How to solve disputes and contradictions

There are thousands of students in engineering schools. Where people exist, it is inevitable that unpleasant things will happen. If it is not handled well, it may lead to conflicts and eventually lead to bad habits.

On March 2012 14, XX class was organized to hold a class meeting with the theme of "Correctly handling conflicts between classmates-what to do if there is conflict with classmates, and what to do if there is conflict between friends and classmates". At the class meeting, students actively spoke and discussed, and showed how to deal with contradictions and disputes in all aspects.

Now summarize the students' methods as follows:

1. It is normal to have contradictions. It is inevitable that all kinds of things will happen between people, and unpleasant things will always happen, which will lead to contradictions. It's normal to have contradictions, but don't haggle over every ounce, learn to forget some trivial contradictions. Looking back, we can see that all kinds of major events in school recently are caused by trivial matters, which shows that students can't deal with problems yet. Therefore, if students are allowed to read more books and concentrate on their studies, they will improve their knowledge and quality at the same time. As long as students have quality and self-cultivation, the occurrence and intensification of contradictions will naturally decrease.

2. Learn to be patient and tolerant. Nowadays, students are so egotistical that they don't know that losing is a blessing. Therefore, we should start with the small things in daily life, let them know what is true tolerance and forbearance, and be able to have a mind of understanding, restraint and tolerance. "Remember people's advantages and forget people's shortcomings" is tolerance and can't cling to others' shortcomings. As long as people live in society, they will deal with all kinds of people. A tolerant person can tolerate people or things different from himself. Otherwise, too many quarrels will only backfire and lead to a vicious circle. Tolerance and forbearance teach people to behave themselves, live in peace and cooperate with others for common development.

3. Cold treatment. Calm mind can resolve contradictions, so that students can survive the crisis of contradictions. Remember: "it is a fool's behavior to solve problems by violence, which harms others and yourself."

When the contradiction develops to a deadlock, we might as well seek the help of teachers, parents and schools through the right channels. Through help, both sides of the contradiction can move from the brink of crisis to the situation of cooperative partnership, which is exactly what we usually call "taking a step back and broadening the horizon."

In the process of dealing with contradictions, both sides of the contradiction should adopt the method of "empathy" and put themselves in the other's shoes as much as possible. Criticize yourself first, then others.

6. Always remember each other's good things

There is a story about two good friends traveling in the desert. A man did something to his friend and his friend wrote it in the sand. Then they moved on. The man saved his friend's life again, and then his friend wrote it on a stone. Out of curiosity, he asked his friend: Why is one thing written in sand and the other in stone? His friend said that my friend did something sorry to me, and I wrote it in the sand to make him disappear in my heart with the wind; My friend saved my life. I want to write him on a stone, as if he had always been in my heart. This story tells us that we should never keep the contradiction in mind, but should always keep the help of others in mind.

Using bad words and deeds can alert the whole class in class and learn lessons later, thus reducing the occurrence of contradictions and conflicts among students.

In this class meeting, the students learned a lot, and also learned a lot: there are many feelings in a person's life that are very precious, and one of them is "friendship". Bacon, a famous scientist, said: "Friendship can double happiness and halve pain." Li Bai also told us that although the Peach Blossom Pond is as deep as thousands of feet, it is not as good as the friendship of friends. So students, please open your heart to accept friendship, please hand over your heart and cherish friendship, and you will get unparalleled happiness and wealth! Remember: the light of friendship is like fluorescence. The darker it is, the brighter it looks! We should be tolerant of others when we are in contact with classmates, teachers, parents and people in society. Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. Don't look down on others. We should respect him, help him and others, and bring happiness to ourselves. "Give someone a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand."