How should everyone spend the low tide of life?

In the process of growing up, we are at a certain stage, a certain period, a certain situation, an atmosphere, or something; Make us angry, sad, depressed, depressed, or inexplicably sad. This kind of emotion makes people very depressed, tangled, wronged, especially lost and disappointed, which is difficult to solve. Such emotions make people very depressed, and even lose the courage to continue to live. Those who have experienced the frustration of college entrance examination, the abandonment of family, the betrayal of love, the misfortune of marriage, the misunderstanding of caring people and the pressure of survival must understand this despair.

Everyone who has gone through the college entrance examination knows that the classroom of senior three is full of slogans such as "knowledge changes fate", "I'd rather suffer for a while than all my life", "I advise you not to cherish gold clothes, I advise you to cherish youth", "As long as you don't learn to die, learn from the dead" and "If you shed blood and sweat, you won't fall behind". There are all kinds of abnormal slogans, urging students to move forward bravely. Before storm warning in Black June, every student was studying crazily. Eating steamed bread in one hand and rushing to the classroom with a book in the other; There are also crazy endorsements in the toilet; After the lights are turned off at night, some students are reading under the covers with flashlights. The review materials on the desk are like a wall blocking the outside world; Just wait for the thunder of the storm to blow it up.

I never mentioned it to anyone. I always had a low fever one month before the college entrance examination. Looking at the countdown on the right side of the blackboard, the college entrance examination is getting closer. I really can't sleep at night. I study until 2 am, and I can't control myself from morning self-study to the first two classes in the morning. No matter how hard you try, you can't get up. You will always be in the same class as 1 1. This vicious circle makes my mind collapse frequently and my body will be overdrawn. On Sunday afternoon, I only rest every week and dare not go home. I sit alone on the side of the road and watch the passing cars, as if the world at this time has nothing to do with me. I feel scared when I think about it now.

At that time, my heart was too fragile to find a solution to the pressure. Pay too much attention to the results that didn't happen, and don't balance the relationship between action and results. When we are faced with pressure, we should not just suppress ourselves, but learn to communicate and resolve, and find ways to make ourselves suddenly enlightened. Don't overestimate the consequences of failure, look for ways to bear it. When our hearts are strong, we have done our best, so leave the rest to fate. At least we won it with no regrets.

About affection: when we are young, we will face a lot of confusion and be at a loss. However, some people suffered various shadows in their childhood. The family education is rough, the living environment is bad, and there are superstitious customs. Many rural families prefer boys to girls, even superstitious, and some abandoned their children and sold them to their parents for divorce. The children who grew up in these families are either paranoid and have strong self-esteem, or cowardly and inferior. In this way, children even have a strong desire to get rid of this environment, this kind of affection. We don't have the right to choose birth and family. In an unhealthy family environment and unhealthy family relationship, when we realize that our living environment and unhealthy family relationship are bothering us, we should adjust our mentality. If you can't change others, change yourself, seek a healthy lifestyle and influence the people you love. I remember my cousin told me: "If you want to make your family happy, if you want your relatives to think that you are right, you must work hard to be yourself and they will be convinced."

Whether it is family, friendship or love, the most unbearable thing is betrayal. The magic of love, sometimes family or friendship can't compare. Affection is the thickness of blood ties, friendship is the width, and love is pure. There is no sand in love and there is no room for betrayal. In the process of love, one party, not distracted or serious, can feel it. Love can be accommodated, but the magical sixth sense can detect betrayal and lies.

A friend found out that her husband was cheating during her pregnancy the night before the baby drank full moon wine. This old story of dog blood made her believe in love collapse. During the period of love, although there were fights, some of them broke up. Without too many big waves, she naturally walked into the marriage hall. She thinks this is fate or predestination, because she is practical, she still feels very happy. When her husband accompanied him out of the delivery room and looked at the baby lying on the side and her husband in front of her, she felt her heart was melting. However, when he happened to find the chat record of dating a stranger, he suddenly had a lifelong dislike for this person. She finally tasted what people call the feeling of angry meat jumping.

Still similar to the bridge on TV series. The man knelt on the ground to admit his mistake, slapped himself and kept explaining. She and her mother-in-law who served her carefully cried a lot and went straight into the bathroom to turn on the tap. From head to toe, water is cold. She tried to sober herself up and tell herself what to do. She tried to wash away her dirty and disgusting life. She never thought about divorce. I stayed up all night, my eyes were red and swollen with tears, I got up early to make up, and I forced a smile to face my family at the full moon banquet. No one found anything unusual. In the second month of the child, she reported to the driving school and got a driver's license. She went to work and talked less and less. It may be that he is consciously indefensible, and he rarely talks, just facing the mobile phone every day.

After two or three months of peaceful coexistence, the man fell asleep with his mobile phone in his arms at night. She took her mobile phone to help him charge, and the phone turned on. What he read was all yellow novels, which was unsightly. She didn't talk about her friends in high school and university. She is touching a boy that she can catch up with. Although married, she found that she had never met or waited. She was disappointed in love and despaired of the present life. The next day, she took her children to the railway station and bought a ticket to Xiamen. She wants to choose to live in this city with the sea, and no one knows herself.

When she came here, she thought that her college roommate was in this city and really came to this beautiful and fresh city. Her heart lit up and she felt that she had made the right choice for the first time. I took my six-month-old child to the classical and beautiful Xiamen University to pay tribute to Mr. Lu Xun, saw the most beautiful plumeria, and wrote my own and my daughter's names in the Lotus Cave. Went to the romantic Baicheng beach and watched the most beautiful sunset; Make a wish at the efficacious Nanputuo Temple; Take the baby to Gulangyu Island full of classical and petty bourgeoisie sentiment; And some unknown streets. I really didn't think that such two people could have such a mood. A week later, my mother-in-law found Xiamen with her husband. Did Xiamen cure her? I chose to come to this beautiful city and let her stick to it. I want to go down on my knees on the road I choose, just to change my mentality. If she doesn't choose Xiamen. No matter what kind of pain, loss will always hurt for a while, maybe it's time, maybe it's distraction. "Don't always put your eggs in one basket." Don't put all your eggs in one basket, try your best to be yourself.

The misunderstanding of people who care will be lost, and the pressure of survival will be lost, but we take these too seriously. Everything must be supported by a belief, because you care, you must believe that this is an inseparable relationship. If you stand the test, misunderstanding is nothing. To live is to continue to live. Only when there is pressure can there be motivation. If you put pressure on yourself, ask yourself if it is worth it. Abandon the burden, subtract life, go into battle lightly, and your efforts will not be lost.

How to spend the low tide of life? Try to love yourself and live a passionate life, all setbacks will be bypassed, we will experience it strongly and face it strongly, so we will not have a low tide in life.