How to cooperate with colleagues happily?

When the secret spread to every corner of the company in the blink of an eye, I found that my colleagues were really unfit to be friends.

However, the workplace is a complex environment. In the workplace, cooperation with others is essential.

Not much to say, according to years of work experience, the following are seven ways to communicate with colleagues:

First, do what you want.

It is both the most basic and the most useful. Talking to colleagues and doing what you like is empathy.

Colleagues who worked overtime until late at night yesterday had better not drag him to talk about last night's ball game today; Colleagues who don't like gossip, it's best not to talk to her about entertainment stars.

To find the answers people want in their hearts and express them in words.

For example, what do you think when you hear the sentence "Sorry, this shirt is the only one left" in the mall?

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of thinking results: the first is that others pick the rest, and the second is that this dress is very hot.

So if we want to buy it, what kind of answer do we want? It's the second kind.

So, if you are a shop assistant, what should you say? It's definitely not the first one, but "this kind of shirt sells very fast, and this is the last one."

If you want to convince others, you should think about what the other person wants and then lead the words in that direction.

For example, on the plane, flight attendants often give priority to beef when distributing meals, resulting in a large surplus of fish.

Newcomers often don't know what to do. When the newcomer was at a loss, an elder said, "Look at me! 」

So she said, "There are high-quality herbs, natural rock salt rich in minerals, white fish fried with raw black pepper, and beef in the machine. 」

This expression is to think about what you want from your point of view, and then think about how to reach your heart in my language.

Second, it is evil.

Everyone has something they hate. For example, in the workplace, what everyone hates most is to send WeChat without returning.

And no matter what you say, everyone has reason to tell you why you don't reply.

In this case, you can say: "There are countless problems caused by not returning to WeChat. I hope everyone will pay attention to it. 」

Telling the consequences of doing so will naturally save a lot of trouble.

We have seen many similar communication rules in our life, and everyone should have seen such a warning: "Don't touch the exhibits. 」

Exhibitors don't want anyone to touch the exhibits. But someone is always short of hands, so be sure to touch them.

Why? Because people are always rebellious, if you don't let me touch them, I will.

What if you write like this? "If coated with drugs, please don't touch. The effect will be much better.

When you don't want others to do anything, you have to say something bad, that is, "doing evil."

Warn each other clearly, don't do this.

This kind of communication can still be put into life. In The So-called High Emotional Intelligence is Talking, there is a story about Yuichi Ando (a pseudonym) who has been married for 25 years. She has been sulking alone all these years, because her husband can't cover the toilet seat after going to the toilet.

If the toilet lid is open, Yu Yi is worried that the cat at home will go to the toilet to drink water, so she has to remind: "Close the toilet lid. Will the husband listen? Absolutely not.

Yu Yi once thought about letting go, but later she learned to be smart and communicated in a different way: "I heard that if you can't fit the toilet seat, you will lose your wealth." The next day, the husband took the initiative to close the toilet lid.

There is another story. In a restaurant, there are a group of mothers with children and many wage earners eating. The shop assistant has a headache because the children are not only noisy, but even leave their seats and run around on the ground.

Qi Teng, the manager, came to the mothers' tables and made a request to the mothers who were having a pleasant conversation: "In order to avoid disturbing other guests, would you please let the children sit in their seats? 」

But my mothers only reminded me a few words and left it alone.

The older the wiser. When Qi Teng finished his story, he said, "The food just cooked is very hot. If you spill it when you serve it, it will cause serious burns to your child. Can you get the children back to their seats? 」

Sure enough, the mothers immediately put the children back in their seats.

The same is true in life. It will be much better to tell the consequences that the other person hates.

For example, the owner of a bookstore wrote a slogan to prevent others from stealing books: "Stealing books is a crime! It's no use. Later, he consulted the author and changed the new announcement: "Thanks to everyone's help, we caught the thief. Thank you. As a result, the phenomenon of stealing books is greatly reduced. Because it can cause a great deterrent.