How to get out of self-isolation

Enthusiasm, cheerfulness, and unrestrainedness are the characteristics of teenagers. It would be sad to lose the nature that teenagers should have. However, in reality, some people are indeed young and mature and wear an adult mask all day long. Pursuing the effect of youth and maturity, and pretending to be sophisticated and indifferent to life, they show a twisted character. In fact, on the surface, they pretend to be blind to the people and things in life that really touch their hearts, but their hearts are full of contradictions and pain. This kind of psychological pain caused by self-enclosed psychology is far more uncomfortable than other pains, and can even lead to people being unwilling to make progress and willing to fall. Because the inner world of human beings is made up of emotions. If you have to artificially suppress your emotions and deliberately close your mind, how can you live a relaxed and happy life?

I remember that I once read a book called "The Naughty Boy and Me". The book talked about a student named Xiaogang who was one of the best students in the class. In an open class, he couldn't answer the teacher's questions smoothly, which made his classmates burst into laughter. This class was also unsuccessful because of Xiaogang's speech, and the teacher asked him not to speak in class in the future. After that, Xiaogang was not interested in anything and worried alone. He never talked to others and closed himself up. Sometimes he vented his anger on behaviors such as smashing public property and writing slogans attacking teachers. A year later, he changed from a good student to an underachiever in the class. Xiaogang's transformation shows that self-isolation is not conducive to the physical and mental development of our teenagers. So, how to overcome self-isolation?

First, respect and trust others. Living in human society, you must interact with others. If you are indifferent to interpersonal interactions, it means that your trust in people and your child-like innocent intuition have been destroyed by self-isolation, and therefore you will not get any benefits from it. There is happiness in life, so you must learn to slow down your intense pace of life, relieve intense study pressure, and strive to find joy in life, such as saying hello to new acquaintances, having fun with friends, etc., so that you will not become closed. abyss.

Second, learn to say "that's interesting." In life, you often find that things that are not laughable or interesting at all in the eyes of adults are so funny and ridiculous in our eyes. Because of this, children's worries will not stay in their hearts for a long time and will always disappear. If we always find everything "fun", then life will always be filled with hearty laughter and endless joy.

Third, live life naturally. We are used to doing everything with a plan and purpose in advance, so that we can get things done. However, in real life, we cannot act completely rigidly, and we cannot worry about something without a plan or achieving the goal. If you plan everything carefully to make sure nothing goes wrong, you will unknowingly close your feelings tightly. We should recall our childhood, pay attention to the occasional inspiration and fun in life, and sometimes let ourselves relax and be happy. Don't rush around a clear goal or a problem all day long, that will be very tiring. We must understand that happiness is An important value standard in life.

Fourth, don’t suppress your true emotions. There will be many intoxicating and worthy things in life, and we should truly express our emotions. If you are about to separate from your best friend, let the tears that are about to well up flow out smoothly instead of holding them back in your eyes or hiding in the bathroom to wash them away. Hiding the most valuable part of yourself for fear of being gossiped about by others is self-destruction and meaningless. It is better to treat your emotions truly, follow your heart, and listen to the voice of your soul. Even if you do something wrong, It won't be too sad. So when you encounter setbacks and feel troubled, you might as well tell your relatives and friends about your distress. There are some things you cannot say to your family, but you can tell your closest friends. There is a song that goes like this: "When my friends are sad, I cry; when my friends are happy, I am happy." If you can have such a friend, then you will be a very happy person.

Every teenager should show off his youthful charm and innocence, face life with enthusiasm and cheerfulness, and get out of the vicious circle of "self-isolation". Let us embrace a happy life!