How to face up to the strengths and weaknesses?

"No gold is pure, no man is perfect", this is a saying we often say. It means: People are not perfect, they all have their own advantages and disadvantages. But just knowing the truth is not enough. You must carefully analyze yourself and understand your own strengths and weaknesses in order to understand yourself more accurately, design yourself better, and lay the foundation for cultivating and improving yourself.

So, how do we know our own strengths and weaknesses? Below, we will only give a brief explanation of the potential advantages and disadvantages of teenagers in this age group. While recognizing their own characteristics, we will also understand the personality potential of contemporary teenagers in the new environment. Everyone can refer to these to do in-depth digging based on personal characteristics, and to examine and reflect on themselves.

·Understand the advantages

1. The optimistic and self-pursuing generation

Each generation has its own value orientation and life orientation. Our teenage generation belongs to the new human race, born after the 1990s. It is the generation that is most indifferent to ideals and the most individualistic. In our country, it is called the only-child generation. They don’t have much memory of traditional culture, and they don’t have unforgettable political and historical burdens. From the time they are sensible, they have lived in a society where everything depends on their own efforts. Compared with their predecessors, they have gotten rid of the constraints of the old system and gained greater space for free development, but they also bear the risks and pressures of making a living and finding employment. They dare to give up stability and choose wandering, with a broader vision, more active thinking, richer information, and more colorful life.

They do not have the strong desire to enter the mainstream of society like their parents did, but they closely follow fashion trends. They are willing to stand out and stand out. They do not like to worry about the country and the people. They grew up in an era of accelerated social development. They have not experienced crises and disasters, but they share more of the fruits of reform and opening up. Therefore, they like to understand some local problems as overall problems. They usually have a more positive view of society and their assessment of the times is more optimistic than the older generation. In short, they prefer to pursue specific goals, such as lifestyle, quality of life, time control, personal interests and freedom, etc.

2. The generation that values ??material and spirituality. Due to the continuous improvement of living conditions, today's children's emphasis on economic security has gradually weakened, while belonging, self-respect and individual self-realization have become more and more important. This has also become a value orientation for modern children. They are eager to succeed and have a unique awareness of emphasizing personal value, doing what they want to do, controlling their own destiny, having a free and easy personality, advocating money but not worshiping it. They have become spokespersons for various contemporary fashion trends. They are more willing to pay attention to what they are interested in in their free time. Their social interaction behavior pays attention to the principle of mutual help and mutual benefit, and their methods tend to be more information-based and modern.

3. The generation of rebellion and identification

As a new human being, they have no different rhetoric, no slogans, only their own favorite hairstyles, various clothes and different styles. A concealed look. Their rebellion is just a symbol. Compared with previous generations, today's teenagers have more freedom, money and time, and their lifestyles are far more open than before. But they have a striking similarity in their values, that is, they have a consistent understanding of the importance of family and work in life. They harmoniously combine the pursuit of quality of life and self-realization with identification with society. Mainly manifested in the following aspects:

① Pursuing self-realization and protecting self-interest has become the life concept and behavioral choice of teenagers.

② Be enthusiastic about public welfare affairs, pay attention to environmental protection, and be willing to help the weak. As the only child generation, teenagers are often more enthusiastic than adults in participating in social activities. They often lead their parents to participate in some social welfare undertakings. They are also more receptive to environmental awareness than adults and previous generations. They enthusiastically participate in the Hope Project, poverty alleviation and volunteer service work. For example, in 2008, a large number of volunteers for the Beijing Olympics came from our teenagers. Even in the 2008 5.12 Wenchuan earthquake in Sichuan, China, a large number of heroic teenagers emerged. This is something that our entire nation should be proud of.

③Pursue the three highs, namely high education, high income, and high position. The education needs of contemporary teenagers are getting higher and higher. According to a survey, 76% of Chinese students say they want to go to college.

In addition, according to a 1998 statistics from the China Youth Research Center and the Beijing Youth Research Association, 94.3% of Beijing teenagers hope that they will have a college degree or above; 25.6% hope that they will be postdocs in the future; 91.2% will continue to study after joining the workforce. . At the same time, when it comes to career choices, they often put high income first and regard high positions as their ultimate goal.

4. A generation worthy of our learning is also a generation in need of social guidance

Contemporary teenagers have distinctive personality characteristics and advantages that the older and previous generations do not have. , there are many places worthy of our study and reference. But at the same time, due to the constraints of the physical and mental characteristics of adolescents, they have deficiencies of one kind or another and need our timely guidance.

·Facing the shortcomings

1. Lack of perseverance and ability to resist setbacks, and low level of psychological quality

The living conditions of this generation of teenagers have improved significantly. , coupled with the fact that they are only children and have been cared for and cared for since childhood, it is difficult for them to experience and exercise in a hard life; at the same time, the pressure of exam-oriented education and the hope of a successful child make it difficult for them to expand their living space, which makes them psychologically fragile. Lack of hard courage and necessary endurance when faced with difficulties.

2. Prematurity and egocentrism

Most new humans show strong aggression, like to criticize others openly, have great mood swings, etc., plus the long-term development of only children Living among adults, they have been exposed to the courtesy and worldliness among adults since childhood, thus showing a sophistication and precocity that does not match their age.

3. There are certain deficiencies in thrift, living and working ability, and working habits

The poor ability of young people to be independent and independent has been proven by a large number of facts. Today's children are highly dependent and show some kind of physiological degradation. According to relevant surveys, 20.4% of people lack the ability to take care of themselves, and 28% rarely help with household chores.

4. In interpersonal communication, they are accustomed to a kind of equal communication that uses utility and mutual exchange

Due to the influence of multiculturalism, teenagers tend to no longer cherish everlasting friendship, but are accustomed to A temporary relationship between people. Nowadays, teenagers can be considered old friends after only seeing each other a few times. Chatting on QQ has replaced heart-to-heart talks, and some even talk about online dating. Some criminals have seized on this mentality and engaged in online fraud. Phone calls replaced letter exchanges, and the interactions between classmates became less and less deep and less patient. In the past, friendship, former residence, and letters were spiritual needs, but now in the eyes of teenagers, these are just daily needs like eating and sleeping. Just like they like to drink canned drinks and eat KFC fast food, the process has been compressed. Yes, what they pursue is immediate repayment after giving.

Teenagers are in a critical period for the formation of values. Their experience and experiences enable them to face complex social realities, diverse economic systems, diverse values, diverse role models, and diverse information. Hard to choose. Therefore, as teenagers, if you want to understand yourself correctly, you must learn to discover your own strengths. At the same time, we must also look at our own shortcomings correctly. Everyone has shortcomings. People must first learn to face their own shortcomings, learn to accept their own shortcomings, and admit their own shortcomings. Only then can they better accept themselves. For shortcomings that can be overcome through hard work, and deficiencies, build confidence and find practical ways to overcome shortcomings or turn shortcomings into advantages. For some shortcomings that cannot be changed or are difficult to change, such as physical defects, we should learn to face them with a positive attitude.

Only by deeply analyzing yourself from all aspects and understanding yourself correctly can you leverage your strengths and avoid weaknesses, give full play to your strengths, and realize your self-worth.

A moment of relaxation: Accept and affirm yourself

There is a girl named Huang Meili who has suffered from cerebral palsy since she was a child. The symptoms of this disease are very alarming. Because the limbs lose their sense of balance, the hands and feet will often move randomly, and the mouth will often mutter vague words, which looks very strange. Based on her condition, the doctor determined that she would not live to be 6 years old. In the eyes of ordinary people, she has lost her ability to express herself verbally and her ability to live a normal life, let alone her future and happiness. But she survived strongly, and with her strong will and perseverance, she was admitted to the famous University of California in the United States and received a doctorate in art.

She relies on the paintbrush in her hand and her good hearing to express her emotions.

At a lecture, a student rashly asked: "Dr. Huang, you have grown up like this since you were a child. What do you think of yourself? Do you have any resentment?" People present They all secretly blamed the student for being disrespectful, but Huang Meilian was not unhappy at all. She wrote these lines on the blackboard very calmly:

1. I am so cute.

2. My legs are very long and beautiful.

3. Mom and Dad love me so much.

4. I can draw and write.

5. I have a lovely cat.

Finally, she concluded with one sentence: "I only look at what I have, not what I don't have!"

After reading the above story, we will all be deeply moved. The whole world was moved by Huang Meilian's spirit of not surrendering to fate and loving life. Yes, if you want to make your life valuable, you must withstand the test of suffering; if you want to live happily, you must accept and affirm yourself.