How to utilize family resources

As a mother who helps her son challenge autism, I deeply understand that children are the eternal pain in parents’ hearts. Every parent is equally caring. Some parents have been groping for many years in the long night, but why are their children not making much progress? The answer is that there is a lack of scientific training methods. Knowledge changes destiny. If the method is right, you will get twice the result with half the effort; if the method is wrong, things will go as planned. Some people think that training children means forcing them to sit face to face at the table, reading cards, stringing beads, practicing mouth shapes, or jumping on the hornball, jumping on the trampoline, or sliding skateboards. Unexpectedly, children are becoming more and more resistant to learning. ; Some people think that training can be achieved quickly, so they quit their jobs and work for a few months, or they are like moths rushing to a flame, fighting for institutions in the north and south, investing tens of thousands of money, but with little effect but all the money. In fact, training and educating children with special needs is a long-term, complex and arduous process. Many successful cases show that only under the guidance of institutional professionals and relying on family environment resources can better results be achieved. So, how to use the family’s material, human, and financial resources?

1. Make smart use of family material resources

As we all know, normal children have a normal thirst for knowledge and active learning ability. They are even self-taught and actively acquire information every day. , and due to the existence of one or other obstacles, children with special needs cannot actively adapt to and understand the world like normal children, let alone actively obtain information. As their bodies grow day by day, their heads are empty, and there is a gap between them and normal children. getting bigger and bigger. Therefore, behavioral training and intellectual development must be combined during training. At the same time as behavioral training, a large amount of information stimulation is provided to promote brain development and improve the ability to recognize accumulation.

How to enable children with special needs to obtain information? Most children with special needs are like aliens who have come to the earth. They do not know or understand this world. The purpose of our training is to make them return to mainstream society and be able to live, work, and study like normal people, so they are separated from life. There is little point in training children. Therefore, we must first teach in life and expand the amount of information as much as possible. The focus should be on how to let children feel life, recognize life, feel the environment, and understand the environment. Teaching should be taught anytime, anywhere, and infiltrated into life. Secondly, we must start with interests, learn through happiness, learn through play, and play while learning, so that information can enter your mind unknowingly through happiness.

At home, we should make full use of the resources at home and conduct theme teaching, such as "water", to let them feel cold water, hot water, and warm water. You can open the faucet to let them feel the big and small flow of water. You can let him play with water in the bathtub, rub his back, put various bottles for him to hold water, and tell him what splashing water is, what water is holding, what sinking is, what is floating, what is light, and what is light. What is heavy, what is dry, what is wet. From kitchen pots and pans to oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, from various electrical appliances to furniture, from clothes and bedding to books, magazines and newspapers, from windows, walls, balconies to the people coming and going every day, they are all good materials for life.

Each family has different resources. Every parent should give full play to their imagination, adapt to circumstances, and use local materials to make everything in the family come alive and become living teaching aids and textbooks.

After all, indoor resources are limited. Every parent should go out of the house and go to nature, guiding him to look at the sky, the plants and trees in front and behind the house, the street light advertisements, and the traffic of people. , look at different buildings, different roads. For example, when painting, you can use pens at home, and when you go out, you can use wooden sticks, stones, and feet to paint. You can paint on the ground in mud piles and sand pits, on objects, feet, and bodies, and on leaves, stones, and tiles. ; Reading can be learned by reading advertisements, license plates, trademarks, house numbers, slogans, reading books and newspapers, and inputting a large amount of information unconsciously through hearing, vision, feeling, and touch, allowing them to experience the joy of learning and life.

2. Make full use of the human resources of the family

Training children with special needs is a long-term process that requires effort, effort, and effort. The power of individuals alone is limited. The market pays attention to the scientific allocation of human resources, and families with special children need this even more.

1. Husbands and wives join hands and are in the same boat.

Children are the crystallization of a couple's love. Only when a couple works together and stays together through thick and thin can they survive the hardships.

As a wife, you must first adjust your mentality. Some wives cry and complain because their children are disabled, as if the end of the world is coming, filling the family with despair and darkness. This undoubtedly has a negative impact on the husband. If not handled well, it will make the husband hate the child and be full of fear and discouragement about the future. . Therefore, the wife must use her own efforts to make her husband understand that the child is just a physical disability and nothing else has changed, and that a unique child can also bring unique happiness.

Secondly, you must understand your husband. Understand the troubles caused by the husband's parents-in-law about carrying on the family line and honoring the ancestors, understand the hardships of the husband to make a living outside the home as the breadwinner of the family, take the initiative to give full play to women's expertise in taking care of children, and take the initiative to take up the important task of training children.

Finally, learn to communicate. Communicate about methods and countermeasures for training children, and let husbands share the happiness brought by the children's progress; communicate emotions, and do not let the children's misfortunes become the tomb of love, but become the carrier of love and find more in adversity. The same language, find a stronger sense of responsibility, and build a stronger marriage.

As a husband, you must first be optimistic and strong. When a family encounters misfortune, a man will not shed tears easily. Generally, men are more open-minded, optimistic, and stronger than women. If they meet a strong, capable, and optimistic wife, they will form an indestructible force; if they meet a pessimistic and fragile wife, , and the husband cannot actively encourage and support, the consequences can be imagined.

Secondly, in view of the traditional ideas of ancestral succession for the elderly, the husband must first have a correct attitude, and then try to do ideological work for the elderly; if possible, try to live separately from the elderly to prevent the elderly from becoming negative. Function;

Finally, comfort your wife’s guilt.

2. Make good use of relatives and friends around you. Some people say that relatives and friends are like mountains, expressing dignity; relatives and friends are like water, expressing wisdom; relatives and friends are like soil, expressing endless love. With one more relative and friend, life will have more joy, security, support, and fulfillment. Therefore, if a child is autistic, parents must not be autistic. Only with the help of relatives and friends can they have enough strength to get out of the long dark night.

First, communicate more with relatives and friends to gain their understanding and support. Some parents are unwilling to face the reality, fearing that their relatives and friends will not be able to hold their heads up when they know there is such a special child in the family. I don’t know that by doing this, the children have lost many good learning opportunities.

The second is to design the training plan yourself and ask the elderly, neighbors, relatives and friends at home to assist in the operation.

Third, the husband has less to share in training the children and should pay more attention to the spiritual encouragement of the wife. When he comes home from get off work, he should take the initiative to train the children or do housework, listen to his wife's various confessions, and discuss training with his wife. child's approach.

Fourth, the husband is responsible for supporting the family and must work harder and look for broader development space in the long run.

3. Learn to communicate with school teachers.

When a child reaches the age of reading and is about to enter or has entered school, communication with teachers becomes a key issue for whether he or she can successfully attend school.

3. Make reasonable use of family financial information

1. Look rationally at the advertising and training effects of different organizations. Don’t be blindly gullible or superstitious and invest thousands or tens of thousands of yuan, especially taking this medicine or getting that injection. You must take a long-term perspective, make reasonable use of limited funds, and strive to make steady progress in life under the guidance of institutional professionals. train.

2. Don’t give up a job with stable income easily. Training children cannot be achieved overnight. In the current reality of fierce competition and high bottom-up pressure, it is risky to give up a job with a stable income easily. As a parent who is about to reach middle age or has already reached middle age, it is risky. It's huge. After struggling for several years, the child made little progress. When he came back to his senses, it was difficult to find a job again, and the situation at that time became even more difficult.

3. Husbands and wives should use their strengths and avoid weaknesses and divide labor reasonably.

One is the breadwinner of the family, and the other is in charge of the children's training, so that they can be calm in every situation.

The above is my humble opinion for your reference. Please give me your advice.

I wish the child a speedy recovery!