Tired of the internet, tired of life ~

First, the network, we are all lost in the same direction.

In Postcard, the masterpiece of novelist jacques derrida, the twilight bell of spiritual civilization in the era of network communication rings with allegorical brushstrokes. Like us, he typed those words through the keyboard. Maybe it's his wheelchair that makes his ass fidgety, or the fatigue syndrome caused by screen vision. When people are in pain, they will have philosophical thinking.

I don't know what happened to my wheelchair. When I typed this article about the Internet, I thought of Derrida and postcards. I don't understand what the novel is about, but I know that many things around us, like postcards, have disappeared somehow, while others have squeezed into the door of the times. When I passed a villa by the sea by car, I saw an advertising slogan: Get close to nature and taste life. The words are very big, and the sky is high and the clouds are light and blue, which is eye-catching. I know that many people don't really get close to nature, but go to another lost city: the Internet.

In my online career, I have seen many people struggling and floating in the network. Among those huge teams, there is also myself. I heard that many people are calling for quitting the Internet. Then, one ID dies, another ID is reborn, and people come and go. I know they are still hiding at the other end of the network. The tenacity of network vitality lies in its rebirth, just like cicada slough. When one ego (ID) is tired, another ego (ID) comes into being. Its life process has gone through several stages, such as novelty, passion, dullness, fatigue, boredom, extinction, rest and rebirth. For everyone in the network, we can always find our own wonderful and stage in different places. Much like those wandering travelers. When they were too familiar with a place to feel anything, they set off again. The difference is that this way of walking is more convenient, easier and more attractive. There is a novel in Russia called "Walking without Shoes", which says that traveling has to throw away a lot of mental burdens. Compared with the internet, people are trapped in reality, and it is difficult to become real walkers because of factors such as survival, responsibility and social vision.

Many times, the network is like a forest and a desert. There are many strange bushes in the forest. When we walk through the forest, we can't resist the temptation of novelty and excitement. We are so happy with all the scenes we have never seen that we forget our own environment. We thought we caught a lot of things, but it turned out to be just a desert. It's easy to go in, but difficult to go out.

We are all lost in the same direction. 1999, a friend of mine wrote this sentence after indulging in the internet and eventually leading to mild schizophrenia. At the beginning of a poem: "I read a kind of sadness and felt a burst of palpitations, which quickly burned up." Four years later, more people can't get out of the internet. There are many feelings about whether to surf the internet or not. Perhaps, they are just a temporary emotional conflict and a temporary complaint. But the soul is still submerged in the network and cannot extricate itself. Indeed, this is a kind of loss, and the ultimate goal is to forget time, youth, family, reason, and even love and marriage. This kind of loss is silent, subconsciously, you can't resist it, and you can't doubt it.

An era has emerged and a spirit is dying. As some things disappear, others grow. The network is divided into three parts. In this macroscopic time ordinate system, many people's souls are nailed to three points: games, chats and forums. When a large group of people walk in the same ultimate direction, there will always be some people who turn around and shout: Give them a magic mirror!

Where is the spirit attached to the network? No one can give the magic mirror. Nietzsche said that God is dead. Therefore, humans can only be responsible for themselves, and everyone can only be responsible for themselves.

Second, the game-from virtual to real, or from real to virtual?

I've been thinking, what makes people addicted to games?

There is a passage in Youth Digest that after the age of 30, people should admit that they are ordinary. Don't always think you have a gift for creating the world. No matter how much truth there is in this passage, in fact, each of us will have some ideas and dream of our own extraordinary. Suzhou patients wrote a passage in their virtual diary: In a city full of temptations and desires, everyone can't return to the former calm, and it is hypocritical to say that there is no desire for peace. Calm only in the visual appearance, the structure of architectural words, no matter how exquisite, still reflects the weak truth in our hearts.

For most people, life is always dull, just like a glass of boiled water. The boredom of life happens to be that there is no story; When a true story comes, perhaps pain and doubt will follow, which is really a fatal contradiction in life. The charm of the game is that it can "create stories" for our lives, so that we can be there, but we don't have to worry that those "happened stories" will bring us extra pain and pressure. Although people are addicted to online games, there are always different reasons, but they are all inseparable from the premise mentioned above. This is just like the philosophical propositions "the right to subsistence" and "the right to development". Without the right to subsistence, there is no right to development.

It is easier to understand all kinds of small truths derived from the major premise. One is the viewpoint of experiencing life. After all, there is little experience in reality. In order to increase your experience and enrich your life, you have to take risks if you bump your head. People with little experience will always be laughed at. It seems that online games are the best choice. Of course, at first it may just be driven by curiosity. Netizen Cang Sang said, "It is more direct to see human nature in the game." . The so-called directness is the scene that you may not see in reality. The entanglement of human nature and the dispute between good and evil of human nature can be seen one by one in the game. It's like a novel, where sharp contradictions and conflicts are expressed through concentrated stories. Role-players know that no matter how evil they are, they can't jump out of the screen, stab a real person with a knife and kick; No matter how good it is, it won't cost you money, and it won't bring you much loss. As a result, good and evil have gained infinite expansion on the internet, satisfying people's inner desires and staged scenes of joys and sorrows. When a thing has no bottom line standard, it will develop to the extreme. It is precisely because the game has such conditions that people will enjoy it and will not die of addiction. Jiang Yue, who was once addicted to games, said: "Dance Academy, life is like a play, and sometimes you can experience it more deeply in these games. But there are many things outside the game that can increase your knowledge and enrich your emotional experience. " If you want to experience the excitement in the game, you have to invest. Without investment, nothing will be experienced. If you invest, you will be fascinated. I once heard a story that an owner of an Internet cafe burst into tears when he saw a young man surfing the Internet. The boss asked him what happened, and the young man replied that his lover in the game was killed by an enemy. Oh, what "precious" tears and "sincere" feelings are really enough.

The other is to gain psychological balance and find a sense of identity in the game. For example, Chengdu Evening News has an article entitled "Legendary King's" Huge Money "Preserves the throne", saying that online game players in Chengdu promoted "Fat Man", which was his nickname and was once the vice president of a very famous company in Chengdu. Because playing the popular online game Legend consumes a lot of money and energy. In the face of the reporter's interview, he still insisted: "If I can monopolize Sabbach City in the scuffle with hundreds of thousands of people, I will be an excellent general; If I can stick to this city that represents glory and strength for a long time, I am the best king. " He led "subordinates" in the online world in an attempt to find back the lost glory in reality. The top online gamers once laid a world with their hands in reality, but it was easy to fight the country but difficult to defend the country. Soon after, his performance took a turn for the worse, which made him exhausted. When he came into contact with the game, he regained his confidence and honor in the network. As a result, his wife divorced him and the company fired him. Someone asked him, what is all this for? His answer is: "Dream. "Dream, such a lofty word. This forgotten word reappeared as "light" in the network.

Some people say that a person's potential can be brought into full play in the network. Everyone can easily succeed in a certain "field" on the Internet. In a noisy and impetuous era, many people need to gain a sense of identity and look forward to the aura of the stars holding the moon. At the top of the mountain leading to the "dream", people's instinct is to avoid the thorny road and choose the shortcut. The online game is such a shortcut. In the game, you can live a heroic dream or be an inevitable bully. While playing online games, they show their intelligence to everyone.

Is the game moving from virtual to real, or from real to nothingness? For those who experience life, their answers may be biased towards the truth. They just forget that all human judgments cannot be based on a wrong premise. People's hearts always rush in two directions: good and evil. Many times, everything in the network is just Eve being tempted by snakes. The latter person who gets a sense of success in online games is just escaping from reality. Man is the best animal to deceive himself. When a deceived person shouts "No, I will never believe anything again", he is actually believing his own "disbelief". Oh, it's interesting, isn't it?

The ancients once said: Five colors make people blind and five tones make people deaf. People are unwilling to open their eyes when they are happy and addicted. I just want to go on like this, even if it is falling. It was not until the cold reality pulled itself back to the ground that I found that everything was just empty. With a single knife, butterflies fly across the rivers and lakes at Xikou once, but the years have bleached their white hair.

Third, chatting and indulging in the bubble of language.

I have seen a silent film, which is a silent film. One of the shots hit my nerve endings like a fine needle: people there were dancing wildly, disorderly and confused, trying to express something, but they were drowned in the crowd. This is a lonely time. Maybe everyone has a desire to express, silent or vocal. I don't want my voice to be drowned in the crowd and traffic, and I hope someone can listen to my inner voice.

Sadly, modern people also have a similar "porcupine mentality": in winter, a group of porcupines will get close to each other for warmth because they are afraid of the cold. If you squeeze too tightly, the thorns on porcupines will howl at each other, so porcupines will walk away from each other when they are in pain. After a while, the porcupines approached each other because of the cold. This process will not stop.

Are the people in the net porcupines? I'm afraid there are some similarities. Internet chat not only solves the desire of human inner communication, but also has the advantage that everyone can wear a mask. Generally speaking, the object of chatting may not be in the same city, in the same unit, or within the scope of one's real life circle. When you pour out your heart, you won't worry about telling your inner secrets and affecting your life. Besides, chatting online has changed the language habits in our lives. It can not only create unlimited language rubbish and vent the accumulated emotions in our hearts, but also extract some dialogues from various famous books or classic films. As long as we are willing, everyone's words can become interesting and elegant. In reality, some people who are usually not good at words can also talk in the network.

Chatting online can not only solve the problem of longing for communication and getting rid of loneliness and boredom, but more importantly, we don't have to worry about the backup delivery of the chat object. Go to any website and find some oicq people. People are always lonely and have a similar side, so there is always a time to talk. When we are tired of chatting with someone, we don't need to be so troublesome as in reality. Just type a few words or delete this person from oicq, and we have been separated since then. No one can see anyone's expression.

With the benefits of online chatting mentioned above, many people fall into chatting because of loneliness. Most people who are addicted to the internet have had this experience. A group of people who call each other brothers and sisters talked and laughed in the chat room because of a temporary fit, and they didn't become interested until something happened to them. The emergence of language bubbles is based on certain situations. In that case, it is undeniable that most people are sincere. People's addiction to something is actually more often driven by the desire for good things and good feelings. The more real and beautiful, the more human beings will relax themselves, and they will sink down like this. However, I don't understand that all truth and beauty are time-sensitive, and they are only a short moment. Without a kind of constraint and restriction, things will become stale. It's like chatting online. When we look back after a long time of sinking, such language is just a pile of faded building blocks that anyone can put together. What is even more unkind is that Professor Wang Hongsheng said, "Isn't this just improvisation and bluffing?"

I once wrote a novel "Love with 140,000 Words", which tells the story of falling in love online because of chatting. Indulge in the bubbles and struggles of language. Many times we are expressing, but we don't know what we are expressing. Perhaps this is the "aphasia" era evaluated by some academic experts. People who are addicted and unable to extricate themselves often lack a deep understanding of a thing and treat the symptoms rather than the root cause. There is a thought-provoking passage in Confessions of a Communicator: People who are afraid of loneliness always like to seek communication, but communication can not be overcome once and for all. Sometimes it will deepen loneliness, and it will often drive it away.

Fourth, the forum, running all the way in the cloak of culture.

In the Internet age, there are many people rushing on the road of culture.

I took part in a debate about whether online literature will replace traditional literature. I laughed and said that online literature thought that wearing a pony jacket could lead the new trend of an era. We don't know whether the era of online literature will come, but what we can see is that many people are bent on catching turtles for nine days in the forum. The emergence of online forums has undoubtedly ignited the dreams of many writers in the ashes of time and cultivated countless young artists. Of course, not everyone in the forum wants to be a professional writer. Among them, some people just pour water, express their opinions, make some friends or simply kill time.

The freedom of the forum has led to the prosperity and proliferation of network culture. People stay here only because publishing articles is no longer as difficult and dangerous as entering temples in the past. There are not a few editors who ignore these articles. Once published, someone immediately echoed and praised it loudly. After all, the article is someone else's "child". If it is great and praised, you will feel comfortable. Mochow didn't know that there was great joy ahead, and everyone knew you. As mentioned earlier, everyone has a sense of social group identity. Performance in the forum, is to get some click-through rate. I hope that mice will flock to me as soon as my article is posted. And from time to time, I have to look back and see if some people reply. Can I not be addicted? As the saying goes, if you stay in the Woods for a long time, you will also talk about a few birds. Newcomers who just came to the forum may have just read the article and found that, oh, that's what the article was written. After reading too much, I can't help wondering, alas, the original article can still be written like this. Slowly, I began to write such a piece of tofu, ah, so the original article was really written like this. I can also write. As good as others. This is how a new era of online writers was born.

There are good and bad articles, and everyone's eyes are scanning, which is in line with their own mood. It is inevitable that someone will make peace. Besides, as Er Quan, a netizen, said, it only costs money to post something online, but you have to say a few sarcastic words after reading it. Do you have a conscience? In fact, in the forum, most people just mix their faces and sway for a long time. Maybe there will be such a group of people to follow, and the sun will shine. When you leave, you will feel inseparable, and more people will linger.

For the forum, some of them are similar to chatting, and they all belong to the exchange of words. One is an impromptu performance, and the other is a revised grand introduction. People often think that these have touched the depths of the soul and found precious water in the deserted desert, but they don't know that the network is just the sucker of the soul, sinking deeper and deeper. Behind the lively verbal communication, in the retinal impact of impression, we let ourselves rise and fall and sleepwalk. This is a group of mental blindness, aphasia, people who can't remember what life is, people who have amnesia, and a group of people who have night terrors.

Fifth, at the end of the article-it is difficult to quit the net and it is difficult to go to the sky.

It is said that people were driven out of their homes. But have people really been kicked out of their homes? People take their own metaphor as real, but they really lose it. -from the language of Wang Hongsheng.

Talking about the Internet when chatting with a friend, she said that there is nothing more fun than the Internet. Yes, just like a very popular saying: the internet is wonderful and helpless. In the network, things you have never encountered in your life may be encountered in a year. As long as you are willing to spend time and energy, you can play any role online. Perhaps it is precisely because the Internet is fun, and because it brings people back from the dead, it is difficult to quit the Internet and go to heaven and earth. People can choose to live in any form of network: chat, games, forums. If one place is tired, you can move to another place. Tired for a period of time, you can disappear and save your strength to regenerate and find your original feeling. When people can't find more interesting places and attractive things, they will linger and sink into them. Whipped by a lonely whip, he haunts an invisible virtual city, like a crazy solo elf, looking for a way to escape.

I've written many articles about the Internet, and I've quit it again and again. In an article "The Years of Farewell to the Internet", I wrote: In the Internet, all loneliness and inner desires have been awakened, but there is no exit, and all pain has been peeled off layer by layer, but there is no cure. After you completely walked into the net door full of temptation and beauty, one day when you had to return to reality, you found that the doors to the ordinary happy world were closed in front of me. You found that you were actually exiled in a lonely wilderness, surrounded by cold and hard iron walls.

Perhaps only by walking, will we really keep a certain distance from the network, will we not sink in the network and let ourselves rise and fall, and will we not give up things around us and contact a virtual world. People without faith will always follow their inner desires and wander in the world, while people with faith will move forward in thorns. No one can tell us what happiness in life is. But one thing is certain, as Schopenhauer said, learning proper self-restraint and control can effectively help us knock on the door of happiness in life.

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Lindong psychology forum