Montessori children's educational language norms

Dr. Montessori said, "Everything we do to a child will have a result, which not only affects his life, but also determines his life."

Change begins with language, learn to use standardized language, and let children really grow up in an environment of love and respect. Parents are their children's first teachers, so their languages are more consistent and their children grow up more smoothly. Jianzhong Kindergarten launches language specification sharing every week. I hope parents can use it at home!

Lesson 5: This is your choice.

Linguistic connotation

When a person makes a choice, it means that he may give up another choice, which is the "opportunity cost". Everyone needs to be responsible for their own choices.

usage scenario

(1) In sports group activities, children are divided into two groups. The rule is that once a group is selected, it is not allowed to change groups until the end of a game. A child wanted to go to another group halfway, but the teacher refused. He began to lose his temper and began to cry.

Teacher: "this is your choice, and you are responsible for your choice."

(2) During online activities, the teacher said that you can choose one of the two story books, so that children can make a choice and decide which one to tell according to the principle that the minority is subordinate to the majority. Most children raised their hands and chose A. The teacher agreed to tell a story. Three pages after the lecture, some children regretted it and asked the teacher to change the story.

Teacher: "This is your choice. If you choose A, you have to accept A, and you are responsible for your choice. "

Application prompt

It's your choice "and" it's your refusal "are both descriptions of taking responsibility. When we have the freedom to choose, it means that we must be responsible for our own choices. I'm in charge.-I'm in charge. This should be a closed-loop system with clear boundaries, but many parents and teachers have blurred it, easily crossing the boundary between us and our children and taking responsibility for them, thinking that they are doing them good and loving them. Actually, it's just the opposite. Take eating as an example. Eating is a person's most basic need and should be a child's own business. However, grandparents, parents and teachers all took over this matter and turned eating from a child's business into an adult's business. Therefore, we get angry easily and try our best to lure our children to eat, fearing that they will be hungry, but the children are not in a hurry. It's your business, not mine. The result is naturally doomed: more and more children are picky eaters, eat badly and suffer from malnutrition, which is not caused by children, but by adults.

In Yuan Bo's class, at lunch time, the children cook by themselves, decide how much to eat and decide whether to add more meals. At first, parents will worry that their children will eat less, but the result is just the opposite. We compared the amount of children's meals before and after meals allocated to them by the teacher and taken by ourselves.

Therefore, give children freedom and tell them the results they should bear, and they will take the initiative to think and judge. No matter whether they are right at first, they will eventually learn to make the right choice, and this process of thinking and judging is his most precious growth process.