How to refuse others to be guests at home?

There will always be friends, relatives, neighbors, classmates, colleagues and so on around us in life. We have been together for a long time, and it is normal to ask for help from each other. If we can do it, we should try our best. If some requests made by the other party are beyond our personal ability, it is difficult or impossible for us to provide help, and we will refuse. Then how to refuse others and keep peace? The knowledge of rejection is great. Here I give you some advice I know, hoping to help you.

Generally, we are faced with the help of neighbors, relatives, friends and colleagues, but the most difficult thing to deal with is between colleagues and superiors.

Tip 1: If you can't refuse in person immediately, you can say, "Let me think about it or ask someone to check with my family, and I'll call you back this afternoon (to show honesty).

Tip 2: Don't blurt out a refusal. Think carefully from the other person's point of view-be sure to show that you understand the importance of this requirement.

Tip 3: Focus on things, not people. Be sure to let the other person know that it is his request that you refuse, not his own.

Tip 4: After refusing, it is best to point out other feasible ways to deal with their demands.

Tip 5: Listen patiently to each other's demands. Even if you already know that the other person must refuse in the middle of speaking, you should listen to your family. That is to show respect for it, but also to understand the main meaning of its requirements more accurately.

Tip 6: Be happy when you refuse. First of all, thank the other person for thinking of you when you need help, and apologize slightly. Note that excessive apology will give people the impression of dishonesty.

Tip 7: Be firm. You can't change your mind just because the other party is convinced again, because it will leave room for manoeuvre for the other party and is irresponsible to yourself and others. Even delay each other's work and sow unpleasant seeds between the two sides.

Tip 8: You must point out the reasons for refusing. It is best to point out sincere and logical reasons for refusal, which is helpful to maintain the original relationship. If you feel that the reasons for refusing are not sufficient, you can also refuse directly without giving a clear reason.

Tip 9: Never refuse through a third party. Rejection through a third party is enough to show a person's cowardice and lack of sincerity.

Hint 10: Avoid ambiguous answers. Let's think again, the person who talks like this may think it is a refusal, but the other person thinks that you really want to find a way for him, so it will delay the other party, so don't refuse the other party like this.

In short, before you say "no", you must let the other person know the difficulty and apology of your refusal, be sincere and gentle. Before refusing, the interests of the other party must be considered to be satisfactory.