What is the meaning and origin of "being poor without leaving one's relatives and being rich without returning home"

Human feelings are cold and warm, and the world is cold. This is the cruelest truth in this society.

Many folk proverbs are incisive summaries filled with bitterness by experienced people. For example, "if you are poor, you will not leave your relatives, and if you are rich, you will not return home." Let me try to analyze the chill behind these two proverbs.

Why don't you leave your relatives when you are poor?

Poor people have several difficulties in visiting relatives. First of all, I can't come up with a decent gift. There is no reason to visit relatives empty-handed. Life in poor families is already difficult, and it is even more difficult to buy gifts. Those students with poor grades can't get it, while those with high grades can't afford it. It's really hard. Second, it is difficult to go to relatives' homes. When you meet snobbish relatives who look down on dogs, poor relatives will not have a good face when they come to the door, pointing fingers at each other, and they will be angry when they come to the door with gifts. Why come? Even if there is no gossip in the host family, it is inevitable that other relatives will compare and show off when they get together. They will talk about promotion and wealth, and those who have no right and no money will only be the audience. This is still good. If the poor are seen by several elders who like to teach others a lesson, it will be even more embarrassing. It is rare for the poor to be as lucky as Grandma Liu in A Dream of Red Mansions when visiting relatives.

Why don't the rich return to China?

Although it's like a gentleman walking around at night after becoming famous, it's a very troublesome thing to really make a fortune and return to his hometown.

Bring gifts. Rich people will bring some gifts back to their hometown when they go home. Gifts are expensive. Others say you show off your wealth. If you have a few stinky money, you will be great and show off! Gifts are very common. People say you are stingy, but you have made such a big fortune and brought such a shabby gift. Just like Yang Er's Sister-in-law written by Lu Xun, you complain that the meaner you are, the meaner you are! The most troublesome thing is not to bring gifts, but to borrow money. When the rich return to China, all kinds of people will come to borrow money, and relatives and friends will also come to the door. Do you want to borrow it or not? When you borrow money, you cannot collect it. If you don't borrow it, it will bring a curse. After the loan has been repaid, you feel uncomfortable not paying back the money, and it is even worse when you want to borrow money. You will definitely be scolded. What's more, some people borrow money from the rich without saying yes. Zhu Zhiwen is a living example. Some villagers borrowed money and said directly to the camera that they had no intention of paying it back! The reason is simple: he has more money! What kind of mentality is this? Isn't it robbing the rich and helping the poor? Finally, Zhu Zhiwen went to get his own food subsidy, which also attracted others to make irresponsible remarks. You see, it is difficult for rich people to return to China!

Summary: If you are poor, you will never leave your relatives, and if you are rich, you will never return home. It is a silhouette of human feelings in today's society. This is human nature, and it has never changed.

"Poor in downtown nobody asked, rich in the mountains have distant relatives. Money tells the truth, but words without money are not true; Look at the wine in the wine table and persuade the rich first. The poor do not leave their relatives, and the rich do not string neighbors; Put a begging stick in front of the door, and relatives and friends will not come to the door. " -"Augmented Sage"

If people are poor and visit relatives, they will be rejected; When people return home when they are rich, they will be alienated.

A word of truth: cherish life and live well; Two words of truth: don't let foreign things enslave your mind, and don't let money replace your love; Three words of conscience: be kind to your parents, because they are your happiness.

Four heartfelt words: it is a blessing to live in the present, and laugh no matter how hard or tired you are; Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. If you don't watch it, you will often think about it. You often bathe your soul and remove all the dust. Learn to live a simple life, ordinary but not mediocre.

Five words of self-confidence: don't care about trifles, don't worry about money, don't be shrouded in greed, don't worry about emotions, and don't compare with others. I would rather be poor and happy than worry about being rich.

It's good to grow up at the age of ten, beautiful at the age of twenty, young at the age of thirty, an official at the age of forty, rich at the age of fifty, carefree at the age of sixty, not sick at the age of seventy, and still alive at the age of eighty.

In fact, ugly people are handsome and pleasing to the eye; There are fewer people and more old people, and they are healthy; If the family is poor and rich, it is good to be kind; Who is right and who is wrong, just understand; More money and less money is a good thing. People in this life, peace is good!

"Poor people don't leave their relatives, rich people don't go back to their hometown", and some places say that "poor people don't leave their relatives, rich people don't string neighbors", which means the same thing. When people are down and out, it is easy for them to look down on visiting relatives, and even think that you are going to borrow money, and finally you are left out and rejected; When people visit their neighbors when they are rich, they tend to have hatred and jealousy towards the rich. Some people will mistakenly think that you are showing off and getting the cold shoulder.

The source of this sentence, like other folk sayings and proverbs, belongs to the summary of life experience passed down from mouth to mouth. At first, it should be a collective creation. Later, after collecting and sorting out, this article was found in "Zengguang Xianwen". Zengguang Xianwen, also known as Past Xianwen and Past Xianwen, is a collection of ancient teachings and folk proverbs, which was often used as an enlightening bibliography for children in ancient times. The whole book is basically the crystallization of folk creation.

There is a saying in "Augmented Sages": "The poor have no questions in the city, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. Money tells the truth, but words without money are not true; Look at the wine in the wine table and persuade the rich first. The poor do not leave their relatives, and the rich do not string neighbors; Put a begging stick in front of the door, and relatives and friends will not come to the door. " This sentence has certain rationality and life foundation, but with the development of the times, some of them are not objective.

In the past, rural areas were poor and backward, with simple folk customs. The communication mode based on the collective economy embodies more solidarity and mutual assistance. With the evolution of the times, the gap between the rich and the poor has gradually increased. Some people hate the poor and love the rich, while others follow the crowd. To a certain extent, they pay too much attention to the identity centered on money. In some places, the world is going from bad to worse, and the people are in dire straits.

This old saying also warns people from the opposite side: "Don't lose your ambition when you are poor, and don't be arrogant when you are rich." When you are poor, you should work hard and don't expect others to save your embarrassment; The same is true when you become rich. Don't be unkind to the rich. Learn to be humble and low-key, stress great wisdom, walk more and visit more equally, be easy-going with others, and pull into a psychological distance. The poor and the rich must hold on.

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If you are poor and don't leave your relatives, even if you have no money, your relatives will look down on you. If you go to your relatives, your relatives will be indifferent to you.

I don't think it's meaningful for the rich to return to China. If you have money, won't you go to your hometown to show off? Didn't you say "glorifying ancestors"?

Alas, these are all true. China people's unique life summary for thousands of years. It's just that in today's society, you don't have money. Don't you think life is embarrassing? Are you wronged? Decline?

You don't care how people make money. Money is different. Fart is sweet. No money, the truth is bullshit.

It's hard for me to say this, but what is the reality? Cruel, isn't it? Do you have any ideas?

Since ancient times, a truth!

The world is cold and warm, the world is cold and warm!

Friend, I wonder if you believe this truth?

Thank you Wukong friends for inviting me to answer your questions. What is the meaning and origin of "poverty never leaves one's relatives and wealth never returns to one's hometown"?

Poverty does not deceive, ugliness does not deceive! This is the common view of Lianyungang and Huai 'an for many years.

There are too many such words. Say a few more words!

My life is only eight liters, and I can't fight hard!

Rich but three generations, honest officials are not behind!

I'm not superstitious, I'm not idealistic!

I fully believe that as long as you keep pace with the times and make unremitting efforts, you will definitely change the poverty situation and create a brilliant tomorrow!

If so, once you get rich, have a luxury car and beautiful women to live in a mansion, will you go home in gold, Huize folks?

After talking for a long time, go straight to the central theme!

No one has ever lived in a poor city, but the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives!

Why can't poverty go to relatives? In fact, it is human psychology!

I'm not poor! Poor friend, poor game. If a butcher dies, he won't eat pigs!

If you are rich, you won't go back to your hometown. Are you afraid that the villagers are poor and depend on you?

Liu, our boss, never forgets his family when he is rich and powerful. He specially founded JD.COM Industry in his hometown of Suqian, Jiangsu. This is well known in China!

As for someone asking, "Poor people never leave their relatives, and rich people never return home", what is the origin?

Its origin is an old saying from ordinary people!

But now it's upside down!

If you are poor, go to your relatives' house, and if you are rich, go back to your hometown!

We have entered a new era, with fewer and fewer poor people and more and more rich people!

Go home and get used to it!

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This is really good. I also like another sentence, "Nobody asks when the city is poor, but distant relatives are rich in the deep mountains."

These two sentences really tell the truth of life, especially for some rural people, and I myself have suffered greatly! ! !

I have read this sentence on purpose. In fact, "the poor never leave their relatives, and the rich never return home" is a string of words. The first half of the sentence is complete: "poverty does not leave relatives, and wealth does not string neighbors." The original words are "people who are poor don't go rich and don't string neighbors", because "being poor and stringing relatives is easy to be looked down upon; Rich neighbors can easily commit false crimes. " If you are poor, even your relatives will not move around (which means estrangement). When you are down and out, don't think about going to relatives' homes for any benefits, which is easy to be looked down upon! Even the neighbors are afraid to visit when they have money, for fear of being dragged down (which means indifference)! From "Augmented Xianwen": "The poor don't ask in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains; If you have money, you can tell the truth, but if you have no money, you can't believe it. Look at the glass in the table. First, suggest the rich. If you are poor, you won't leave your relatives. If you are rich, you won't visit your neighbors. Put a begging stick in front of your door to keep your relatives and friends away from you. Making friends in the world needs gold, but it is neither too much nor too deep. Even if you make a promise temporarily, you will always be a pedestrian. Money and wine make many brothers, so you can't meet anyone in urgent need. The winner is the king and the loser is the bandit. Only clothes are not important. " These are the true portrayal of interpersonal relationships in the money society. Describing the world as cold, many people think that the poor love the rich! "

The second half of the sentence, in which the rich don't return home, is actually "riches and honour don't return home", which comes from Xiang Yu's mouth. After Xiang Yu, the overlord of the Western Chu Dynasty, captured Xianyang, some people advised him to build the capital, but because he missed his hometown, Xiang Yu was eager to return to the east, saying, "Money doesn't return to his hometown, it's like walking at night, who knows!" It means that if you go back to your hometown without wealth, it's like walking in the dark in gorgeous clothes! In fact, Xiang Yu's desire for success, his desire to return home in clothes and his desire to show off in his hometown can also be said to have been carried away by victory.

The first half of the sentence is mainly highlighted when the two sentences are connected together, and the second half is extended, meaning that poor people don't go to their relatives, and they will be looked down upon and looked down upon. Relatives think that they just come to borrow money to climb relatives to find trouble; If you are rich, don't go back to your hometown, lest those poor relatives borrow money to make trouble.

There is no gap between the poor and the rich, but there are differences in habits, mentality, behavior, goals, courage and ways of doing things, which leads to the gap between the rich and the poor.

Let me talk about my rural phenomenon here:

It is really "the urban routine is deep and the rural roads are slippery." I, a rural person, have a full day. Two or three people sit together and put it here and there. My parents are short. Sitting in the street, I saw who walked by it, pointing to the back, and talking badly. I saw that family had some money-licking fat. Last time a relative's child really went to be a teacher, an old man in his seventies next door quietly went to pull weeds in his field as a teacher in the morning. It's disgusting that those poor people speak ill of others behind their backs without even looking at them.

Also, even those who are very close to each other always speak ill of others behind their backs. Take me as an example: the families of the two brothers have been separated for decades, and the younger one has a grandson. Later, they built the house slowly, all by themselves. The big one actually told others that her house was built! People are not old. Hey. . . I don't want to talk about it. There are too many such examples.

These proverbs sum up the working people's indifference to the world, and they hit the nail on the head.

Being poor and not leaving relatives means that a family is poor and it is not welcome to leave relatives, relatives or other guests. For example, to persuade wine depends on banquet wine, and the rich advise cups. The person who persuades wine will treat the poor like nobody's land, and his eyes will always be fixed on the rich. If you speak, you speak softly. No matter what you say, no one will respond. You talk to someone, but he uses it as an excuse. This situation is caused by one word.

Nothing to set foot on relatives, relatives are avoiding, avoiding it is not urgent, but also cold smoke, not enthusiastic. This situation is that relatives are afraid that the poor will borrow money to borrow things.

In a word, people are lacking in ambition, and they treat relatives coldly. Those poor people who know how to be indifferent to the world are mostly far away from their relatives. Relatives will not talk much at will when they give gifts at happy events, and they also know that people speak lightly.

If the rich don't return home, there will be many difficult relationships when the rich return home, such as fear of borrowing money from seven aunts and eight aunts. Borrow one instead of two. If it hurts feelings, borrow it all. With a large number of people, it is not easy to earn money by yourself. When visiting relatives and friends, there are fewer gifts. Others say that rich people are stingy and unwilling to spend money, and there are many gifts. They say you like to show off, but it's hard to be a man.

The rich should pay attention to their words when they return home. Be brave. He said you were rich, so keep your voice down. He said you looked down on him and put on airs.

In short, it is more difficult for the rich to return to China, so they have to be careful everywhere. If they are not good, there will be more gossip.

These are the world images caused by people's lack of means of subsistence and their emphasis on means of subsistence in the old society. In modern society, because people live in rich materials, no matter how poor people are in our countryside, they are not so poor. People have money and material things, so although this phenomenon is a bit now, it has changed a lot. With the progress of society, people are getting richer and richer. I'm afraid this old saying will be rewritten.

This sentence is from Augmented Xianwen, and its meaning is easy to understand. Money is not possession, but use. The poor keep accounts and the rich check accounts; The poor like spending, while the rich care about investing. The poor buy lottery tickets and the rich buy insurance; The poor are afraid of risks, while the rich like them. The poor kill time, and the rich use it; The poor make small profits, while the rich grasp the general trend. The poor talk much and the rich do much; The poor are unpopular when visiting relatives, and the rich are alienated when they return home.

The phrase "the poor don't leave their relatives, and the rich don't return home" comes from the original words of the Ming Dynasty's "Extended Literature Record": the poor live in the downtown area and no one asks, while the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. It means that the poor always feel humble and unpopular, afraid of being left out, and they don't want to be righteous. Relatives are also afraid of his reputation of borrowing money, borrowing things or neither borrowing nor being influenced by it. Internal and external factors are the reasons for poverty and not leaving relatives. If the rich don't go home, they are afraid that the villagers will hate the rich or borrow money and sponsor. Although this is an old saying, it is also common in reality. I think people should be confident when they are poor and change when they are poor. First, find out your strengths, learn to let people use them, and then you add value to them. Being poor is not terrible, what is terrible is not changing. And the rich, 1, should have a broad mind, 2, don't be rich and heartless. Learn to be modest and low-key, and be willing to share the experience of getting rich with you and lead you to a well-off life together, because they are your folks.

As for the origin of the proverb "the poor never leave their relatives, and the rich never return to their hometown", it is said that it came from an augmented and virtuous article in the Ming Dynasty, but some scholars did not find these two original words in his article. So I feel that the first half sentence of "being poor and never leaving one's relatives" comes from "being poor and never leaving one's soldiers" and the second half sentence comes from Historical Records? In Xiang Yu's biography, "wealth does not return to hometown, just like a night outing."

Shu Jun's understanding of this proverb is:

"Poverty means that when people are poor, it is best not to walk with relatives often. I mainly consider two factors. First, because of my poor financial conditions, it is easy to be misunderstood by the other party that I am going to borrow money or ask for help.

When people receive themselves with such thoughts, they will inevitably be left out in the cold, and even look down upon and despise them.

People with poor economic conditions are prone to sensitivity, inferiority and self-confidence. When they meet others with such an attitude, they will definitely feel uncomfortable. Especially when you don't want anything from others, you will feel embarrassed, angry and despised.

The second reason is that when visiting relatives, they usually bring some gifts.

Gifts that you carefully prepare and think are good may just be dismissed by the other party, and you will inevitably feel chilling and humiliated, which will lead to alienation between relatives.

The meaning of "not returning home if you are rich" is also mainly considered from the economic aspect.

First of all, when people are rich, they all want to wear clothes and strut back to their hometown. If you spend a lot of money in some courtesy exchanges after returning home, people will feel rich and put pressure on others. If you are a little careful, you will inevitably be laughed at, and you are still so stingy when you are rich.

Another point is that it is easy for others to borrow money as a financial backer, and it is easy to offend people whether they borrow it or not. Because the lent money is probably unrecoverable, once you make a request, it will be considered inhuman. I think you are so rich, do you still care about the money you lend? If you don't borrow it, it will be inhuman to say that you have money. If you have money, your six relatives will deny it. In a word, it is easy to offend your relatives and friends.

There is some truth in the saying that can be circulated among the people. "The poor don't leave their relatives, and the rich don't return home" still has certain practical significance today, but with the progress of the times and the improvement of people's understanding, it is different from the old times in some aspects.

There is a book gentleman who hopes that we should believe in the true feelings between relatives and friends and always be grateful. When you can, those people will help. The gift of roses has a lingering fragrance. When we accept the kindness of others, we should also have some feelings of repaying kindness with water.

No one can always be smooth sailing. Maybe the hand you extend to others today is the help of others in the future.