TED English Speech: It's not good for you to think you are ugly.

? Am I ugly? How much does self-image affect you? TED speaker Meaghan Ramsey said that this influence will not only reduce self-esteem, but also lead to many behavioral problems. Harm physical and mental health. But how did such a huge impact happen? The following are my collected speeches about ted English: It is not good for you to think that you are ugly. Welcome to learn from them.

It's not good for you to think you are ugly.

This is my niece Stella. She just turned one year old and began to walk. The way she walks is really cool, just like a one-year-old child, a little wobbly, and my body moves too fast. It is absolutely gorgeous. One of her favorite things to do at the moment is to stare at herself in the mirror. She absolutely likes her reflection. She giggled and screamed and gave herself these big, wet kisses. Very beautiful. Obviously, all her friends do this. My mother told me that I used to do this, which made me think: When did I stop doing this? When did you suddenly stop loving your looks? Because obviously we didn't.

This is my niece Stella. She just turned one year old and began to learn to walk. She is walking in a very cool way that a one-year-old child usually uses. Her body swings much faster than her legs. This is really interesting. One of her favorite things is staring at herself in the mirror. She likes herself in the mirror very much. She laughed and shouted, and then gave herself several big wet kisses in front of the mirror. Very beautiful. Obviously, all her friends did this, and then my mother said that I did the same thing when I was a child, which made me think of a question: When did I stop doing this? Since when do we suddenly stop liking our looks? Because obviously we don't do that anymore.

Every month, 10 thousand people use Google to search "am I ugly?" This is Faye. Faye's number is 13. She lives in Denver. Like any teenager, she just wants to be liked and integrated into society. It's Sunday night. She is preparing for next week at school. She is a little scared, and she is a little confused, because although her mother keeps telling her that she is beautiful, people say that she is ugly at school every day. Because what her mother told her was different from what her friends or peers at school told her, she didn't know who to trust. So, she made a video for herself. She posted it on YouTube and asked people to leave comments: "Am I beautiful or am I ugly?" So far, Faye has received more than 13000 comments. Some of them are so annoying that they don't want to think about it. This is the feedback that an ordinary girl who looks healthy received when she was emotionally vulnerable in her life. Thousands of people posted such videos, most of them teenage girls, to lend a helping hand in this way. But what caused them to do so?

Ten thousand people search on Google every month? Am I ugly? This is Faye. She 13 years old lives in Denver. Like all teenagers, she wants to be liked by others and get along well with others. It's Sunday night. She is preparing for school life next week. She is a little scared and confused, because although her mother keeps telling her that she is beautiful, every day at school, people say she is ugly. Because what her mother told her was different from what her friends or peers at school told her, she didn't know who to trust. So, she filmed a video for herself and put it on YouTube, and then she asked everyone to comment: Am I beautiful or ugly? Up to now, Faye has received more than 13000 comments. Some of them are obscene and not worth mentioning. This is an ordinary, healthy-looking girl's reply at the most emotionally fragile time in her life. Thousands of people upload such videos, most of them are teenage girls, and they contact the outside world in this way. But what caused them to do so?

Well, teenagers today are rarely alone. They are under pressure to be online at any time, chatting, sending messages, liking, commenting, sharing and posting? It will never end. We have never been so closely linked, so continuously linked, so instantly linked, so young. As a mother told me, it's like having a party in their bedroom every night. There is no privacy at all. The social pressure that follows is ruthless. This always-on environment is training our children to evaluate themselves according to the number of likes they get and the types of comments they receive. There is no difference between online life and offline life. It's hard to tell what's true from what's not. And it's really hard to tell what is real and what is digitally processed. What is the bright spot in one's life and what is the normal state in daily life.

Teenagers today are seldom alone. They are forced to surf the Internet at any time and stay online, chatting, sending messages, liking, commenting, sharing and uploading endlessly. We have never been so closely linked, we are so endless, so fast and so young. As a mother told me, there seems to be a party in their bedroom every night. There is absolutely no privacy. And the social pressure that follows is also cruel. This always-on environment trains our children to affirm their value through the number of likes they get and the comments they receive. Without the distinction between online and offline, it is difficult to distinguish between what is real and what is not, and it is also difficult to distinguish between reality and virtual world. I can't tell the difference between everyday life and good times.

Where do they look for inspiration? Well, you can see all kinds of pictures covered on the girl news today. Model zero still dominates our runway. Ink painting is very common now. And trends such as # thinspiration, #thighgap, #bikinibridge and #proana. For those who don't know, # proana means to support anorexia. These trends are combined with the stereotyping and overt materialization of women in today's popular culture. It's not hard to see what girls are measuring themselves against. But boys are not immune. Eager for chiseled jaw lines and six packs of superhero sports stars and playboy music artists.

So where did their inspiration come from? You can look at the image of the girl who appeared in various news today. ? Zero? Models still dominate the catwalk. Now retouching photos are also very common. The current trends are # slimming, # thigh spacing, # bikini bridge and # Anna exercise. For those who don't understand this, # Anna Movement means supporting anorexia. These trends are combined with the stereotype and publicity of women in today's popular culture. It is not difficult to see how girls position themselves. But boys are not immune. They are eager to have the chiseled jaw lines and six-pack ABS that hero sports stars and playboy music artists have.

But what's wrong with all this? Of course, we want our children to grow into healthy and balanced individuals. But in a culture obsessed with image, we are training our children to spend more time and energy on appearance at the expense of all other aspects of their identity. Therefore, their interpersonal relationship, the development of their physical ability and their studies have all begun to be affected. /kloc-6 out of 0 girls now choose not to do something because they think they are not beautiful enough. These are not insignificant activities. These are their basic activities as human development and as contributors to society and labor force. 3 1% of teenagers (nearly one third) withdrew from the classroom debate. They didn't take part in the class debate because they didn't want others to notice their appearance. One in five people don't go to class at all when they are in a bad mood. When taking an exam, if you think you don't look good enough, especially if you think you are not thin enough, your GPA will be lower than that of your peers who don't pay attention to this. This is the same in Finland, the United States and China, regardless of your actual weight. So be super clear, we are talking about what you think you look like, not what you actually look like. Lack of confidence in the body will affect academic performance.

But what's the problem with all these performances? We certainly hope that our children will grow into a healthy and balanced individual. But in such a culture obsessed with appearance, we are training our children to spend more time and energy on appearance instead of spending less energy on other aspects of identity. As a result, they will be frustrated in interpersonal relationships, physical development and learning. Now/kloc-6 out of 0 girls won't do something because they think they are not pretty. These are not trivial matters. These are the foundations for the development of human beings and social and workplace participants. There are 3 1%, which means that nearly one-third of teenagers will withdraw from the classroom debate. They resigned because they didn't want others to notice their looks. One fifth of teenagers don't even go to class when they feel uncomfortable. In the exam, if you feel that you are not good-looking, especially if you feel that you are not slim enough, you may get a lower average score than those students who don't care about it. It's the same in Finland, the United States and China. It doesn't matter what your real weight is. So obviously, we are talking about what you think you look like, not what you really look like.

But it also harms health. Teenagers who lack confidence in their bodies seldom take part in sports activities, eat less fruits and vegetables and participate in more unhealthy weight control activities, which may lead to eating disorders. They have low self-esteem. They are more susceptible to the influence of people around them and have a greater risk of depression. We believe that it is for all these reasons that they take greater risks on issues such as alcoholism and drug abuse; Crash diet; Cosmetic surgery; Unprotected early sexual behavior; And self-harm The pursuit of perfect figure has put pressure on our medical system and cost our government billions of dollars every year.

Lack of confidence in the body will weaken academic performance. But also harmful to health. Teenagers who lack confidence in their bodies will take less part in sports activities and eat less fruits and vegetables, but will take more part in unhealthy weight control training that may lead to eating disorders. Their self-esteem will also be lower. They are more influenced by people around them and have a higher risk of depression. Based on the above reasons, we think they have higher risks to do some things, such as drinking, taking drugs, losing weight quickly, plastic surgery, unprotected sex and self-harm. The pursuit of perfect figure puts pressure on the medical system and costs the government billions of dollars every year.

We won't grow up. Women who think they are overweight? Again, whether they are or not. The absenteeism rate is higher. 17% of women will not interview when they are not confident about their appearance.

And we will not give up the pursuit of perfect figure because we grow up. Women who think they are overweight will have a higher absenteeism rate whether they are really overweight or not. 17% of women will not attend the interview because they will feel insecure about their appearance one day.

Think about what this will do to our economy. If we can overcome this, what will this opportunity look like? It is in everyone's interest to release this potential.

Think about what this will do to our economy. If we can overcome these, what opportunities will it bring? Unleashing this potential will benefit all of us.

But how do we do it? Well, the conversation itself can only take you so far. It is not enough by itself. If you really want to make a difference, you must do something. We know that there are three key methods: the first is that we must educate our bodies to be confident. We must help teenagers formulate strategies to overcome the pressure related to image and build their self-esteem. Now, the good news is that there are many programs that can do this. The bad news is that most of them don't work. I was shocked to learn that many well-intentioned plans actually made the situation worse. So we need to make sure that the programs our children are receiving not only have a positive impact, but also have a lasting impact.

But how can we do it? Empty talk can only stop here. It is not enough by itself. If you really want to change, you must do something. We know that there are three key methods here: first, we must cultivate our confidence in our bodies. We must help teenagers come up with strategies to overcome the pressure related to image and build their self-esteem. The good news is that there are already many such projects. The bad news is that most of these projects have no effect. I was shocked to learn that many well-intentioned projects inadvertently made the situation worse. Therefore, we should ensure that the projects our children are receiving not only have a positive impact on them, but also have a lasting impact.

Research shows that the best projects involve six key areas: the first is the influence of family, friends and interpersonal relationships. The second is the media and celebrity culture, and then how to deal with teasing and bullying. How do we talk about appearances according to the way they compete and compare with each other? Some people call it "body talk" or "fat talk"? Finally, respect and take care of your own foundation. For anyone who seriously implements effective physical self-confidence education, these six things are crucial starting points. Education is very important, but solving this problem requires each of us to stand up and set a better example for the women and girls in our lives. Challenge how to look at and talk about the status quo of women in our own circles.

We can't judge politicians' contributions by their hairstyles or chest sizes, nor can we infer that an Olympic athlete's determination or success depends on her looks. We need to start judging people by what they do, not by their looks.

We can all start by being responsible for the types of pictures and comments we post on social networks. We can praise people according to their efforts and actions rather than their appearance.

Research shows that the best projects are related to six key areas: first, the influence of family and friends. Secondly, the media and celebrity culture, then how to deal with ridicule and bullying, and how to compete and compare with others according to their looks. Some people call the discussion of looks "body language"? Or? Obesity topic? Finally, it is the basis for you to respect and examine yourself. For those who really want to achieve effective physical self-confidence education, these six things are a crucial starting point. Education is very important, but solving this problem requires all of us to improve ourselves and become better role models for women and girls in life. Challenge us how to look at and talk about the status quo of women in the circle. We can't judge a politician's contribution only by her hairstyle and bust, or infer that an Olympic athlete won't succeed because of her poor looks. We need to judge people by what they do, not by their looks. We can start by being responsible for the pictures and comments we post on social networks. We can praise people according to their efforts and actions rather than their looks.

Let me ask you, when was the last time you kissed the mirror? In the end, we need to work together as a community, government and enterprises to truly change our culture, so that our children can attach importance to their overall value, individuality, diversity and inclusiveness when they grow up. We need to put those who really make a difference on our platform and let them make a difference in the real world. Give them time to play, because only in this way can we create a different world. In this world, our children are free to be the best themselves, and they think that the way they look will never prevent them from becoming themselves or realizing the life they want.

Let me ask you, when was the last time you kissed in front of the mirror? In the end, we need to work together with communities, governments and enterprises to change these cultures, so that our children can get a complete self when they grow up, and attach importance to individuality, diversity and tolerance. We should let those who are changing our present situation change the real world. Give them time, because only in this way can we create a different world, a world where our children are free to be the best of themselves, and a world where their appearance will not prevent them from becoming what they want to be or getting what they want.

Think about what this means to someone in your life. Who do you have in mind? Is that your wife? Your sister? Your daughter? Your niece? Your friend? Today may be just a woman a few seats away from you. What would it mean to her if she got rid of her inner criticism and stopped nagging about having longer legs, thinner thighs, smaller belly and shorter feet? If we overcome this and release her potential in this way, what does it mean to her?

Think about what this means to someone in your life. Who do you have in mind? Your wife? Your sister? Your daughter? Your niece? Or a friend of yours? Or maybe it's just some woman who is a few seats away from you today. What does this mean to her? If she can get rid of the nagging voice in her heart, she should have longer and thinner thighs, thinner belly and shorter feet. What does it mean to her if we can overcome these difficulties and develop her potential in this field?

Now, our culture's obsession with image hinders the development of all of us. But let's tell our children the truth. Let's show them that your appearance is only part of your identity. The truth is that we love them because of who they are, what they do and how they make us feel. Let's build up self-esteem in the school curriculum. Let each of us change the way we speak and compare with others. Let's work together as a community from the grassroots to the government to make today's happy one-year-old children become confident changers tomorrow. Let's get started. (Applause)