People in this life, how can we live to understand, not in vain?

How can a person live a clear life? If he is old, his life has not been in vain, and he will not regret it.

Yu-Ching Fei has an old song "Yuanxiao": "The stars and moonlight keep turning, and life is life. Things change in cold and warm, and life is like Yuanxiao."

I first learned that this song was read in Mr. Lin Qingxuan's book. He said that he would think of this song every New Year, the circulation of the stars and the moon, and the brevity of time. When I think about the vicissitudes of life, my joys and sorrows keep turning ... He said, at this time, I will feel that as long as I can cherish tonight this year and cherish this mutual affection, it is the happiness of life.

Life is like a play, but it is not a play. There is no rehearsal and no beginning. We don't have a script, we can only grope and try to go on step by step according to everything in front of us. Maybe there will be a lot of regrets, maybe there will be a lot of helplessness, but there will also be many surprises. These are all processes that we need to undertake bravely. Without these helplessness and regrets, there is no value in experiencing surprises, and you don't know how to cherish them. As long as you cherish every moment of your life, you can live in vain once. When you are old and look back on your life, you can happily say "no regrets" to yourself.

0 1 Be good today.

Mr. Lin Qingxuan recorded a childhood story in the book:

At that time, dad asked them to clean the fallen leaves. In order to clean them all at once, they shook the tree hard, hoping that all the leaves on the tree would fall off and there would be no need to clean them tomorrow.

However, no matter how they shook it, only a few leaves fell off, so they had to give up the idea of taking shortcuts. The next day, when the leaves fell all over the floor, they went to clean them honestly.

Therefore, when Mr. Lin Qingxuan recalled this incident, he got an inspiration: after sweeping today's fallen leaves, tomorrow's leaves will not fall today, so don't worry about tomorrow, but try to live this moment today.

Yes, today's leaves will only fall today, because it can only fall today, which is the reality that you can touch before your eyes; No matter how you shake the tree, the leaves will not fall tomorrow, because it is not the time to fall, and that is the unknown future.

Aren't we always thinking about tomorrow, which makes us absent-minded when doing today's things? Some people even hold the idea of one step at a time and don't want to start step by step. When we get old, we won't know what it means to be young. We can only "hate for a long time, when to rest".

Therefore, if a person can grasp the reality of life in front of him, try to live at this moment today, and live wholeheartedly in the present, no difficulty can catch him, and no pain can shake him. Especially when life is fluctuating, uneasy, painful and messy, this is also the most effective and simple method.

Mo Wen harvests, but requires cultivation.

At school, there is always a slogan in the classroom: "Mo Wen gets what he gets, but only strives for diligence", which is the motto of Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty. But in fact, students remember this sentence, but they do little.

For most students, their "hard work" is to finish their homework and take notes, so their grades can only be considered average; For a few scholars, their "efforts" are far from superficial. They will supplement a lot of new knowledge, give themselves a clear plan, and use their limited free time to learn more new knowledge and master it.

In this way, the distance between students is opened here.

What students should undertake is the process of continuous learning and progress on the basis of learning existing knowledge well; What adults have to undertake is the process of constantly improving themselves on the basis of maintaining their immediate lives. These processes are cultivation. And the final harvest is gradually accumulated in this solid foundation and repeated promotion.

Su Shi had a nightmare of reciting four books and five classics, but his erudition was cultivated step by step from these foundations. Later generations only saw that he was brilliant in literature and learned from ancient times to the present, but they didn't know how much he had experienced along the way, how much he had undertaken, and how he cultivated himself in these experiences.

After being exiled several times, ordinary people have long been depressed and give up on themselves. On the other hand, Su Shi was able to enjoy his exile. In his eyes, exile is also the life he needs to face. So there was "300 lychees a day, and I didn't hesitate to grow up to be a Lingnan person", and there was also a famous dish of later generations, "Dongpo Meat" and "Dongpo Elbow".

Unfortunately, many people can't do this now, either in nostalgia for the past, in fear of the future, or in indecision between several expectations and choices, thus living in constant mistakes and regrets.

The greatest meaning of life is not to go to a certain goal, but to undertake every process. Therefore, what we can do is to take every step that we can grasp in front of us under any circumstances, and every step must be practical and steady, so that we can not miss the past and not be afraid of the future.

Look at life from another angle

As the saying goes, nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory. No one can do nothing wrong all his life, and no one can regret it all his life. In our short life, unpleasant things account for the vast majority. Therefore, living is painful in itself.

However, there are always things that are satisfying, happy and gratifying. It is that 890% disappointment that sets off the value of 120%.

Therefore, if you want to live a happy life, don't immerse yourself in that 80% or 90% disappointment, so the road of life will get narrower and narrower until you can't see the direction clearly and get lost in the boundless life; Think more about the beauty of 120%, so that you can feel lucky to be alive, know how to cherish what you have in front of you, so that you will not be knocked down, and then you can get a clear picture.

Just like Fu Gui in To Be Alive, he spent his whole life in confusion. In the end, he realized that one's life is to live for the sake of living. His life bears the life that a big family has never experienced, and the existence of people and things that he loved and owned. Although his life is full of pain and helplessness, many times he has no right to choose his own life, but without those pasts, he can't be who he is now. Fu Gui's life was not in vain.

Therefore, when we look at our life from another angle, we will find that everyone has not lived in vain. In fact, everyone lives clearly. Every stage you go to is the result of your own choice. Every node you meet is a new beginning, depending on how you grasp, understand and undertake it.