How to advance the reform of national marriage customs

How to advance the reform of national wedding customs

How to advance the reform of national wedding customs? Starting around 2000, affected by the surrounding environment, people’s pursuit of lively weddings gradually went out of shape and changed. Got the taste. Uncivilized marriage customs intervened and formed a bad habit. nam How to advance the reform of marriage customs across the country. How to promote the reform of national marriage customs 1

The reform of marriage customs is a cultural project and a people's livelihood project. In recent years, Li County has achieved remarkable results in eradicating bad marriage customs and establishing new marriage customs. In April this year, it was established by the Ministry of Civil Affairs as the only national experimental area for the reform of marriage customs in our province. In the next three years, Li County will give a new meaning to the word marriage customs. content and new atmosphere.

"Broken" and "established", a new trend in wedding customs is coming

"When I got married, although there was no band or singing and dancing in the ceremony, the groom and the best man were responsible for it. Singing, but very lively, that kind of happiness is not designed, but comes from the heart." Ma Shaoqing, secretary of the Party branch of Mengjiagang Community in Liyang Street, Li County, recalled that more than 20 years ago, he led a "bicycle army" to receive relatives. , singing all the way, marching toward the bride's house in a mighty way. After picking up the bride, she got off the car about a mile away from the groom's home and walked. The groom "stepped three steps and paid respects" to express his respect and love for the woman. This was a traditional wedding custom respected in urban and rural areas of Li County at that time.

"It was only during a period of time that uncivilized marriage customs were introduced and a bad habit formed."

Starting around 2000, affected by the surrounding environment , people's pursuit of lively weddings has gradually gone out of shape and changed. The groom was forced to get out of the car by the marriage rioters and used a trolley to pull the bride forward; the groom was forced to take off his shirt and pole dance around a pole, and he was not allowed to let go if he was not satisfied; the song and dance team at the wedding venue would also deliberately perform Some vulgar programs; after the wedding, there are wedding troublemakers who maliciously tease the bridesmaids... In short, in order to achieve the purpose of watching the fun and attracting attention, there are endless tricks for wedding troubles, which is in line with the local traditional marriage customs and civilized society in Li County. The requirement of "happy events are organized in a new way" is getting further and further away.

In this regard, in 2017, Li County began to promote the change of customs in the field of marriage throughout the county. Village rules and regulations (residents' covenants), expert lectures, party members taking the lead, etc., "attacked across the board" to combat vulgarity. Wedding troubles, exorbitant betrothal gifts, dowry comparisons, favoritism, etc. will be rectified.

In Jiuwang Village, Dayandang Town, every household has a family tradition sign posted on the doorstep that says, "Be diligent, thrifty, filial piety, parents and respect the elderly." The village and branch committees stipulated in the village rules and regulations that the wedding banquet should not exceed 350 yuan per table, and the standard gift should be 300 yuan. No fireworks should be set off at the wedding banquet celebration, and firecrackers should be set off less. At the same time, a red and white committee was established, and each village and group Establish a WeChat group "Changing Customs and Promoting Civilized New Practices", where rural party members, cadres and mass organizations can participate and supervise each other. Those who violate regulations and make big mistakes will be disqualified from all evaluations.

The chairman of the village’s Red and White Council said: “In the past, we had to compete with each other to organize weddings for three or four days, and a wedding would cost one or two hundred thousand. Nowadays, When villagers hold weddings or weddings, they must register in advance, sign an application and a letter of commitment, and consciously and voluntarily abide by the village's rules and regulations. "In the past two years, more than 10 couples have got married in the village, and they have all been festive and simple. The villagers cannot help but do it." No longer burdened by favors.

At present, more and more villages and streets in Li County have established red and white committees, formulated their own village rules and regulations, and organized villagers to deal with weddings and funerals through self-education, self-management, and self-service. Self-governance based on undesirable social customs such as marriage.

"Auxiliary" and "service" Simple marriage is still popular

At the Marriage Registration Office of Li County Civil Affairs Bureau, Yuan Ziling, a young couple born in the 1990s, entered the marriage counseling room before officially receiving the marriage certificate and answered 15 short questions carefully prepared by marriage counselors, including family responsibilities, parenting concepts and other topics.

In September 2020, the Li County Civil Affairs Bureau formulated the "Li County Marriage Customs Reform Pilot Work Plan", which includes marriage and family counseling, pre-marital counseling, marriage certificate issuance services, and collective weddings. and other matters are included in government purchase of services to form a long-term mechanism.

At the same time, in order to promote the reform of marriage customs in Li County and advocate simple and appropriate wedding etiquette, the County Civil Affairs Bureau continues to carry out a series of activities such as "Celebrating Romantic Chinese Valentine's Day and Establishing Civilized New Trends" to vigorously promote modern civilized wedding ceremonies. In terms of resolving conflicts after marriage, the civil affairs department and other functional departments jointly carry out marriage and family counseling, improve humanistic care and psychological counseling mechanisms, and crisis intervention mechanisms, effectively improving the success rate of mediation and resolution of disputes.

In April this year, the Li County Civil Affairs Bureau purchased services through the government and hired experienced social workers, marriage and family psychological counselors, etc. to provide each newlywed couple with the first pre-marriage counseling session.

Each time a link is completed, the staff will stamp a small piece of paper to prove it. The solemn and romantic certificate issuance ceremony has also become a standard feature of the marriage registration process. After reciting the "Marriage Vows", the newlyweds put the marriage certificate into the photo frame prepared in advance, press their love fingerprints, and finally freeze the warm moment. Newcomer Yuan Ziling said excitedly: "I am very happy. I have completed a major event in my life. It is full of sense of ceremony and makes us feel very happy."

In addition, Li The county actively innovates marriage services and uses special days such as "520" and "Chinese Valentine's Day" to hold activities such as blind dates for single young people, collective certificate awarding ceremonies, and collective weddings.

Aunt Wu from Zhanjiagang Village, Chengtoushan Town happily told reporters, "Thanks to the new marriage arrangements advocated by the party and the government, my son's marriage was happy and worry-free." Aunt Wu's family's financial conditions are not good. Well, although my son is hard-working and kind-hearted, he has never found a suitable partner. Unexpectedly, he met his soulmate at a single youth party organized by the Youth League and County Committee. In August last year, the two registered their marriage and participated in a collective certificate-issuing ceremony held by the County Civil Affairs Bureau. The young couple vowed to be activists and disseminators of changing customs, and they only held a simple wedding.

According to the relevant person in charge of the Li County Civil Affairs Bureau, the "Yuan Zhi Li Lan·Haohe Centenary" collective wedding will be held on September 26 to provide new wedding options for the county's marriageable young people and further promote The reform of marriage customs and the change of customs have made the new concept of simple and moderate marriage and love deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. How to advance the reform of national marriage customs 2

In Kyushu, the most reunion night is the Mid-Autumn Festival. The Mid-Autumn Festival uses the round moon to signify people's reunion, so couples who are looking forward to happiness choose this day to join hands in getting married. The city's marriage registration authorities strictly implement the epidemic prevention and control management requirements for marriage registration, and in conjunction with the work of the National Marriage Customs Reform Experimental Zone, handle marriage registration for citizens on the Mid-Autumn Festival, provide unique marriage registration services, and share them with newlyweds The festive joy of Mid-Autumn Festival reunion.

Strengthen the guarantee force and provide registration services

In order to fulfill the promise of "I do practical things for the people" and meet the people's needs for marriage registration during special festivals, marriage registration agencies in various districts of Guangzhou City Marriage registration will be opened on the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival. Through measures such as adding additional registration windows, adding more staff, pre-reviewing materials in advance, and improving work efficiency, all marriage registration parties who are present on the day and meet the registration requirements can register. The city's first marriage registration 581 pairs.

Strengthen epidemic prevention and control and implement normal management

Marriage registration agencies in all districts of Guangzhou strictly implement epidemic prevention and control management requirements and strengthen personnel management at marriage registration service venues , strictly implement epidemic prevention measures such as wearing masks, health information verification, body temperature testing, ventilation and disinfection, and deploy additional manpower and coordinated volunteers to provide on-site service guidance and security work to effectively protect the health and safety of marriage registration parties and staff. Life safety.

Promote the reform of marriage customs and carry out a series of service activities

In order to carry forward and inherit the excellent traditional Chinese culture and family virtues, advocate new trends in modern civilized marriage customs, and vigorously promote the construction of the national marriage customs reform experimental zone, To guide the masses to establish a new marriage custom of "emphasis on registration, strong responsibility, and advocating frugality", the Guangzhou Marriage Registration Authority launched a series of rich and diverse marriage services on the Mid-Autumn Festival.

The first is a proposal of love. The Guangzhou Municipal Civil Affairs Bureau and the Municipal Civilization Office printed the "New Era Civilized Marriage and Family Initiative" and released it in the city's marriage registration agencies and urban and rural communities to advocate the general public to pay attention to the construction of family tradition and tutoring, abandon the old customs of high betrothal gifts, and establish correct marriage practices. Views, advocate new arrangements for happy events, simple weddings, and create a healthy and progressive new trend of civilized marriage customs.

The second is the message wall of love. The Marriage Registration Office of the Panyu District Civil Affairs Bureau has set up a "message wall" in the waiting area and made sticky notes with Mid-Autumn Festival elements, allowing newlyweds to paste their "voices of love" on the message wall to interact with each other to show their love and share their love together. The sweetness and happiness of marriage.

The third is the "Mid-Autumn Festival" of love. There is an interesting custom in Guangzhou. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, lanterns are put up and hung high, which is called "Tree Mid-Autumn Festival" or "Erect Lantern". The Marriage Registration Office of the Panyu District Civil Affairs Bureau has combined the Guangzhou custom of "Treeing for the Mid-Autumn Festival" and hung Mid-Autumn lanterns in the service area. The lanterns are attached with cards such as lantern riddles, poems, and blessings. Each newlywed couple can pick out their heartfelt cards and exchange them for exquisite ones. A lantern. Newlyweds will also be invited to make lanterns on site. While experiencing the traditional culture, they can experience the support and companionship of their spouses through the joint production process such as cooperation, thinking, and consensus of opinions, and enhance the couple's sense of belonging to the home.

The fourth is the check-in point of love. The Marriage Registration Offices of the Civil Affairs Bureaus of Liwan, Panyu and Nansha Districts have set up outdoor check-in points for newlyweds and citizens to take photos to create a festive atmosphere.

The fifth question is about love. The Marriage Registration Office of the Huangpu District Civil Affairs Bureau launched an online publicity campaign on civilized marriage customs and culture. Couples received task cards to participate in online marriage customs knowledge quizzes and learned relevant knowledge about civilized marriage customs through online videos, which enhanced the new couple's sense of the wedding registration ceremony and also Raise the awareness of building a happy family.

Sixth is the tutorial class of love. The Marriage Registration Office of the Nansha District Civil Affairs Bureau has opened an online "Marriage Navigation" wedding lecture to help new people understand marriage, realize the transition from a love relationship to a marriage relationship, effectively handle differences and conflicts in marriage and family, and improve new people's management of marriage. ability.