How can a man who doesn't smoke or drink survive in society?

People who ask such questions are probably those who can smoke and drink and feel that they are doing well in society. The subtext of this question is that you must be able to smoke and drink to get along well in society; If you don't smoke or drink, you won't get along well in society, or even survive.

In fact, is this really the case?

Before answering this question, I want to ask another question, that is, what do people rely on to survive in society? Is it opportunity or ability? Or smoking and drinking? It should be the former.

In this case, smoking and drinking are not necessarily related to how to survive in society, that is to say, people who smoke and drink may not survive well in society. People who don't smoke or drink don't necessarily have a bad life in society.

However, we must face up to the reality that China society values human feelings and relationships. At a dinner party, it is often easy to win relationships and enhance feelings by offering a cigarette and drinking a glass of wine. But if you don't smoke or drink, it is often inappropriate and passive.

So, how can people who don't smoke or drink survive better in social situations? The following practices refer to:

First, demonstrate ability and strength. People's survival is based on the value of work and workplace, and the value of people in work and workplace is created by exerting their own abilities and strengths. Fully demonstrate your ability and strength in the work and workplace, and create value for the unit and the company to the maximum extent. With value, you have weight and you can win respect and support. To do this, do you still need to fight for cigarettes and wine? Do you need to worry about how to survive?

Second, take the initiative to serve or replace wine with tea. In social situations, if you are worried that you will feel embarrassed if you don't smoke or drink, offer good service. For example, take the initiative to pour wine, take the initiative to give food ... you can also take tea instead of wine and take the initiative to show respect. As long as you keep yourself busy and let everyone have fun, you won't feel embarrassed, and you will leave a warm and sincere impression on everyone.

Third, show personal charm. If smoking and drinking are not your forte, you can show your style in other ways. For example, you can talk about current affairs and politics, talk about unofficial history, play Kan Kan, and brag ... In short, if you want everyone to think that you are interesting, knowledgeable, knowledgeable and have a story ... and attract everyone to the topic, no one will care about the wine.

Fourth, find a reasonable excuse. In addition to the above means, there is a simpler and easier way to operate. That is to find a reasonable excuse. For example, you can say that you never smoke, that you are allergic to cigarettes … or that you have a bad cold and are still taking injections; He claimed that he had alcoholic hepatitis, but the doctor told him not to drink ... and so on. The excuse should be credible, and don't make people feel evasive, otherwise it will be self-defeating.

Finally, there is nothing wrong with not smoking or drinking. This is a good living habit. Please insist!