If life is very tired, selfishness doesn't matter at all!

Scene 1: On the bus, well-dressed white-collar workers refused to give up their seats, and were photographed by passers-by and uploaded to the network. The protagonist was searched by human flesh and eventually committed suicide.

Scene 2: A rich girl goes to a village. Because of her good temper, she gave in again and again, was brutally treated by the villagers, became a "sex slave" and a "dog", and was tied to the stake all day.

Scene 3: At his mother's funeral, his son looks cold and doesn't even remember when his mother died. Finally, on the beach, he killed innocent Arabs.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

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The first scene comes from movie search. The fact is that the hostess found out that she had cancer that day, was unwell, did not give up her seat to the old man, and was kidnapped by morality, which had a chain reaction. She was maliciously attacked by netizens. No one cares about her own personality and has become a tool for the public to vent their dissatisfaction.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Scene 2 comes from the drama Dogville, in which Nikken Kidman plays a film and television work in the form of a stage set. As the daughter of a mob boss, she unexpectedly stayed in this town. At first, the villagers were very polite to such a beautiful woman, but after learning deeply that the woman turned out to be a wanted fugitive, the villagers used this as a constraint and raped her after the police searched the village.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

From the initial deprivation of living materials to becoming the object of the villagers' desires, the woman gave in step by step, in exchange for being treated as an animal, tied to an iron post, suffering and despairing day after day, until the gangster dad drove heavy weapons and destroyed the whole village!

Scene 3 comes from the book The Outsider: Camus' novella, in which the protagonist Musso confronts absurdity with absurdity and can do nothing about it. Existence itself is meaningless, and social consciousness is determined to pull such people into the judicial framework and invent a ruthless killer!

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

The above three examples, all from film and television, have exaggerated elements, but they are enough to tell us: never, never, never challenge human nature.

It violates the collectivist values of the big environment and the big principle of "giving yourself up to save others". Have you ever thought that the purpose of making these rules is to deprive some listeners of their rights and facilitate others with vested interests?

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Everyone has only a lifetime to perceive the world.

No one has the right to tell you what to do with your life except yourself.

Because, the world doesn't care whether you live well or not, but only cares if you make it work normally.

Please learn to warm yourself before you warm others.

Once upon a time, I didn't agree with the saying that "loving yourself is the beginning of a romantic life". However, after a life-and-death parting, I found that your kindness and your concession will always bring further concessions.

No one will respect and love you because of your concession. On the contrary, they will snatch it from you, which should belong to your interests.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

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First, kindness should have a sharp edge.

Xin Li, a Chinese mother, asked politely when she was eating in a local Austrian restaurant. At that time, she could sit directly in the empty seat opposite the local people.

As a result, she was despised and severely rejected. Li Xin took the children without much entanglement and sat down at another table.

During the child's meal, some people want to sit in the seat she just saw, but the attitude of the local people is completely opposite, very friendly and amiable.

She realized at that time that this was a kind of discrimination, a kind of differential treatment.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

She silently observed the "discriminators" and looked at her children. Will she grow up in such an environment?

The last straw, before I left, I went to the man and said a word; "You are a racist!" (You are a racist), say a word, take a step forward, and that person will take a step back in horror. Xin Li said afterwards: "I can feel that he was scared by himself."

The Chinese slogan "No dogs or people in China" has disappeared for several years. Those foreign media slandered China people in various ways. Although the motherland is getting stronger and stronger, it has spread to all of us, and that resentment still cannot be eliminated.

So, your anger must be expressed.

The country of etiquette, the way of a gentleman, treats people with courtesy. In such a cultural atmosphere, we should not be edified into a coward who avoids Buddhism. When it comes time to fight back, we must be steady and ruthless.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Second, you should live for yourself.

Some of our parents gave up what they were born with, but more parents were afraid of their children and worked hard all their lives.

In our nature, who is taught that filial piety is the right way, but whether it is the parents who give orders or the children who are under control, they are themselves first.

In order to provide a good future for their children, parents get up early and get greedy for the dark, and they are all hurt. This comfortable life has spawned many neets.

The concept of son preference or deep-rooted "foolish filial piety" makes people blindly obey and serve their parents.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Before considering the parent-child relationship, please ask, if it has nothing to do with anyone, how are you doing now? If you really care about your family, shouldn't you put "happiness" first?

If you eat leftovers, the good things you have saved will be broken. Why not just enjoy them and say, "Oh, this dish I ate today is really delicious. I'll do it for you next time you come back. "

Children will feel really useless when they look at the "moldy" ingredients left in the refrigerator. Parents are not free to eat whatever they want.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Save money desperately. In order to pay off the mortgage, you embarrass yourself and don't want to spend money. When you go home, your parents look at those things. Do you think they haven't noticed that you haven't worn new clothes for years?

Health and happiness are more important than anything else. When you know how to cherish yourself and your own people, you will truly feel at ease.

Adults can make their own choices, and don't put all the responsibility on the family.

The premise of "taking care of" others is to please yourself.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

Third, go for it, don't be humble.

Giving three points in the crowd and putting others first is a good character and a plus item, not a "must" or a "should".

Kong Rong told Pear to teach children to share, and to know how to care for people who are weaker than themselves. However, what kind of life did Kong Rong lead later? There is nothing in the allusions.

Wouldn't it be easier to understand if Kong Rong was a girl?

Assuming that there are only so many resources, the part you gave up will be taken away immediately by others.

Instead of ruminating late at night, why not make a noise? It's better to stop now.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

This is contrary to domestic values and criticism is inevitable. When you are domesticated and return to the original system, everything is in vain.

Adler, the author of The Courage of Not Being Liked, has long understood this point, and suggested that "highly sensitive" people read this book to enhance their insensitivity.

In the case of involution, 996 is the normal state, "incremental price does not increase", and productivity and purchasing power are not proportional.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

For their own physical and mental health, most people choose Buddhism for pessimism. In the face of capital squeeze, they always give in and convince themselves that "it is a blessing to suffer."

It's strange to say that it's a blessing to suffer, but it should be that we haven't eaten enough. How can a loss be a blessing?

If you lose money and gain experience, it will be a blessing not to lose money in the same situation next time. If you just eat it yourself and digest it yourself, it will hurt your health.

Honey, be selfish when you are tired. It doesn't matter.

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Form your own evaluation system. "If a person does not study or study, his values will be established by his parents, relatives, friends and even strangers."

Others are hell, and how to avoid perdition is to draw a clear line.

The establishment of a sense of boundary is very important. It is said that people come and go naked, but people are floating in the rivers and lakes, and their qualities are mixed. You'd better be able to tell yours from mine.

A layman can't control others' "dominating the world", at least he should protect "one acre and three points". You only have a lifetime. Why not make yourself comfortable and pay less attention to those who don't matter?

Life will be smoother if you have less burden in your heart.

Spend more time feeling life ~