What is the most disgusting thing for you in Chaoshan?

In 2015, I drove to Chaoshan for the first time with three or five friends. When I arrived in Chaoshan, I realized that Chaoshan is also a special economic zone! I was very surprised at the time, but after visiting Chaoshan for a day or two, I can understand why this special zone has not developed like Shenzhen.

The first one: Chaoshan people are very conservative. Even if it is a special economic zone, it is in name only. People in the entire region are very conservative and unwilling to accept new things and new ideas. How can a place that is unwilling to accept new things achieve the success of reform and opening up. We were traveling in the local area. As tourists, we did not feel the local enthusiasm, but indifference and disgust. They were very exclusive and not open.

The second one: The idea of ??favoring boys over girls is extremely serious. Families in the Chaoshan area basically have to give birth to a boy, and the more, the better. If she cannot give birth to a boy, the hostess will have very little status at home and even in the local area, and she can hardly hold her head up. When I was working in Guangdong, most of the Chaoshan girls around me entered society early, went out to work without receiving good educational opportunities, and then made money for their brothers to find wives. How can a place that doesn’t respect women be as tolerant and open as Shenzhen?

To be honest, apart from the beef balls, I don’t like this place at all.

Chaoshan is the name of a geographical area, including Shantou, Chaozhou, Jieyang and parts of Meizhou and Shanwei. It is located on the eastern coast of Guangdong Province. my country’s famous hometown of overseas Chinese.

Chaoshan has the most exquisite temples in the country and world-renowned food, as well as relatively unique local cultural characteristics. Although there are many overseas Chinese, Shantou is also a special economic zone, which is my country’s opening for economic, trade and cultural exchanges. It is a frontier zone, but the concepts of the local residents are still relatively traditional and conservative, and it is the place where traditional Chinese culture is best maintained. Chaoshan people are still engaged in business. The Chaoshan Business Gang is the most famous business gang in the country. It has many wealthy businessmen who are as wealthy as the rest of the world. It even controls the economic lifeline of some Southeast Asian countries. It also occupies some domestic cities with a small population base. Such a large proportion of the economy is that there is even a saying in Shenzhen that if trendy merchants go on strike for one day, the city will be paralyzed.

The Chaoshan people are undoubtedly one of the most intelligent and outstanding ethnic groups among the Han people. Logically speaking, there is nothing objectionable about them. In fact, in Chaoshan, eating delicious food and drinking Gongfu tea every day is a very ideal state of life. Living here should only be satisfying and without disgust.

In fact, when you stay in a place for a long time and gain a deeper understanding of all aspects of the place, you will always find something that makes you dissatisfied or even disgusted. As a Chaoshan native, I have lived here for more than 40 years. Although I am quite satisfied with all aspects of this place, if I pick on Chaoshan on this issue, I still have some dissatisfaction.

The first is that Chaoshan women are relatively traditional. Although they are well-known for adhering to women's ethics and being docile and courteous, and are generally known as virtuous and virtuous women, they appear to be a bit unruly in terms of behavior and behavior. Tacky, it always gives people the feeling of a country woman.

The second one is fighting among each other. Chaoshan people’s grouping is also well-known, and the Chaoshan Chamber of Commerce is a famous patriotic and hometown group. However, in the local area, although there are grouping groups in various towns and regions, there are not many groups. It is good to condense the knowledge of Chaoshan people. For example, Chaozhou people do not agree with the name of Chaoshan, and Puning people do not agree with the jurisdiction of Jieyang. In many villages, some villages are mutually exclusive, and some house owners are dissatisfied with each other. Although this is still a small-scale grouping method, from a large perspective in Chaoshan, it is just a fight between the two.

The third is that the gap between the rich and the poor is large, there are many greedy people, and until now there is no very effective governance method. When I passed through Jiangxi, I found that the villages in Jiangxi now live in small buildings. Although it is difficult to find decent mansions, there are no dilapidated houses. This should be a good example of a well-off society. But in the Chaoshan area, luxury homes abound. There are also many luxury homes built with tens of millions or even billions of dollars. However, the number of people living in dilapidated houses is still an order of magnitude larger.

Chaoshan is one of the regions with developed private enterprises, but it also has several nationally impoverished counties. Its per capita GDP ranks behind not only in Guangdong Province, but also in the country. This is in the area that stretches from Dandong, Liaoning to Qinzhou, Guangxi. Coastal economically developed areas are the only unique example. I think the biggest reason is that greed makes people lose their rationality, including managers' rational judgment. Sadly, most people are completely unaware of this.

The fourth one is to sit in a well and look at the sky and be self-righteous. This is probably because they have been far away from the Central Plains dynasty since ancient times. Chaoshan people have relatively no sense of the overall situation. This has led to the emergence of few nationally influential cultural and political figures in the local area. Although there are some Some Chaoshan people have the world in mind and travel around the world, but more local Chaoshan people have not traveled a few steps, and have not even used these means of transportation in an era when airplanes and high-speed rail are so developed. There are many successful people in my circle of friends who are in their 40s and 50s and have never flown on a plane or a high-speed train. However, they only have a small and successful career and often think that they are superior to others.

The fifth is self-restraint and self-reliance, which has a certain relationship with the constraints of traditional culture and local culture. As mentioned before, there are many rich and noble people in Chaoshan, but there are also many poor people. . I have worked with many poor people, and they are either content to stick to the status quo and not make progress, or they have an astonishingly strong backbone. There is a saying that describes Chaoshan people's willingness to stick to the status quo and their stubbornness: "Starve to death without working." This has led to the strange phenomenon of some people doing business at a loss and not working even if they don't have dinner. There are many such examples around me. , in fact, they are all harmed by the vicious saying "Starve to death without working". In fact, the road of life must be walked steadily step by step. As long as it is not something out of the ordinary or something illegal, you should not seek disgrace and rest on your laurels.

Of course, there are many things I am not satisfied with, but there is nothing that makes me particularly disgusted. But if I have to pick one that I find objectionable, it would be the self-righteousness of a frog in a well, and this includes myself. , because I am from Chaoshan, and some of the opinions in this article may be self-righteous.

Everyone has different worries, and the things they dislike are the same!

In Chaoshan, I think most people are only busy and running for money, and have no time to pay attention to the beautiful scenery around us and the people who care about us and pay for us. So we are disgusted and tired of the beauty that belongs to us in life! Brother, antipathy should not take possession of the soul. It just reminds us to change ourselves and appreciate and tolerate the things and people around us.

With a broad mind, you will feel that nature is so beautiful! And why don’t Chaoshan people, who face the sea, enjoy beauty and nature? Is it interesting to feel disgusted with this and that every day? Having and losing are equally disgusting!

I just want to say that you will be happier if you have less resentment and complaints! Thank you for understanding, long live understanding! Come and have tea when you have time, and everything will disappear. Friends, this is what you are doing!

I can’t stand it when I go out. I usually stay at home when I go home and never go out. When relatives come over, I hide in my room! They have to care about what you wear, what you say, they have to care about getting married at a later date, and they have to care about whether you have a boy or a girl. The most terrifying thing is that your family thinks these are not problems, and your relatives always point fingers when you go out! mmp! ! roll! As a foreigner who has stayed in Jieyang for two years, the most disgusting thing for me here is: several locals speaking Chaozhou dialect suddenly turn to you, inexplicably switch to Mandarin, and ask you to answer the questions they are discussing.

Once, several people were eating at a table. Three locals among them were chatting enthusiastically. Suddenly, they came up with a sentence in Mandarin and asked me a question. Several people said that I should know, and several pairs of eyes looked at me, waiting for my answer.

I did not participate in the previous discussion. What should I answer? I don't speak.

Another time, a local lady asked me if I understood Teochew dialect, because she was surprised that I seemed to understand Teochew dialect.

I said I didn’t understand, but she didn’t believe me. I was really too lazy to explain.

In fact, in a specific environment and a specific situation, the other party does not need to speak at all. Through his eyes and movements, you can guess what he wants to express; it has nothing to do with the dialect the other party speaks, and it depends on your specific keen sense. , very good observation skills, and delicate thoughts.

And the thing I dislike the most:

I was with two other locals, and they were accompanying me to visit. At first, the three of us were still chatting in Mandarin, and then suddenly in front of me, the two of them turned into a Chaozhou conversation, and the content of the conversation was still about me.

If I can understand it, I really can’t understand it, but I can feel that they must be talking about me.

Of course, it’s not a bad thing to say anything about my content, but it just makes me feel weird. This is very rude behavior. They don’t even have this awareness... Sigh

That’s it. Some people obviously have no money, but they still want to compare themselves with others. There are a lot of people like this in their families, and some people really admire taking the civil service exam. As soon as they get home, they are always being urged by their relatives to tell them that they want to get married and what are they doing? It’s a bit I wonder, my parents are not in a hurry, why are you in a hurry? Thousands of words can be combined into one sentence, you are idle!

I think it’s noodles, do you believe it?

I can tell you clearly,

Yes, it is the kind of noodles sold in the vegetable market.

I really like eating noodles. ,

I never dare to eat it again after coming to Chaoshan!

I know a lot of people are wondering why?

That means the noodles are made from alkaline water,

and they also have a strong alkaline taste.

May I ask, are alkaline noodles really edible?

I have been to many towns in Chaoshan for many years, including nearby Jieyang, Jiexi, Puning, etc., and have met many Chaoshan people. I admire them for their hard work, intelligence, unity and ability to make money, but there are also some incomprehensible things that I cannot say I am disgusted with. Bar: Feudal superstition and feudal ethics are serious

Women are influenced by tradition and get married at a very young age. They just want to marry into a good family and be as obedient as slaves at home, which does not mean physically but Spiritual. Women's status is extremely low. When they get married, they only need to have a banquet. Many of them don't get a marriage certificate. After marriage, women don't care whether their husbands spend time ordinarily outside, as long as they support the family. , I know more than one Chaoshan man who lives with three or four women in a self-built house. The women are used to it, and no one thinks it is abnormal. They all divide their own housework. Moreover, the local people are very superstitious, such as Goddess, Feng Shui, Yin and Yang, horoscopes, etc. Serious feudal kinship relations

You will find in the Chaoshan area that this is actually a double-edged sword. The kinship relations here are too strong, with the ancestral hall as the link, making it difficult for outsiders to integrate into it. Clan relations lead to nepotism, with the patriarchal system being more important than national law. If you traveled to Chaoshan in the early years, it can be seen that Shantou's city slogan was to rebuild the government's credibility. No feelings for family and country, lack of public morality

They only care about making money and do whatever it takes to make money. The municipal roads are in bad condition and the public facilities are not good. In the past, every village made fake goods, and every village and town made the same goods, including shoes, clothes, wine, cigarettes, etc., but now almost all of them are cracked down. Boys are taught from a young age that study is not important and they go out early to do business with their families. If a man is lustful, he must give birth to a boy.

Destroy me and shape me. A passerby walking alone in a foreign land

1. Feudal thinking. Feudal thought can be divided into several aspects. I believe everyone is familiar with the preference for boys over girls, followed by the requirements for external image and the constraints on women. In fact, the requirements for external image can be included in the requirements for women, but I think it is necessary to talk about it.

(1) Preferring sons over daughters. I have a neighbor who gave birth to 6 girls just to have one boy. Later a boy was sent away. My family is no exception. We gave birth to 3 girls and finally gave birth to a younger brother. Girls' status in the family is that they must learn to do housework to reduce the burden on the family. Food is given priority to boys, as are educational opportunities.

(2) External image requirements. Several of my roommates are all from Chaoshan, and Chaoshan mothers are really deeply poisoned by the culture of this area.

One roommate's mother didn't perm her hair, and another roommate didn't put lipstick on her. Once she found out, she immediately asked her roommate to take it off. I am also from Chaoshan, but fortunately my mother is not from Chaoshan. My mother is more liberal than most Chaoshan mothers. However, you can't hide from your mother, but you can't hide from your grandma. My grandma thought it was inappropriate when I wore a suspender skirt during the summer vacation. When my neighbors saw me, they would say, "Why are you dressed like this?"

(3) Restrictions on women. As mentioned earlier, my mother is not a local. My mother naturally likes to sing and play. Many times when my mother wanted to invite some friends to KTV after work, her grandma would look at her with an unfriendly look. She has to report to grandma when she goes out for fun, and she even has to take care of the friends her mother makes.

2. Worshiping God too frequently. Worshiping gods actually stems from a regional culture and is a kind of respect for gods. However, do you know how frequent worshiping gods are in Chaoshan area? The Spring Festival and various more important festivals will be relaxed first. On the first and fifteenth day of every month, worship to gods is required. Let’s not talk about how much paper money is spent on this, but wouldn’t it be very tiring to have to do these things when you get home from get off work?

The above are my personal opinions and opinions based on the phenomena around me. in conclusion. I hope that Chaoshan area can make some ideological changes and make some optimizations in cultural customs, and look forward to a better and better Chaoshan area.

I was disgusted when I saw the comments about Chaoshan favoring boys over girls. Don’t people across the country like to have more boys? Which place has a lower divorce rate than Chaoshan people? When it comes to Chaoshan being xenophobic, which place is not xenophobic? Chaoshan is more traditional than Chaoshan. Which place is more traditional? What I am referring to is your tradition of respecting the elderly and caring for the young, and respecting etiquette in dealing with others. I told the questioner that the people who are most disliked by people in Chaoshan are those who I think are very open-minded. People who are Shisanwu. Shisanti. Shisanlai are the most disliked