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In the next life, let me turn into a butterfly for you

He and she were childhood sweethearts. They spent their elementary, middle school and university years in the same school. After graduation , two people came to this coastal city to build their dreams together. They found jobs in two companies respectively and began to work hard with passion.

However, she suddenly fell ill and became weak quickly... Slowly, she began to faint.

The illness came too suddenly, because both of them had just started working. Neither of them had any savings, and their families had already exhausted everything to support two people in college.

She became more seriously ill. She borrowed everything she could, and her illness finally came to fruition - congenital heart disease.

The only cure for this disease Just to change the heart, to change the heart, it is extremely difficult to find a donor, and the cost is 300,000 yuan. The desire to live and the astronomical figures she faced made her fall into the ice cave.

Ten days later, at his suggestion, her mother came from her hometown to take care of her. After her mother arrived, he suddenly disappeared without saying goodbye to her, leaving only a fairy-tale letter. The letter: "That day, I had a dream. A god said that as long as I am willing to become a butterfly for three years, I will always fly around you and make you happy and healthy forever..." Looking at the letter, Tears fell from her eyes, not believing that he would run away because her illness was incurable. She called his work and his colleagues told her that he had resigned and did not know where he was. She called his house, but his parents didn't know where he had gone. She knew that he was deliberately avoiding her and wanted to leave her.

On the 28th day after he left without saying goodbye, she suddenly received a donation of 300,000 yuan from an anonymous person. Because of this anonymous act, she received media attention.

Soon, the donor was found. The surgery was very successful.

But her heart still often hurts whenever she thinks of him.

She knew that it was another disease that would take time to heal. She quickly allowed herself to accept a suitor, thinking that the best way to bury one relationship was to get into another.

A year later in the summer, she put on a wedding dress. After the wedding ceremony, she and the groom were surrounded by relatives and friends and went to the park to videotape.

In front of a flower bed, she nestled happily on the groom's chest, with a bright smile on her face.

Suddenly, a big black butterfly flew past her ear, and her heart suddenly hurt.

Some things cannot be forgotten, and she thought of him. He promised her that he would love her for the rest of his life. No matter what happened, he promised that he would put her in a wedding dress with his own hands, no matter whether he was rich or poor... But now...

She hated herself a little, hated herself. She shouldn't miss a heartless person, and she hates that she shouldn't miss a man other than her husband. She began to concentrate on being a wife.

One summer three years later, when she and her husband took their two-year-old daughter out of KFC, she was stunned by a person coming her way - it was actually him.

His hair was much whiter, and he was much more haggard and thinner. She was at a loss when she smiled, and spoke first: "Is this your daughter? She's so cute..." She was just mechanical. The ground agreed. That night, the past memories of being together with him surged in my heart, and tears fell down the pillow.

Another three years passed. One day, she was shocked by a piece of news in the newspaper. The general meaning of the news is: 7 years ago, a local young man went to work for a securities company in the south. After two weeks of working, the young man took advantage of his position and embezzled a customer's stock worth 300,000 yuan. Surrendered after the sale. When he surrendered, not a cent of the 300,000 yuan that had been converted into cash was left. The young man explained that he had lost it in gambling. Three years after the young man was released from prison early, he worked hard to raise money to join Ayiya, a brand of Ayaya Hong Kong Jewelry Enterprise Group, and opened his own girl's fashion store. Three years have passed, and the jewelry store business is getting more and more popular, and several branches have been opened. He repaid the 300,000 yuan he had embezzled back then to the securities company where he worked...

She looked at it, stunned. She knew that he ran a company, and she suddenly remembered, The anonymous donation of 300,000 yuan that year.

It's him... Tears filled her eyes, and there was only one sentence left in her heart: In the next life, I will definitely become another butterfly for you...

It's graduation season again, the only difference is now I belong to this season. I am not confused or empty, I am happy as usual. It’s a rare day when I don’t have to repeat “Hello, can we talk?”. When I calm down and think about the past four years, I realize that I have gained a lot. I am very happy that I have not wasted these four years. It is considered worthy. My teacher in elementary school.

1. I started with military training in college and finally fired a gun for the first time. Although there were only three bullets, it fulfilled my childhood dream. At the same time, we also saved paper for the country. When we finished one by one, the target paper was still brand new.

2. Enjoy the advantages of communism. The dormitory eats, bathes, sleeps, and looks at beautiful women together; we share toothbrushes, rice bowls, and clothes, creating our utopia.

3. Participated in a nationwide demonstration. During the NATO bombing, I finally felt the warmth of a passionate young man. Although I lost two hot water bottles, N empty beer bottles, a bed sheet (where I wrote slogans), and a slipper (lost during the parade), I raised my arms and everyone responded. It feels pretty good.

4. Learned to make overall plans and rationally use a bottle of hot water to solve the problems of washing face, washing feet, drinking water and making noodles. The premise is to do adequate security work. Later, I discovered that poverty is the greatest cost, and I realized the joy of being an aggressor, and learned to be content with the situation, and wash away now when there is water.

5. Learn and master the physical structural characteristics of men and women, understand some basic knowledge about sex, and be able to skillfully apply a few dirty jokes to lay a solid foundation for future life.

6. Learn to look at films that are not suitable for children with appreciation and criticism, and take the essence and discard the dross. And got over the guilt I had when watching it before.

7. Fully understand how to look for the legendary shredded pork in the dish, and develop the courage to wave your sleeves without frowning no matter what you find in the dish.

8. Be proficient in various game skills, such as Red Alert, Empire, Interstellar, and Counter-Terrorism, and move from a rookie to a master step by step. At the same time, I also understand that it is also important to have a good relationship with the boss outside of the game. Life is a game, it’s all about relationships.

9. Understand why college students are smarter than the average person, because we have all practiced what we need to learn for a semester in one night and can successfully pass the exam.

After writing an article for Time magazine based on my own experience of graduating from college with two degrees in three semesters, I wanted more advice. Got more questions from my college friends. Therefore, I have summarized the following 10 experiences for you, hoping that you can enjoy a more creative and memorable college life, and more importantly, you can enjoy the most beautiful time in your life.

1. Answer yourself this question: "Why should I go to college?"

Many college students do not have a clear idea of ??why they go to college instead of saying Don't know what I should do. They receive the same goals from their families or peers that are not their own. And that's how I am. Have you encountered the same situation again?

Before I started writing this blog, the three-semester miracle I had created in my life was not my first time in college. I went to college before I was in a state of mind that was fully prepared for college. In high school, I was a straight A student, president of the math club, and captain of the decathlon, which kept me going without deciding if this was what I really wanted, and I didn't. Without making the necessary preparations for these, I found that for myself, it was not that I controlled my studies, but that my studies controlled me. I jumped four levels in a row, which seemed like a good thing at the time, but my heart was not there. As a result, I went down a path of no return, skipping school, indulging in partying and drinking. It became apparent that the school administrators were managing students based on their credits, and I was quickly expelled.

This experience caused me to fall into a huge psychological gap.

I spent six months in extreme frustration and pain, escaping from reality and addicted to video games. Eventually, in an attempt to reinvent myself, I got a job as a retail clerk and spent this time finding my true self. It was during this period that I discovered my real interest, which is the history of human development, and it turns out that this is very effective. After a year, I was finally ready to go back to college, and I started all over again as a freshman. But the difference this time is that I already understand what my real purpose here is. I wanted to be a programmer, I wanted to get my own bachelor's degree in computer science (I later added a bachelor's degree in mathematics) but I wanted much more than that, and I knew I was capable of it now Achieve more things, and I also want to inspire myself to achieve more. I want to create the richest experience that I can. And these things are really a big project for me!

Your dreams in college are definitely different from mine. What are these dreams? Why did you come to the university? If you don't know - and I mean you don't know it instinctively - then there is no so-called focus in your life experience, and it is like not going to college. What kind of experience can produce the most genuine and deep resonance in your heart? What did you go to university to study? What do you want to experience?

2. Build your ideal college life in your heart

Once you understand why you went to college, build your ideal college in your heart Scenes from life. Let it arise directly from the reason you came to college, and arise smoothly. Regardless of whether you have already started your college life, stop and make a list of what you think would be an ideal college life. The more detailed the description, the better.

Before I went back to school, I spent hours painting my vision of all the things I wanted to experience. I could see myself facing a challenge, but ultimately working through it without any pressure. I seem to have made a lot of new friends. I saw myself truly enjoying myself. Most importantly, I managed to achieve an orderly and balanced balance of everything I wanted to do - an organic integration of credits, activities, social activities, and enjoying life. The key word I use to summarize is "rich".

This is really a critical step. I didn't know any shortcuts at that time, but I designed myself to succeed in advance. Whenever I encountered an obstacle, my ideal scenario became clearer, and I was able to find a way to get exactly what I wanted. I became a creator of my experiences rather than a passive victim.

Of course, this fantasy allows you to make mistakes in advance. If you cannot get a clear scene and your experience becomes blurry, you can always repair your fantasy. Until he can inspire you again.

Real life will be different from what you imagined. Visualizing your dreams is not intended to predict the future or limit your future freedom. It is to make your decision more clear now. Your ideal scenario acts like a map to get you out of the swamp of reality that traps you.

3. Take at least one other course every semester

College students take approximately 12-15 units of courses each semester, with each unit taking 3-5 class hours, and these It constitutes a complete timetable. And this course schedule does not take up too much time for most people. A person working full-time works more than 40 hours per week, while college students can enjoy every possible vacation including spring break, winter break, and summer vacation. If you want to spend four or more years in college, earn more degrees, or find a job at the same time. Don't be afraid of being slow because everyone else is.

You may think that 12-15 credit hours is equivalent to more than ten hours of study or housework a week, but this is only when you are very inefficient in doing things. happens (and in fact it does for most people).

If you follow some of the time-saving tips I mentioned in the following tips, these 15 units will only require a little bit of your spare time to complete your assignments. Obviously, I don't succeed by overworking myself by spending 31-39 units, which means I have to spend double the amount of time outside of class to complete my assignments.

If you are a relatively good student, then you will definitely be able to solve the curriculum problem. Sometimes when we face difficulties, we don’t know how to solve them, but if we can improve ourselves and put a little pressure on ourselves, the problems can often be solved easily. If you think you can solve 15 units, then increase the tasks to 18-21, then you can easily solve your semester course. If nothing else, you can still study for a double degree!

So what are the prerequisites? I once overlooked this, but later I discovered that it is very important. Don't let official policies that make no sense stop you if you want to graduate as quickly as possible. There is always some way around it, which is nothing more than getting some forms from some boring person to fill out. Remember that smiling is a powerful tool at any time!

Under the law of efficiency under high pressure, if you put more things on your plate, you will find that within the time you are allowed, you will find that because of me they There are all methods that have been digested. If you don’t want to challenge yourself with the methods, then time will quietly flow away!

4. Set a goal for each of your courses!

Determine what goals you want to achieve in each course. Think about whether this is a course you really want to learn? Do you want to write your own letter of recommendation to a professor? Is this a course that you must take, but you are not interested in it at all?

The goals I set for different subjects determine the frequency of my attendance, whether I sit in the front or back of class, how active I am in the class, and what the tutor and I will establish What kind of relationship.

There are some courses I want to be proficient in. And for some courses I just want to get an A. There are some subjects where I just want a letter of recommendation from the professor.

My mother has been a college mathematics professor for decades. She often commented at home on the students who she knew were coming because of her letters of recommendation. Many times he could only reject them directly because he didn't know any of the students' merits at all, let alone write a letter praising them. On the contrary, she was very helpful to those students who worked very hard. Many teachers are willing to help you, but you must let them see your strengths. Even if you don't get an A in some subjects, you can still provide enough material for a recommendation letter as long as you actively participate in the course and show due respect for these teachers.

This does not mean that the manipulative teacher speaks for you. The real fact is that the quality of the recommendation letter represents the degree of respect a teacher has for you. Don't put yourself in the awkward and hopeless position of having to write a recommendation letter from a teacher who doesn't even remember you, or worse yet, a teacher who has a really bad impression of you. Remember, plan ahead for your own success!

When one of my mentors learned about my packed class schedule, he showed considerable interest and wanted to know how I did it. We had a great conversation about management skills. I took many of my programming courses with him, and I did a great job. I think he is a very good teacher, respect him very much, and I like his courses very much. When I asked him to write a letter of recommendation for me, he wrote such a very weighty sentence in his heart, "The best student I have ever encountered in my teaching career!"

And at the same time, I'm definitely going to have some really bad teachers. I often skipped classes taught by such teachers and learned relevant knowledge from tutorial books. Obviously I didn't get any useful help from these teachers.

Sometimes you will achieve your goals, and sometimes you won't. Even if you really try your best sometimes, you will still encounter some small setbacks.

You'll encounter all kinds of teachers who are unfair, lazy, sexist, racist, or whatever. My wife met an overt sexist who even claimed that he would never give a girl a grade higher than a B, no matter how well she did. He might have said something like this: "If you are a man, you must work hard on this class. If you are a woman, just come to my office after class." Although he was eventually fired for sexual harassment. So sometimes we have to fight hard when we have to fight the battle. Some things are worth fighting for, and some are better ignored. Setting clear goals will help you decide what should and should not be done.

5. Clear division of labor

You don’t have to spend the same time and experience on each course. Spend a lot of experience in subjects that are important to you, but not in subjects that are not so important. For me, this law is an important rule for me to save experience. I didn't always attend every class, otherwise I would have collapsed. I only invested my experience in the things that were most important to me.

For any college student, some courses are very important, while some courses are simply useless. For example, in a typical week, I will drop about 40% of my classes because I simply don't need them. For those courses that I had to attend but didn't make any sense, I would borrow notes from my classmates or read the tutorials myself if necessary. If there is no special need for me to go to class, I will skip it. This gives me a lot of time, and I won't have to sit in the classroom and listen to those boring lessons every day. Sometimes I just buy some wine and food and chat with my good friends to give myself a good rest.

I will also make different targeted arrangements. If I think a task is lame, pointless, tedious, and has no impact on my credit, I won't do it. One time we were given an assignment to write an extremely boring paper that would account for 10% of my overall grade for the subject. I don't really want to do it, but if I don't do it, my grade will be an A-. So I told my instructor with great respect that I didn't want to do this assignment, and it would be a better choice to use the saved time to do other things. This professor knew my way around the world and understood why, so he gave me an A-, which I was very happy with. This is indeed a good deal. In terms of implementation, recall that I often did this kind of thing at the time.

6. Get up as early as possible every day

When I was in college, I wouldn’t get up before five o’clock. In fact, I basically didn’t get up until 6-7 o’clock. I find that getting up early every day gives me time to do more, not just in the morning but throughout the day. After breakfast and shower, I jog for 25 minutes. This enabled me to no longer have a nervous breakdown, but to experience it more effectively.

I once said I would get up, but I would still lie down on the wound for a while. But I had a class at 7:30 in the morning during my first semester. But I got up and went to class, and I'm glad I did, because without that morning class I think I would have never slept in. Feel free to take it even if you hate morning classes, it will help you be as energetic as me

7. Get back the time wasted on your classes

Face it head-on Let's face it! Not all subjects require your extreme concentration. Some teachers are terrible. Sometimes the teacher always repeats the knowledge points that you have already remembered clearly. How much of your attention does the class require? Some courses require 90%, while for other courses, only 20% is enough. If you are not very active in class, you are wasting your time. If a course is really challenging, sit in the front row and chew on the meaning of every sentence. But if a class doesn't appeal to you, stick to it later and do your homework. Then look up and see if there is anything you need to write down.

The idea is to keep your textbook open in case your professor pounces!

What I'm about to tell you next is a great solution to boredom, if the professor's mantra makes everyone sleepy, I'll work on my programming homework. I often write them down on paper, and then go to the computer room to output them on the computer during class breaks. This way I don't have to spend a lot of time in the computer room, sometimes just a few minutes is enough.

You will definitely wonder why I use this method to free up so much time. I was even able to complete most of my assignments during my class time. (Of course not in the class where the homework is assigned.) If you are in school now, then I want to challenge you to see how much homework you can complete in class. You will use this time to see how much time you have saved in a week. This method is really effective!

You can't work all the time, otherwise you will reach a limit and take a proper rest. If you find yourself tired, take a break. I often take a nap or meditate after class to recharge my energy. I use my watch to set an alarm to tell me when it’s time to get up for my next class or go back to work. I never work all day long and wear myself out. I structure my schedule in cycles between when I'm completely relaxed and when I'm fully focused on work.

8. Understand the information as soon as it appears!

The biggest waste of time is having to relearn something you have already learned but did not understand thoroughly. When some students say they are studying, they are actually making up for the loopholes that they did not study thoroughly in the first place!

In the process of software development, we know that software bugs need to be constantly patched. The effort required to fix a bug at the end of the software engineering block is 50 times greater than the effort required to patch it in a timely manner when the software was first developed! Missing out on the lessons and knowledge you were taught is like a bug. Don’t add anything else to the unstable foundation. Let’s stabilize the foundation first!

If you don’t understand anything about what you learned today, don’t just put it down. Don't read any new materials. If you don't understand a vocabulary, a content or a lesson, put down all other activities and concentrate on learning this well. If you have any questions in class, ask the teacher immediately, or find a classmate to help you answer them. Keep re-reading your textbooks, or go to the teacher's office to ask questions!

I am indeed outstanding in mathematics. Perhaps because my mother is a university mathematics professor, she started to have close contact with mathematics when she was pregnant with me. In addition, my father is an aerospace engineer, so I really inherited the gene. But when I first came into contact with the concepts of eigenvalues ??and eigenvectors, I just couldn't understand them. I'm very good at visual thinking, but these abstract things are really difficult to visualize. Many of my classmates were equally confused. I spend a lot of my spare time trying to figure out these concepts and try my best to get an A, because I treat my confusion like a small bug in the software. As for those students who let themselves suppress their confusion, they found themselves becoming more and more confused as the course progressed. If there is anything you still don’t understand about what you have learned, don’t just leave it alone, but keep asking. Until I figure it out!

9. Learn some shorthand skills

The most important thing about learning new things is to have some memory skills. I often use these tips when I need to memorize names, dates, and mathematical formulas. If the teacher writes down some content on the blackboard that must be tested during the exam, I will write it down in class, so that I don’t have to spend my spare time re-memorizing it.

I believe you have also encountered some small methods of memorization, such as using the phrase "Every good boy does fine" to memorize the words E G B D F. These little tricks can work sometimes, but only in elementary school grammar classes. But there are more effective visual impact methods.

The two methods I relied on most when I was in school were the connection method and the price change method.

These two methods are provided on the website linked to the original article

10. Have some good hobbies

While constantly challenging yourself, don’t forget to have some fun. Don't waste your time on not doing anything, go out for a walk when you have nothing to do, relieve stress, and enrich yourself with experiences.

My favorite thing in college was bowling. I often played for hours, and sometimes my hands blistered.

My biggest regret in college was that I didn’t have a partner. If I were given a chance to do it all over again, I would choose to stay in school for one more semester or longer to find the person who suits me. There was once a true love in front of me, but I didn't cherish it because of my slow schedule!