How many times have you been slapped by life before you choose to use "mourning" to resist?

I’m almost a useless fish.” “I feel like my body has been hollowed out.” “What can I do? I’m helpless.” I don’t know when it started, but mourning culture has become something that surrounds us. In part, mourning has become a common emotional expression for the younger generation.

You are mourning, my only mourning. Behind every mourning, there is an angel with broken wings.

< p> From the beginning of mourning culture to the emergence of many brand marketings, people currently have mixed opinions on "mourning culture". It is generally praised by young people, who think it is a way to relieve stress. Few mainstream media have raised concerns that widespread publicity will have a negative impact on young people, and they hope that young people can face life with a positive attitude.

We can’t help but ask, the Chinese youth generation in the mourning culture. , is it really sad?

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Mao Buyi is so popular, I’m afraid no one thought that among all the contestants of "Tomorrow's Son", he would be the first one to "become popular". The contestant turned out to be Mao Buyi, who is not the most handsome in appearance and not the best in singing.

His fire brought a new word: "sangmeng". But after listening to his songs, we found that in his singing. Underneath the cute and mournful appearance, there is an old soul who knows everything about the world.

"One cup for the morning sun, one cup for the moonlight, one cup for freedom, and one cup for death." A person with many stories to tell. He wrote such heart-touching lyrics. He sang the song "Relief of Sorrow" lightly, but it entered the hearts of countless people and touched the softest corners of everyone's heart.

His many feelings. The song has a touch of mourning, "If One Day I Become Very Rich": "If one day I become very rich, I will buy all the rare smiling faces. Let all poor children no longer be timid, and all evil people no longer have the right to speak."

"People Like Me", "People like me who are confused, people like me who are unwilling to be ordinary , Will anyone feel sorry for an incomprehensible person like me?”

Such lyrics made Yang Mi couldn’t help but say, “Mao Buyi, how many times have you been slapped in the face by life, so there is such a thing in the lyrics Many stories.

Mao Buyi’s victory was well-received by everyone. Faced with the praise that came his way, he said humbly: “I don’t deserve it.”

"Everyone may see themselves in me, and supporting me is like supporting themselves."

From Mao Buyi's song, we heard the sad feeling that "sober people are the most ridiculous", and also heard the encouraging "rising sun" and "distance". Unsatisfactory things happen to everyone. , everyone grows while searching. Just like Osamu Dazai said in "Disqualification in the World": "The living beings you mentioned are just you. ”

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In fact, the culture of “mourning” is not new. In different historical stages, it existed in the world with different names. It was once the clothes of hippies. , is the guitar of the rock youth, the cigarette in the pocket, and the speeding subway...

The "Hea" culture popular in Hong Kong in the late 1990s is just like Nowadays, mourning is similar. There is a saying that "Hea" is derived from the English word "hang around", which means "wandering", which also means "wasting time aimlessly", "lazy" and "doing nothing".

Chan Xiaochun, who recently took his son to participate in "Where Are We Going, Dad", was jokingly called by many netizens as his son taking his father to participate in "Metamorphosis"? Brother Xiaochun used to be a "Hea youth", in today's terms. A very sad person (his name was Big Sang Brother in a movie).

When he was young, Chen Xiaochun's family was poor, so he dropped out of school and went to Hong Kong with his parents in the first grade of junior high school, and then worked as a temp on a construction site. He worked as a barber in a barber shop, and it was not until the Hong Kong Radio Station recruited dancers that he embarked on the path of acting.

He sang "No Such Life" and laughed at himself sadly: " Love is something that makes no sense. Some people are very popular, and some people are not qualified. I don't have that kind of fate, so it won't be my turn. "

He laughed at fate in "Young and Dangerous": Thank Brother Su (Jesus) for me, and ask him to come to me for tea when he is free.

Some people say, Jordan Chan has a special kind of kindness. His songs and movies allow us to see the real bad things in life.

Today's Chen Xiaochun is no longer the cold and serious Pheasant Brother of the past. For the sake of his beloved wife and son, he is willing to put down all his temper and airs.

He said that the various experiences he had experienced in the past made him gradually mature and change.

Mourning does not make everyone decadent. Some people have seen all kinds of mourning in the world, but they have the courage to face life head-on.

When we yell at the fucked-up world, we must also learn from Jordan Chan, who has repeatedly failed.

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Mourning is actually not that scary!

Although today's young people seem to be "mourning", the popularity of mourning culture is one thing, and Chinese young people have not been eroded by this culture.

Not long ago, a British foundation released the "Generation Z: Global Citizenship Qualification Survey - What the World's Young People Think and Feel", which showed that Chinese youth are the most optimistic about the future. 29% of Chinese respondents said that they feel that China is a safe place to live and work because here "you can get ahead as long as you work hard." About 93% of Chinese respondents are also hopeful about the future because of advances in technology such as medicine, renewable energy and computers. In contrast, young people in some developed countries are relatively more pessimistic.

Today, with the rapid development of China and the busy and fast pace of life, young people are facing some new problems, and these problems make young people feel their own insignificance, loneliness and powerlessness. Once it is not handled well and there is nowhere to vent, it may become a psychological problem or even derive from a series of social problems.

We might as well understand mourning culture as people’s resistance to the selling of cheap dreams. People finally know that not everyone can become an Internet celebrity, not everyone can become a writer, and not everyone can become a star. You say this is "mourning", but it is better to say that this is a more sober self. Awareness - Being clearly aware of certain limitations can make you better use of possible conditions, adjust your goals, and avoid despair.

This kind of psychological adjustment may seem negative to some people, but is it positive to just be brave and strong?

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Who has not been slapped by life? The confusion of an uncertain future, the unwillingness to realize one's ambitions, the choice between the moon and sixpence, the gap between ideals and reality... these happen to everyone.

In the year of graduation, I came out of the ivory tower. The salary was meager and the family had to leave their hometown. When I was eating instant noodles and rushing to work in a room of less than ten square meters in Shanghai, I knew that there might be homeless people outside the window, people sleeping in the wind and rain, and people who were crying, tired, and in pain but not in pain. People who are willing to give up.

Just like that very sad but very powerful saying: "Those who cry while eating can survive!"

People who shout "sad" often also People who are also willing to pay for their dreams. "Mourning" is just a warning that constantly reminds oneself that "you are not good enough". Such warnings are the same as those slogans such as "You will definitely succeed" posted in front of the desk. They are self-encouragement for people with dreams. slogan.

Expressing mourning can allow you to find an outlet. Although you are "mourning", you are full of positive energy and full of infinite yearning for the future.

We will pray like Mao Buyi: "Borrow a dim street light at midnight to illuminate a pair of figures on the bumpy road." But we still persist in pursuing our dreams.

We have also been confused, hesitant and even astray like Chen Xiaochun, but we are still full of yearning for beauty and optimistic.

Mourning is our gentle resistance to the world! We are very sad, but we are still at war with the world. We are very sad, but we still have a lot of positive energy.

When we are slapped countless times by life, I still believe that one day, we will impress this fucking world, and those slaps that hurt us will turn into loud applause!