjust or not? As the sketch said, the most painful thing in the world is when someone dies and the money is not spent. (It’s more painful than living without money. As long as you live, you can still make money after your money is gone.) There are also those corrupt officials who live frugally. Good high-ranking officials don’t work hard, but they end up falling into poverty due to corruption, without spending a penny. On top of that, all personal property will be confiscated, and your reputation will be ruined. Isn’t it miserable?

10. Treat those who love you with respect. I love you for a reason, don't ask why, accept it and repay it with double love. But never deceive other people's feelings, even if you are not interested in them, even if they have shortcomings, this is wealth that you cannot buy with money. Remember: despising the emotions given by others is equivalent to despising yourself for playing with things and losing moral integrity. Love is a virtue.

11. People who praise you behind your back know that they should keep it in their hearts. There is little water in it. Praising you in person is called flattery, which is worse to say flattery. You can just laugh it off and pretend nothing happened. Maybe I'll ask you for help soon. Don't ignore those who praise you in public. Maybe if you turn around, they will poke you with their fingers. Master one principle: when others criticize you more and praise others less, you should judge the superior ones first.

12. Don’t be too greedy in everything you do. If you accumulate too many small favors, there will be a big hole. As long as you accept it, you must look for opportunities to repay. Walk in the spring breeze and look forward to the summer rain. You pay in order to gain. In fact, it is a simple relationship between seeds and fruits. Don't let naivety get you wrong. Remember: life is like a play, and we are all looking for a balance of interests. Only a balanced game can continue to be played. The minefield of speaking

Generally speaking, the longer I remain silent, the faster others will speak. As soon as they speak, I can understand their true intentions... If the boss does not remain mysterious, the subordinates will take advantage of the opportunity. . Under certain conditions, the disaster caused by saying a wrong thing is ten times more serious than doing a wrong thing.

1. Telling your colleagues in the workplace about your privacy is the stupidest thing in the world. Colleagues are colleagues, not close friends. Colleagues have no obligation or responsibility to share your worries with you. Maybe you have expressed your worries in a miserable way, and while he is busy nodding, he is laughing at you in his heart. .

2. People who show off themselves have three original intentions:

One is to increase their “return rate”.

They know that their talents are limited, but they are worried that their colleagues around them will forget their existence and that they will not be recognized by their leaders for doing something. Therefore, they do not think about how to work harder with a practical spirit, but just talk about it. Without skills, they exaggerate to brag about their knowledge, abilities, connections, achievements, ideas, etc. in front of colleagues. These are not included in the minefield of "taboos". The real minefield of "taboos" is to promote one's "glorious journey" in the original unit, such as "I operated more smoothly in the original company", such as " "I didn't get paid for taking sick leave before" and so on. Although these may be true, showing off like this in the office will have an immeasurable negative impact on others. Moreover, you will also make an unforgivable "mouth" "Taboo" and will never be promoted and trusted by the boss.

The second is to let colleagues in the office know how powerful he is. They take the trouble to spread gossip in the workplace, and do their best to describe the news as what they have witnessed and experienced personally. They even list themselves as the protagonists in some successful cases, saying that they want to bring happiness to their colleagues. Sharing is actually to increase your influence among colleagues.

The third is to show off oneself in a mysterious way in order to win the favor of the opposite sex. This kind of self-showing is mostly based on boasting about one's superior economic foundation, hoping to attract the envious eyes of the opposite sex. However, most of this kind of showing off is improvised. Despite this, they still pay great attention to the tact and skills of their "mouth", and they can always speak to the extreme. For example, when everyone is talking about real estate, he suddenly interjects: "Well, last year, the price of an apartment in X was 12,000 per square meter. I sneezed and missed it, and now it has been sold to 18,000." For example, everyone is talking about it. When someone was praising someone for buying a new car, he intervened and said, "A new car is better. Look at the shabby BMW I drive..." As the saying goes, the real person doesn't show his appearance, and the appearance doesn't show the real person.

3. If your leader arranges for you to do "extraordinary" work, please do not hesitate to say "that is not within the scope of my work." Team leaders are very angry with employees who have rigid ideas, poor adaptability, and no desire to make progress. You may never get ahead in the workplace because of such a sentence.

4. If you encounter difficulties, please don't hesitate to say "I don't know how to do it." If you say this without thinking, it is tantamount to refusing to do it, so you might as well walk away. There is no one who is born with "everything" in the world, and there is no one who can learn from it. Just humbly ask the people and books around you for advice. As long as you use your heart and speak less, there will always be a solution.

5. If someone asks you for help, please don’t hesitate to say “that’s none of my business”. Even if you have absolute reasons to prove that this matter really has nothing to do with you, using this tone to talk to people in any position in the workplace can only show that you are arrogant and do not take the other person seriously at all, so you are The workplace can be very isolating.

6. If everyone is talking about Leader XX, please don’t hesitate to say “Leader XX is really annoying”. Even if you have been wronged in some way, even if your leader is really annoying, even if you have no fear of retaliation from your leader, your image will be greatly affected because you complain and say weird things without any scruples. damaged.

7. Tell a snitch. In the workplace, snitches or snitches are often shunned and isolated because they make those around them feel unsafe. Safety is the most basic psychological need of people. If this need is threatened because someone snitches, then the person who "snitches" will naturally lose the trust of his colleagues.

Although snitching is not the same as "whistleblowing", in ordinary people's consciousness, speaking ill of colleagues, snitching, and snitching in front of leaders is a "self-interested" "talk". This "talking chain" often harms the interests of others and easily causes many conflicts between people. Therefore, snitching is often considered despicable. To some extent, snitching can be related to "whistleblowing" - they both use one mouth to instigate others to break out in various conflicts, while they themselves become bystanders and beneficiaries.

Once upon a time, in China, whistleblowers were often encouraged, which caused many loyal and upright people to be brutally persecuted, and became the capital and means for some people to climb up and realize their personal ambitions. This heavy shadow still affects people's interactions and their self-development. When I see this in one person after another, it makes me sad. Like this article? If you like it, please share it! Let more people see it!