How to communicate with peers

I have asked countless managers the same question, "Which one do you find most difficult when communicating with your bosses, subordinates, and peers?", and the answer I got in the end was without exception. They are all "at the same level" because there are power constraints between superiors and subordinates. When communicating with superiors, even if the superiors are slightly unreasonable, they will still give him face; when communicating with subordinates, even if they are a little arrogant, subordinates will still give us face. Face; but when communicating with peers, everyone is the "bandit leader" of the same side, and no one can do anything to the other. There is no subordinate or superior-subordinate relationship at all, so there is often a stalemate and it is difficult to communicate normally. How can you make your colleagues at the same level "listen" to you, and how can you make your colleagues at the same level support your work?

1. If you are at fault, look for your own problems first

There is a saying that "one slap can't make a difference", and another saying that "if the mistake is only on one side, the contradiction will not be the same." will last." Any mistake is not a person's fault. When conflicts or conflicts arise, you should first look for your own problems. Lenin said, "When a person reflects, he will enter a great starting point." . When communication is not smooth between departments, first look for the problem in your own department. Don’t start shirk responsibility as soon as a problem arises. “If it weren’t for your department... how could the customer have missed the order?” “If it weren’t for you... this matter How could it fail?"...

2. Actively cooperate with his work

Cooperation is needed between departments and between people. Only cooperation can achieve success To win, you need to cooperate with him with the mentality of "let the other party win". When you help everyone around you, everyone will repay you twice as much. When everyone wants you to win, the universe will also help you. Go win (Law of Attraction). Therefore, we should always say "Look at how I need to cooperate with you" and "Look at how our department needs to cooperate with the work of your department."

3. Active communication

All the contradictions, struggles, and conflicts in this world are caused by trivial things. When something trivial first happened, there was no timely communication, so all the time Every little thing accumulates and becomes a wall, an insurmountable wall, a wall that divides everyone into two camps. Therefore, we must take the initiative to communicate, communicate more, communicate when there is something, and communicate when there is nothing. Don't "not burn incense in your spare time, just cramming for help at last minute", don't "don't give to others when you are blessed in normal times, and only ask for help when you are in trouble".

4. Learn with a humble attitude

Confucius said, "When three people walk together, there must be a teacher from me." The predecessors said, "Life is an examination room everywhere, and everything in life is a test. Everyone is my teacher." Yes, every passer-by in our lives is something we can learn from, and every colleague around us is worth learning from. No matter how miserable he is today, there must be something worth learning from him. Therefore, when we communicate with peers, we must discover the strengths and specialties of the other party, learn with a humble heart, and ask the other party for advice in a low profile.

5. Don’t use leaders to oppress others.

We often see slogans like “When people have difficulties, please contact the police.” Some ill-intentioned people add a comma in the middle. As a result, It becomes "it is difficult for the people to find the police when they are in trouble." It is just a joke. Don't take it seriously. Let's get back to the point. People can go to the police when they have problems. We all go to the leaders when we have problems. But remember, if it is because of communication between peers, If something like this is not smooth, try to find a way to solve it yourself. Don't go to the boss to file a complaint. The defendant is helpless and the plaintiff is incompetent. If you can't even communicate about anything and the boss has to step in, will the boss feel that you are lacking in ability? , at least lacking communication skills. Some people directly move leaders out to suppress others, which will only make future communication more and more difficult.