Who says it's the same for boys and girls? It's just different!

In the evening, standing at the gate of the community waiting for someone.

When a strange aunt passed by, she suddenly stopped and asked, "Is the baby coming soon?"

Looking at the bulging big bag on her stomach, she smiled and replied, "Well, it's almost a month away."

The aunt glanced at the big bag again and asked, "Is it a boy?"

stunned, he replied, "I don't know, I didn't look it up."

Auntie nodded her head, leaving a sentence "It must be a boy, this stomach is so sharp" with certainty, and then she left me alone with a dull face.

This kind of scene has appeared several times since she became pregnant. Colleagues, friends, uncles and aunts in the community will always discuss whether it is a boy or a girl when they see me. In most cases, I don't know whether it is based on "experience" or "scientific research", or simply that most people like boys' social etiquette, and most people conclude that "the baby must be a boy".

if you want to say, "isn't it all the same to have boys and girls?" What are you doing with so much entanglement? " Then you are wrong, there are many people who are entangled.

In my parents' time, most families liked boys for two main reasons: first, China's traditional thought that "men can carry on the family line"; second, in those days, men meant productivity, while women were often an extra ration at home, so there was a saying that they lost money. I don't know if this idea of "having a boy is a glorious ancestor" is particularly prominent in other places, but in my hometown, a small town in southern Fujian, this idea is still deeply rooted even today.

My mother is a "disappointing" woman in the eyes of the neighborhood in the street, because all the three girls who scampered out of my mother's stomach were baby girls. According to my mother, when I was a child, everyone lived in a small courtyard next to every household instead of the current commercial housing. Because my father works outside all the year round, there are only her and three starving daughters at home, so I am often bullied, and my neighbor's aunt even throws water at my yard. Perhaps it was the "inferiority complex" buried at that time, or perhaps it was due to a strong maternal love. Today, my mother's character still has a strong tendency to be reasonable and tide over others, and I am afraid that a little bit of it will be looked down upon by others.

In fact, it is not only the neighborhood in the street that treats women who can only give birth to girls differently, but even the father who loved his three daughters to the bone from childhood has been lost. I heard from my aunt that when I was about to be born, as an old man, everyone thought it would be a boy this time. My father, who was far away in Shenzhen, was also happily rushing home with bags of supplements to prepare for the birth of "Golden Knot" and planned to put on a big table to celebrate. But as a result, I was still a man without a handle, and once again let my relatives and friends see the joke. Not long after I was born, my father also went back to Shenzhen angrily. Although it still sounds a little cold in my heart, my father's love for me has really existed for more than 2 years. It's just a human concept and it's really a helpless thing. Buried in the blood, there is no blame.

Perhaps it is because of the sense of crisis that there are many children at home. I have learned to look at people's faces and be clever and sensible since I was a child. Most of my uncles and aunts around me are partial to me, except my grandmother. Actually, it's not that grandma doesn't like me. To be precise, it's that grandma doesn't like all female grandchildren except male grandchildren. Grandma has four children, two men and two women, eight female grandchildren and two "Gymboree" male grandchildren. As far as I can remember, no matter how good my sisters and I were to my grandmother, she always kept a straight face. Every time I left something delicious for her, she silently put it away and gave it to the Gymboree, no matter how much her Gymboree disliked her. After a few times, we gradually lost some enthusiasm with grandma.

I can never accept this view. Growing up, I was taught that "boys and girls are the same" and "who says women are not as good as men". In school and at work, women are not weaker than men. Why should boys be "better" than girls? What is even more incomprehensible is that there are so many women who want to embarrass themselves and look down on their own gender group.

Today, our generation has grown up, and it is time to have children and bring up the next generation. My sisters are very "competitive" and they are all boys. My mother is very cute. She named one of her two little grandchildren "Gao Gao" and the other "Fu Fu", expecting to add another grandson, who can be called "Shuai Shuai" to make up the laudatory name of "Gao Fushuai". Dad doesn't talk, but every time I say I want to have a girl, he looks unhappy. It is said that children look at pregnant women's stomachs most accurately. My family always likes to let my eldest nephew look at my stomach and ask questions like "Is it a younger brother or a younger sister?" Children always like to say younger sister for some reason. One day, when I came home from work, I heard from my second sister that my father even argued with him about it all afternoon, trying to make him change his name to younger brother, which was really ridiculous.

Even after more than 2 years, in my hometown of southern Fujian, the concept of "having a boy is better than having a girl" has not changed much. My parents are eagerly looking forward to the arrival of the next male grandson, and even threatened to return to Minnan with another boy, and the family gave out three red eggs, which also made them proud. This made the child's father listen to it and be happy, as if his male status had also risen instantly.

Actually, when I arrived in Shanghai, I found that Shanghainese and Minnan people are different, and they have another steelyard for boys or girls.

The Shanghai natives around us don't have the obsession of "boys are more important than everything" as the Minnan people do, but they are more realistic. If it really boils down to boys or girls, they may be more inclined to girls. The reason is simple: boys are "construction banks", and giving birth to boys means giving them a suite to marry their wives. What economic pressure is this in Shanghai, a city with soaring housing prices? But having a girl is different. It's China Merchants Bank, which is a business that attracts investment and makes a steady profit. According to my friends who grew up in Shanghai, some parents in Shanghai just don't leave any savings, and concentrate on making their daughters "beautiful", and then look forward to their daughters marrying into a rich family, as if this is her main business in life.

in my opinion, this idea is more acceptable. What's wrong with being realistic instead of stubbornly sticking to the puzzling idea of carrying on the family line?

nowadays, among my peers, there are different evaluation criteria for giving birth to a boy or a girl. Most female friends around me hope to have a beautiful and caring baby girl, while men seem to prefer boys. This internal reason is quite different from the thinking of the previous generation.

The reason why expectant mothers want to be a girl is simple: girls are sweet, can dress beautifully, can wear sister clothes with their mothers, can raise girls like little princesses, and let their daughters have all the "princess treatment" they didn't enjoy in their childhood. I can also teach my daughter my love experience, so that she can be invincible in the battlefield of love and marriage, and let more men fall at the feet of the princess. Boys are always naughty. When they were young, they were all dirty and didn't know how to raise them. Hide if you can. Even a colleague said that after his daughter-in-law found out that it was a boy when she was pregnant, she just sat at the door of the B-ultrasound room and cried ....... < P > The prospective fathers also had a good reason to want a boy: the boy was fine after all, but he was relieved, and he didn't have to worry about it, so it was easier. A girl is different. As a male, she knows that male pick up hot chicks is cheating, and her pick up hot chicks will be fine. What if her daughter is taken away by a bad man? If the daughter doesn't come home later in the evening, the fathers will probably have to fidget before the mother jumps.

A male colleague who is a "winner in life" with twins heard that I was looking forward to girls very much and tried to persuade me to "get lost". I gave an example:

I once teased my daughter, but I didn't know where it hurt her. Suddenly, my daughter was unhappy, and her mouth was flat and she went to complain to her mother, making him a father. The little boy won't be like this. No matter how he gropes, how to say that he educates him, even if he is unhappy at that time, he will be fine after a while. To sum up, there are two words-worry!

Then, this colleague made a rather vivid metaphor: Giving birth to a daughter is like cultivating a beautiful pot of flowers with hard work, and later, people took the flowers with them to the end.

I thought it was wrong, so I replied: Isn't that boy working hard to cultivate a tree like himself, and he finally grew into a towering tree, so he can enjoy the cool, and he was dug up by the roots .......

Isn't that right? Today, the status of women in the family is rising day by day. How many husbands do not follow their wives in everything? In some families, the status of mother-in-law will soon far surpass that of mother-in-law.

For boys and girls, men have men's concerns and women have women's considerations. The time when "having a boy is king" or "having a girl is making money" is long gone.

Although every time I tell my father that not everyone likes having boys, he always stubbornly refuses to believe me.

in less than a month, the day of unloading will come. After contributing to my job for another week or two, I will also return to the field and concentrate on going home for labor.

Laugh with colleagues: When I give birth to a baby, if it's a girl, I must "ha ha ha" three times in my circle of friends, and then post a photo of my daughter on PO, which proves that not all pointy bellies are boys, but miracles will still happen.

Colleague asked: What if it is a boy?

put away my smile, and I replied, then I will disappear from my circle of friends .....................................................................................................................................................

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