Psychological test: What is your "irritability index"?

Psychological test: What is your "irritability index"?

Are you very easily angry? What is your irritability index? The following is the psychology I recommend to everyone Test: What is your irritability index?

The following is a method for measuring IQ. Please read carefully the 25 situations listed below that may make you angry. You can use the simple rating scale below to estimate how much each situation is likely to annoy or irritate you, and then fill in the blanks after each situation.

0---You are almost never angry.

1---You are a little annoyed.

2---You are a little angry.

3---You are quite angry.

4---You are extremely angry.

Mark your answer after each question, as shown in this example:

You are driving to the airport to pick up a friend, but you have to stop and wait for a freight train to pass. 2 points

The person who answered this question estimated that his reaction value was 2, because he would be a little angry. However, after the car passed, his anger disappeared. Under normal circumstances, he estimated that he would When responding to each of the following upsets, please make your best guess based on typical circumstances. Even if they leave out many important details that may have occurred (such as what the situation was like that day, who was involved in the incident, etc.), you still need to make your best estimate.

1. You just bought a home appliance and plugged it in, only to find that it doesn’t work at all.

2. You have no choice but to be blackmailed by a repairman.

3. You and others made mistakes, but others got away with it, and your boss singled you out for judgment.

4. Your car is stuck in mud or snow.

5. You talk to others, but they ignore you.

6. Someone cheated on you.

7. In a coffee shop, when you were struggling to move four cups of coffee to the front of your table, someone bumped into you and all the coffee spilled.

8. You have hung your clothes, but someone touches them on the floor and doesn't pick them up.

9. From the moment you enter the store, the salesperson has been following you.

10. You had arranged to go out with someone, but that person broke up at the last minute, leaving you alone.

11. Being made fun of or ridiculed by.

12. The light is red, your car stops, but the guy behind keeps honking at you.

13. You accidentally made a wrong turn in the parking lot. As soon as you got out of the car, someone shouted at you: "Where did you learn to drive?"

14. Someone made a mistake and blamed you for the mistake.

15. You are trying to concentrate, but everyone around you is tapping their feet.

16. You lend someone an important book or an important tool and they don’t return it to you.

17. You have a busy day, but the people who live with you complain that you promised to do something, but you forgot to do it.

18. You want to discuss something important with your peer or colleague, but he doesn't give you a chance to express your feelings.

19. You are in a discussion with someone who insists on discussing a topic about which they know little.

20. When you are having a discussion with someone and another person insists on interjecting.

21. You need to go somewhere quickly, but the car in front of you is going 25 km/h in a 40 km/h zone, and you can't drive.

22. Step on a piece of chewed gum.

23. As you passed by, you were laughed at by a small group of people.

24. You are in a hurry to go somewhere and your nice casual pants are torn by something sharp.

25. You used your last coin to make a call, but after you finished dialing, the call was disconnected and the coin was gone.

Now you can interpret your total score based on the following points:

1. 0-45 points:

The anger and anger you experience The number of annoyances is quite low. Only a very small number of people get such low scores on the test. You belong to this small group of people!

2. 46-55 points:

You are actually calmer than the average person.

3. 56-75 points:

You respond with an equal amount of anger to the troubles of life.

4. 76-85 points:

You often use an angry way to deal with the troubles you encounter in life. You are actually more irritable than the average person.

　5. 86-100 points:

You are truly a champion of anger. You are tortured by frequent furious reactions that cannot go away quickly. You may still have negative feelings long after the initial humiliation has passed. You may have a reputation as a firecracker or a reckless person among those you know. You may experience frequent tension headaches and your blood pressure may often rise. Your anger often gets out of control, and you have impulsive outbursts of hostility. This impulsiveness can sometimes get you into trouble. Very few adults react as violently as you do.

Extended reading:

Why are Chinese people so irritable?

Yesterday there was news:

A couple of college students were traveling together Plane, flying from Chongqing to Beijing.

After boarding the plane, the two started to quarrel.

The girl said: We may not be suitable for each other. Let’s calm down for two days.

The boy was angry and said: I will die for you now, do you believe it or not?

The flight attendant came to dissuade him: This is on a plane, don’t make any noise.

The boy had rushed to the emergency hatch and reached out to open the door. Fortunately, the flight attendant stopped him.

The plane arrived in Beijing, and the police also arrived, asking the young couple to go to the police station to continue the quarrel.

The boy was detained for 15 days. He explained to the police: I didn’t really want to jump at that time, I just wanted to scare her. I was very angry at the time, so I ran over her and then pulled the handle of the plane door. Maybe it was too aggressive? < /p>

Regarding whether he has thought about the consequences of opening the cabin door, the boy said that he just doesn’t know much about it. If he knows how to do such a stupid thing, he can only say that he will learn from mistakes and the consequences will be his own. You have to bear the responsibility, after all, it has caused inconvenience to the people on the plane.

An accidental incident, it is difficult to explain clearly. However, another article said that Chinese people are irritable and irritable, which is quite correct.

A WeChat message signed by Mr. Lu Jiajian: "How do we get out of bipolar personality".

The article stated that Mr. Lu has a niece who is a freshman at the University of Sydney and recently came to China from Australia with her mother.

Mr. Lu asked his niece: What is the most direct impression of China?

The niece replied: Just three:

First, no matter what People quarrel when they meet.

Second, no matter what happens, you will complain and complain.

Third, no matter what you want, you will grab and care about it. I have never seen anyone who is tolerant, silent and low-key.

She has evidence.

The first thing she saw was that her relatives had an argument with the passenger in the seat in front of her on the high-speed train over the issue of the seat tilting backwards.

Relatives think: If your seat is tilted backwards, our space will become narrower and we will feel uncomfortable. How do you sleep in broad daylight?

The front-seat passenger refuses to give in: since the seat is equipped with a reclining function, it can recline.

I sleep when I want to, do you care if I sleep during the day or at night?

No matter how noisy, no one wants to give in.

In the end, Mr. Lu’s niece changed seats with her relatives, and the quarrel finally stopped.

The second thing is: a group of people were traveling, and the train was delayed for more than half an hour. Because it was during the Spring Festival travel period, many trains were added. Trains lined up to enter the station. The first train left and the next train could enter after the tracks were cleared. However, the relatives did not understand this and were full of complaints. They questioned the platform attendant countless times and complained to the attendant. What could the waiter say? He was helpless.

The angry relatives kept calling the railway bureau dispatching office to complain about the incident. But the more he complained, the angrier he became. He was like a trapped beast on the platform, furious, walking around, tossing himself endlessly.

Mr. Lu commented on this out-of-control relative, saying:

Rather than saying that they have no understanding, it is better to say that they do not want to understand things at all.

People who don’t want to understand things? I have encountered them recently.

Some time ago, I opened my mailbox and cleared out junk mail. Suddenly I saw an email containing obscene language and curses. I was shocked and hurriedly looked at it carefully.

I never wanted to read it carefully and couldn’t understand it, because it was not the first scolding letter, but a continuation of the previous scolding.

To understand why you scolded me, you have to turn forward.

I looked through it, I looked through it, I looked through it, I looked through twelve emails in a row before I found the curse.

The scolding was an email asking for help. The general idea was that we are in urgent need and are waiting online? Come on, brother, you are online but I may not be online. Besides, this is the era of WeChat. Who has nothing to do and asks for help in the mailbox? I lost my boss's big client and asked for help on how to get it back.

After the requester sent the email, he waited patiently for eight minutes? It was exactly eight minutes. When he didn’t see me replying with a solution, he decided that I was just being arrogant and ignoring him. So he opened fire on me like a barrage, cursing me for being a snob and a person who only cares about the big boss and doesn't care about the life and death of the little people? And so on.

But I haven’t entered the mailbox for a long time. Even if I happen to open the mailbox and reply, this problem will not be solved in eight minutes. Do you think typing doesn’t take time?

He couldn’t understand such a simple truth.

I am full of curiosity about his boss, what kind of boss he is. Dare you use such a weird thing?

I don’t know the age of the seeker, but his thinking is definitely more mature than that of a three-year-old baby.

Being irritable and irritable is the privilege of infants and young children.

Compared with adults, the cognitive world of infants and young children is extremely narrow.

When taking care of children, adults have dozens of things in their minds at the same time. The old man next door pokes his head in front of the door again. The boss lost his temper again yesterday. A colleague picked up the girl he likes. Hello, my wife. Do you feel like you have discovered that you are secretly picking up girls?

Each of these things is no small matter. If one of them is not handled properly, it will be a disaster like the sky falling and the earth falling. During this time of anxiety, the child suddenly wanted a lollipop and had no intention of going out to buy it. He could only say: My dear, let’s not eat candy today, just lick yesterday’s candy wrapper.

But in a child’s heart, there is only one lollipop in the whole world.

The child does not have to eat candy. He just asks for love from his parents, hoping to gain a sense of psychological security and prove that his parents still love him.

But the father’s careless refusal made the child’s heart plummet to the bottom in an instant.

For a child, this is not a question of giving candy or not, but whether the parents still love him and are still willing to protect him. Rejection means betrayal of love and a complete loss of security.

In order to be safe, children must fight hard? Therefore, there are naughty children in this world. They roll on the ground, howl and cry, and have no understanding of their parents' difficulties. Just because in the eyes of adults, small requirements are all they can guarantee in life.

Underneath every naughty child’s appearance, there is a heart that has lost its sense of security.

Children are prone to crying, and some children even refuse to give up until they achieve their goals.

What parents should do at this time is to crouch down, make eye contact with their children, speak softly, and have an equal conversation. The important thing is not what you say, but the sense of security that this kind of communication brings to your child.

In the public psychological open class, a WeChat article mentioned details from the TV entertainment program "Where Are We Going, Dad".

This detail is that actor Liu Ye took his child to find a place to live. When he asked the villagers, the child kept interrupting him, making it impossible for him to talk to the villagers. After leaning a little, Liu Ye knelt down and said seriously: Dad, don't keep interrupting when talking to others. This is what our family always talks about, right? It's not polite, it's disrespectful to your parents, you know? ?

This WeChat review said: Liu Ye’s way of talking to his children allows the children to realize that their behavior is wrong without feeling abandoned.

?Repeat, don’t let your children feel abandoned.

If parents understand the psychological common sense of children's growth and establish trusting communication with their children, their children will be sensible and sensible, and when they grow up, they will become a person with high emotional intelligence who can understand the situation of others.

But parenthood is a regrettable art. It is often waiting for you to figure out how to educate your children. Your children have evolved into naughty children and grown into adults.

Although Mr. Xiong is an adult, he is still a naughty child at heart.

In terms of emotional control, they are still ignorant and unable to control themselves.

For example, a little boy who quarreled with his girlfriend on the plane would open the emergency hatch if they disagreed, and would seek death over the smallest thing. In his heart, the lives of everyone on the plane were not as important as his sense of grievance. This was a typical naughty child's syndrome of not wanting to be beaten.

Although he deserves a beating, he still has to be gentle and gentle. He will stay in the detention center for 15 days and wait for him to grow up for a few years. When he no longer lacks a sense of security in his heart, he will mature.

For example, relatives who quarrel with the front seat on the high-speed train and wander around like trapped animals on the platform are typical cases of fragile self-awareness and need for strong recognition from the outside world, so they are extremely sensitive to negative signals. Sensitive to the point of misinterpreting the normal world as a denial of oneself.

The inability to control oneself stems from the immaturity of the mind and the lack of inner security.

You need to learn to control your emotions.

Let yourself grow up in sync with your mental age and physical age.

In the circle of friends, there are a huge number of WeChat articles discussing controlling emotions.

But the effect is not obvious.

Why?

Because, in terms of emotional control, most chicken soup for the soul make two mistakes.

First, emotions cannot be controlled. It is a person's mental state.

Second, you cannot control your emotions, but you can choose to vent them.

You will notice that even the most irritable and irritable person is very rational when he loses his temper. He will get angry at his dearest relatives and friends, and hurt his friends and relatives unscrupulously. But in In front of people who are afraid of Zen, they are greeted with smiles.

There used to be a saying that upper-class people are afraid of their wives, middle-class people respect their bosses, and low-class people beat their wives.

To put it more elegantly now, it would be like this: We are all prone to making the same mistake:

Being too polite to strangers and being too harsh to those close to you.

It’s not that you can’t control your emotions.

You just chose the safest way to vent, but this way is hurting you and the people around you.

A person’s personality is nothing more than two elements: emotion and ability.

The less capable you are, the higher your emotional content.

The less capable you are, the less control you have over the environment and the easier it is to panic.

If your emotions are high, you will lose control and vent.

So people say that the weak are irritable and the strong are gentle.

Emotions are uncontrollable. Even if they are controlled for a moment, they will burst out with greater intensity.

The truly effective way to control emotions is to strengthen your abilities and reduce your emotional value.

Compared with people, there is actually not much difference.

Everyone is a product of emotions, sometimes sad and happy, crying and laughing. But the career realm in life is completely different. The difference is not in emotional control, but in the strength of ability.

Can you be cruel to yourself when your emotions are directed towards your future goals?

People live for one lifetime and grass and trees fall one year at a time. Can you live seriously and behave like a human being? Come? Live only for yourself, only be responsible for your own life in this life? When a person dies, he leaves his name, and when a leopard dies, he leaves his skin. You can't let time pass by. When you get old, you look back on the past and suddenly burst into tears. Oh my god, I seem to have never lived seriously in my life?

A life without reflection is not worth living. The meaning of life lies in the in-depth development of the value of life, turning violence and anger towards oneself, and establishing a life for oneself. A life goal worth pursuing for decades?

First have a big goal and pursue a high-quality life. Then break down the big goal into small, short-term goals.

Small goals also require gritting your teeth. For example, a friend posted a sign in front of his bed: I will read ten pages of "Zi Zhi Tong Jian" today! It's just a ten-page book. Ten pages a day, a hundred pages in ten days, one book in a month, twelve books in a year. Or even if you don’t study, you must still chat with your most knowledgeable friends and make a little progress every day. Soon you will be an admirable enterprising person.

Start improving your environment, study room, or reading corner, and optimize your circle of friends.

The most successful circle of friends is one where every friend is better than you. Gradually, you will find that the pressure in your life is getting less and less because of your ability to survive. Getting stronger and stronger. Only when you are able to take charge of your life will your intense emotions calm down.

Recharge yourself regularly and encourage yourself.

Human nature is prone to laziness. A person who walks a hundred miles will only be half ninety. There are often times when I can’t hold on and want to indulge myself. It's okay to indulge occasionally, but don't forget to find your own way. It is necessary to form a benign environment from excellence to excellence. Indulgence at this time is just a leisurely life that makes the soul happy.

People who are irritable and irritable are just unable to face the real environment. When the ability to survive is insufficient, the so-called emotional control is nothing more than shrinking back and forbearing. It is better to treat the symptoms than to treat the root cause, and it is better to be patient than to make progress.

Only when you regain the dignity of life, fight for the honor of life, and grow in your abilities and strengthen your mind in the process, will those extremely unstable emotions gradually fade away like the water after a storm? However, it became calmer, revealing the stunningly beautiful scenery of lakes and mountains. ? ;