Why do well-behaved children commit suicide?

It is good children who are prone to problems. The principle is very simple: the so-called good behavior refers to doing things that cater to the parents' wishes and not letting the parents worry. Then there are two possibilities here:

1. The child’s value orientation is indeed the same as the parent, so the parents like and are considered good by doing things;

2. The child’s value orientation Different from parents. However, she belongs to that kind of "pleasant personality", that is, in order to avoid dissatisfaction and anger of her parents, she would rather wrong herself, blindly obey and cater to her parents.

The first case is fine. If it is the second situation, then you will be in big trouble. Many parents have a misunderstanding: "What's wrong if my child listens to me?" The problem is that if your opinion is seriously inconsistent with the child's value orientation, he or she is aggrieved to avoid your anger. If things go on like this, it will lead to personality distortion and loss of self. . In this way, he no longer only caters to his parents, but when interacting with anyone, he will cater to each other in order to avoid conflicts.

However, self-interest is human nature after all and cannot be completely lost. Catering to others will go against your own nature and make yourself suffer. If you don't have the courage to resist, you will fall into deep self-blame and believe that your existence is worthless. The result is depression. If you are unable to relieve yourself, you can only use suicide to relieve the pain.

The root cause of these problems is the parents' lack of cognitive ability. First of all, parents must realize that "the values ??of my children and mine are very likely to be different. As long as it does not cause serious consequences, we must respect their values ??instead of asking them to cater to themselves blindly." Doing so, while it may be a worry now, will save you from bigger troubles later.

That is the result of parents' excessive love, which prevents them from seeing the world.

Is the child really as good as you wish? I'm afraid it's a subjective assumption based on what you see on the surface, right? The so-called obedience is essentially the anger that is suppressed. Sooner or later, it will explode one day. Look, he commits suicide and he is free. This is the price given to you, sooner or later, leaving no room for regret or redemption!

That is because the child is sick, suffers from mental illness, depression, bipolar disorder, and tends to self-harm. But the parents realized it later and did not discover it early. This has nothing to do with being good or bad. So why do you get sick? As children grow up, there are many things that they have never experienced before, such as the pressure of study, disharmony in interpersonal interactions, and the pressure caused by not being understood, which ultimately form mental trauma. When these mental traumas are superimposed to the point where the child is overwhelmed, he or she will become ill and even lead to serious consequences.

I have been suppressed since childhood. This kind of suppression is not only caused by parents, but also by relatives and friends of parents, forming a powerful circle of slobbering virgin bitches. Whenever something happens, it is not their turn to speak. As soon as they speak, they are suppressed. Even at such a young age, No ability to resist. I have had low self-esteem since I was a child, and I feel so inferior that no one can tell me about it, because I don’t want to be scolded. Chinese people are good people. Apart from being teachers for others, or gloating about others’ misfortunes, they rarely listen to what others are saying. They don’t say no. Black, once you say it's all black, it's better to hide it in your heart and not say it. The accumulation of low self-esteem and long-term depression, no matter how good the family conditions are, is just a fly on the glass. The future is bright, but there is no way out. For such children, there are only two ways to go. One is to become a monk, escape from the world, and become an ascetic. The second way to escape is to completely escape from the world. Out of sight is pure, see no one, and owe no one. . Two!

The "good" people suppressed by violence and power will one day collapse

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Think about it, if parents often If a child is required to love him only if he is good, he will think that his parents love him if he is obedient. If he is disobedient, his parents will not love him. This concept will be deeply implanted in his values ????and affect his Words and deeds. If one day he fails to meet his parents' requirements, he will feel that he is not worthy of being loved, and he will dislike or even hate himself. Some children will use self-mutilation to punish themselves, and if they do it too much, they will become addicted. Sometimes when their hatred of themselves reaches its peak, they will commit suicide to apologize.

A good child is not a good boy. He is just good at pleasing his parents and others. He hates his true self. It is not unusual for a person who hates himself to commit suicide

Because children usually behave in front of their parents. They cover up and always show their good side to them, but their negative and dark side has always been hidden in their hearts. As the level deepens, it breaks down

Big cabbage, flowers and plants in the greenhouse, listen to their parents in everything, and take care of everything. When they encounter difficulties, they are no longer young, parents. If you can't help, it will be over in the near future. If you have the guts to commit suicide, what are you afraid of? ! [Like][Rose][Light up the peace lamp]

In order to satisfy my parents, I suppress myself too much