In the first two years after I resigned, I sometimes went to the company bathroom to take a shower. It’s not that I want to take advantage, but there is always a feeling that I can’t let go of. Later,

In the first two years after I resigned, I sometimes went to the company bathroom to take a shower. It’s not that I want to take advantage, but there is always a feeling that I can’t let go of. Later, I rarely went there. It's not that I'm shy about meeting people, but I feel more and more like things are right and people are different. Whether you are willing to admit it or not, it is an objective fact that people feel cold after leaving. When you are here, you have power in your hands, and everyone is like a star. Whether you know you or not, everyone greets you warmly when they see you. Once you leave your original employer, whether you resign or retire, you are no longer the same person you were in the past. If you go back to your original work unit, people you know well will call you "Old Leader", and people who hate you may directly call you "Lao Wang". Some people may even choose to turn a blind eye indifferently. This gap is difficult for many people to accept.

There is another reason, that is, there is a strong sense of right and wrong. After leaving for a few years, even the department where I used to work will feel very strange after I go there. Once, I went to my original unit to do some work and took the time to visit my old office. The table is still the same as before, and the environment is still the same as before, but the people don't recognize them anymore. When I pushed the door open and walked in, the people inside asked me who I was looking for. "Children who don't recognize each other smile and ask where the guest is from." It was quite emotional. Fortunately, an old colleague came back and relieved my embarrassment.

Even if I can meet colleagues I was familiar with, although I am still as enthusiastic as ever, I feel alienated from my heart. People's enthusiasm is not about how popular and respected they are, but because they know how to speak and behave. Chatting with you for a while is already giving you face. After all, people still have to work, so how can I always chat with you? Therefore, sensible people generally do not bother others. That is not only to help others, but also to respect yourself.

People must learn to let go. No matter how high your position was in the past, the earth will still turn around without you. No matter how deep your feelings are for your original employer, you have turned the page in the past, so don’t try to go back and relive the good times. Letting go is a kind of relief, both for others and for yourself.

It has been fourteen years since I left my previous employer. Although I have never entered a building in this city, I only stayed at the door once and said hello to the security guard who was familiar with the door. After chatting for a while, we never went in again.

Not entering the building, not entering, does not mean ruthlessness and heartlessness, nor does it mean forgetfulness and no feelings for this unit. Although I have been in this unit for two years, my salary was owed every month at that time, and finally it was owed. My salary lasted for half a year. Fortunately, I could pay it off when I left.

In fact, I still have feelings for this unit. Many old employees (large state-owned enterprises) have taken great care of me, a college student from other places. I remember that once, my father was ill and the unit After learning about it, they also initiated a voluntary donation. At that time, I donated more than 2,000 yuan. In the end, I entrusted others to return it. State-owned enterprises have a strong human touch and everyone has feelings. Unlike private enterprises, the world is more cold and indifferent. Warmth and care, so, even so, why am I unwilling to go to my previous unit? The reasons are:

1. You left because you didn’t want others to think that you still want to come back. I wandered around the door of my old place, not going in, because I wanted to see what was going on in this unit. I just missed this unit and the people in it. I didn't go in, just because I didn't want others to think that you were not doing well in other units. When I come to my old workplace, I feel like I want to come back.

2. Afraid of meeting past leaders. Because resigning comes with guilt. The company, including the boss, treated me well and planned to train me vigorously. However, I left in the end because I was worried about returning to the previous company and being seen by the boss. The boss asked me this and that, but I didn’t know. How to answer.

3. If you want to leave, just leave freely and without any worries or hesitation. If I go to my old workplace, I am worried that I will want to go back after seeing all kinds of people and environment.

4. It’s embarrassing to see old colleagues.

If you have a particularly good relationship, you can go out and sit alone in private. Although I have left my previous workplace, my old colleagues with whom I have a good relationship often gather together and go to the workplace. There may be some former colleagues who are not so good or have a normal relationship. I have met them. It’s hard to answer when I ask you why you are here. Besides, it makes you feel uncomfortable when you see others acting coldly and indifferently.

5. It’s sad to see some people you don’t know. I once returned to the college student apartment where I lived before my employer. I walked around the first and third floors and found that I didn’t recognize anyone. All the people who had been allocated a share were gone. There was a whole building full of new arrivals. I don’t know any of them, it’s really sad and desolate. Including the government office building, many new people came. In the office where I worked, some young people also came. The old people were all replaced, and there was no one to talk to.

6. The tea is cool when people leave. When you go back, even if the relationship is good, you may not be able to return to the same relationship as before. After all, you have left and are not from this unit. Even if everyone greets you, it is just a courtesy greeting and a smile. You are no longer from here, and you feel excluded, isolated, and strange.

I retired from a state-owned enterprise in 1995 and had been in business for ten years. After that, I went to the activity room of the original factory to play cards almost every day. I felt that everyone was very close to me. When I was in my work unit, I was the youngest person with a full-time job, and the one who was the least willing to be an official, so I retired at the age of 45. When I was in the unit, all the cadres respected me because I was more capable than them. When I was in the workplace, the workers particularly liked me and said that I worked for their benefit. I have been in business for ten years. I have bought seven cars since 1997. I have not bought a house. I just take my old mother to visit the mountains and rivers for three to five months every year, and then go to the original factory activity room for eight or nine months. The workers are very enthusiastic. But there is a phenomenon: the original factory does not have any middle-level or above cadres. I asked why? He was scolded and ran away. I asked why you didn't scold me? The answer is, you are approachable even though you have a real job to do. I don’t think it’s strange that middle-level and above cadres still show off their power when they have no job at work. I don’t dare to scold when I’m at work, but I can scold more vigorously when I’m retired. In short, I think that as a cadre, you must get along with the workers on an equal footing, otherwise you will be looked down upon or even scolded by others after you retire and lose power.

I feel deeply about this and have been sad for a long time. I left my original employer after working there for 27 years. In addition, I lived there with my parents when I was 10 years old. I have an infinite attachment to every plant and tree there, including my childhood and colleagues.

I officially left in January last year, and I deeply realized that it is really a long time since I left! I am a generous and generous person. I used to treat my colleagues to dinner for almost no reason. I just paid for it when we got together during the weekend holidays. Maybe this has become a habit. After you leave and go back to see you, no one will think of greeting you except a small invitation. I was also puzzled and puzzled, so I asked a colleague privately: I have only worked here for 27 years. If any colleague asks me for help, I don’t do my best and am not enthusiastic about helping anyone. Whoever comes to me doesn’t matter. Nothing can be refused, unconditionally, without reason. But in the end, after I left, a few people called me to say hello, which made me so sad and depressed. My colleague replied with two words: "jealousy" and I fell silent. Sigh~ This situation will still happen, which really makes me speechless. How could they know my pain? When I came to the new unit and faced unfamiliar faces, what I often miss and miss are the so-called "jealous" people of me.

It really made me realize: this is human nature.

Everyone has different ideas. I think it’s okay. I have feelings for the units I have worked in. I should go back occasionally to see what’s wrong. Just like my alma mater, go back and see what kind of people you are. It's normal.

I was seconded to a certain unit for more than a year in 2008. After the secondment period expired, the leader of the secondment unit tried to keep me in the hope that I could be officially transferred there. I politely declined, and the leader respected my choice, so he offered me a job for us ( At that time, comrades who were seconded to several units) held a farewell party. Looking back now, it was also full of sincerity.

Occasionally, due to work, I may go near the original unit where I was seconded, so I go back to have a look if there is nothing to do (the leaders and comrades who worked together are still there, and if they were not there, they would not go), Everyone is very enthusiastic. Basically every time I go back, I go to the leader’s office to say hello and go to the brothers and sisters’ office to chat (usually they call in advance, others will not go if they are busy). Comrades in other offices will not go if they are not busy. They would also come over to chat, and the feeling was like meeting old friends. Sometimes near noon, the leader would come over and say: "I'm having dinner here at noon today. It's been a long time. I'm treating you privately!" After the meal, the leader paid the bill. , other colleagues pay the bill, and I pay the bill sometimes. Anyway, it is a casual meal of 100-200 yuan, and a private treat does not violate the regulations.

Even if we don’t go back for a long time, we still keep in touch frequently. We have contacts at work and can help each other; Congratulations to everyone who gets married. This is our Chinese etiquette.

Of course, if you were expelled or dismissed from your original employer, that’s a different matter. You might be really embarrassed to go back!

Not just some people, but almost all the people who left their original units are unwilling to go back, whether it is to do errands or to visit. Because there is a saying that goes well - tea is cool when you leave!

I have a good friend who talked to me about his feelings in this regard. It has been five years since he resigned and he has never returned to the work unit. Although there were some things that he needed to handle during the period, he I just don't want to go back. When I think about my former employer, I feel like I've eaten a fly.

Later, this friend entrusted other colleagues to help with the work of the unit. Why do you feel this way? Because in a unit, the relationship between people is very delicate. When the person is around, everyone will see each other with their heads down due to work relationships. After the person is gone and there is no colleague relationship, he becomes a stranger, and it is too easy to be forgotten.

When you gradually become estranged, all that remains is the gossip behind your back. When some of the gossip reaches the ears of people who have left the unit, they become even less willing to stir up trouble. When the favor is gone, there will be less thoughts. There are even some people who were frustrated when they were in the company, and they feel like a relief after leaving. How can they be willing to go back to the company again?

No matter what the reason is, what you leave is that you leave. What you cannot take away is indifference. What you take away may be regret.

After the person has left, the tea will be cold. If it is not cold, it would be abnormal. Things and people are different, and love is not the original intention. Things change and things move around, and they are put back into place. I miss them, but I still want to see them. He wanted to see where he had sat, and he also wanted to meet his disciples. That is, I want to meet colleagues who have deep feelings for me. I would also like to take a look at the training ground where blood and sweat have been shed. I also know that my disciple also has a disciple. The leader left, and the leader came again, with an iron-clad camp and flowing soldiers. I would also like to take a look at the trees I dug and planted myself. At that time, the small saplings had grown into big trees and were covered with greenery. I know the secret of the tree pit. There is an unbreakable stone in that pit. I know it all too well. My colleague who helps me plant trees has been riding a crane for 2 years. The old leader from those days has also passed away, sixteen years ago. Laughter and singing once reached my ears. However, it was already dusk, and I was alone and sad, with more wind and rain, and we met several times in my dreams. Life is easy to close a thousand seals, leaving face to pursue friendship.

For example, I worked at Xinyiyuan Bar for more than three years. I don’t want to go back to work. It was a broken shoe company. Last year, I hired a factory director and the landlady seemed to give me new clothes. My wife quit her job and resigned this year. Here comes another rogue factory director. He has many friends who always go to the factory to eat and drink. It seems that the factory director has a special relationship with the boss's wife. The boss has long since found a secretary and run away. Let's talk about the female secretaries. There are two female secretaries. , I have a new secretary. Her language skills and working ability are not as good as before, so she is cheap. When I go out to sell, I open a house to attract customers. If there are three fewer workshops, how many customers will I lose? It turns out that the factory director has at least three secretaries. He was the one who brought up his nephew. Others earn two or three thousand a month. He and his wife earn eight or nine thousand. His father-in-law and mother-in-law can also earn five or six thousand. The loan for the building he bought can be paid off in three years. It would be better to work elsewhere. I will never go to this crappy shoe company or this awesome company in my life. I will starve to death outside and not go back to work there...