A word of encouragement is worth a thousand words of criticism.

A word of encouragement is worth a thousand words of criticism.

Recently, a warm-hearted video from Singapore was circulated on the Internet: at dinner, my brother told his parents about his excellent academic performance: 90 points in math and 85 points in English ... My mother was still dissatisfied after listening to it and simply said, "You have to work harder!" At this time, my brother was holding a 60-point test paper under the table and was silent. My mother then turned to ask my brother's grades. The eagle-eyed brother grabbed the test paper from his brother and showed it to his mother, waiting proudly for his brother to be criticized.

When my mother saw the result and was about to get angry, she suddenly remembered many nights. Everyone is asleep and the room is quiet. Only the light in my brother's room is still on. He was doing exercises seriously, and his chubby little hands kept rubbing his tired eyes ... At the dinner table, his mother's expression slowly changed. She put a quail egg in her brother's bowl, and then put another one for her brother. She praised her brother for a great job and praised him. The nervous brother finally smiled, and his confidence returned to his face. The family had a warm dinner. ...

The final exam is coming soon, and the scene of reporting results should be staged in many families. Of course, I am happy with good grades, but what should I do if my grades are not satisfactory? Many parents may scold or even scold their children; Or compare your child's grades with other children. "You see everyone's grades are above 95 points, and his son got 100 points in mathematics. His mother is really worried ... "Don't just look at the results, but also look at the efforts behind the children! Every child will have excellent performance and unsatisfactory times when he grows up. If parents constantly magnify their children's "bad" when they fail and make them lose the courage to work hard, it is like a savage kicking off a small snail that is trying to climb up. You know, at this time, an encouraging word is more powerful than a thousand words of criticism and education. Parents can use "white lies" when children tend to give up a subject because of poor academic performance. For example, a child has no confidence in English learning, and reading in the morning is often laughed at by his classmates. So after communicating with the teacher, parents go home and tell their children, "Today, your morning reading, the teacher thinks that there are one or two places where your pronunciation is very good, which shows that your English talent has developed." Although the child said it must be the teacher's comfort, parents will spend more time on English learning after finding the child, and the teacher also found that the child's English score has improved.

Criticism magnifies the difficulties.

People are particularly easy to remember their efforts when they are against the wind, and they are particularly easy to forget their luck when they are downwind. When children fail or are worse than other children in some ways, they are often very sad. If parents don't know educational skills and criticize at random at this time, it's no different from "hitting a person when he's down". At this time, the child may think: "Even my parents say so about me, I must be very bad ..."

In the long run, children may find the difficulties insurmountable. They may give up on themselves, or they may "break the jar and fall" and have no confidence.

How to treat failure determines whether life is successful or not. Many people's failure will always bring harm and disappointment, but it can also be a rich and educational growth experience. In fact, it is not terrible for children to fail and not be excellent. The terrible thing is that children are afraid of failure and dare not try. Encouragement is actually very cheap, but for children in adversity, it is sunshine and rain, which can bring them magical power to overcome difficulties.