Who knows how to exercise self-control and control?

Every obstacle to be overcome is inseparable from willpower; In the face of every difficult decision we make, we rely on our inner strength. In fact, willpower is not an innate or unchangeable characteristic, but a skill that can be cultivated and developed.

In the dictionary, "willpower" is interpreted as "the power to control people's impulses and actions", and the most key words are "control" and "strength". "Power" exists objectively, and the problem is how to "control" it.

The following will help to strengthen your willpower. Just try it.

First of all, be proactive.

Don't confuse willpower with self-denial. When it is applied to positive goals, it will become a great force.

A businessman on the east coast of the United States knows that he has drunk too much, but he is engaged in a very annoying job. Drinking a few drinks before eating seems to relax people's nervous mood. But wine and tiring work make him sleepy, so he often falls asleep as soon as he drinks it. One day, the manager realized that he was drinking to drown his sorrows and waste his time. So he decided to give up drinking and spend more time with his children. It was not easy at first, and I often thought of the mellow wine, but he warned himself that what he was doing now was not worth the loss. It turned out that the more he cared about his family and children, the more motivated he was to work.

Positive willpower can help you overcome inertia and focus on the future. When encountering resistance, imagine your happiness after overcoming it; If you actively participate in the concrete practice of achieving the goal, you can stick to it.

Second, make up your mind

James Pross, a professor of psychology at the University of Rhode Island in the United States, divided the realization of a transformation into four steps:

Resist-unwilling to change;

Consideration-weigh the gains and losses of transformation;

Action-cultivate willpower to achieve change;

Persistence-constantly changing with willpower.

Some people are "chronic decision makers". They know that they should reduce their drinking, but they are indecisive when making a decision, and as a result, they can't put it into action.

In order to make up your mind, you can set a deadline for your goal. Maggie Collins, a teacher in California, USA, is very concerned about how to lose weight. Later, she was elected as the president of a civic organization and decided to lose 6 kilograms. To this end, she bought clothes two sizes smaller than herself and will wear them every year in three months. Thanks to perseverance, Collins finally got what he wanted.

Third, the goal is clear

Professor Pross studied a group of experimental subjects who planned to change their behavior from New Year's Day, and found that the most successful people were those with the most specific goals. One of the men is determined to treat his wife kindly and equally every day. Later, he did it. The other party just said in a general way that he wanted to be nice to his family, and it was the same in a few days, and he quarreled.

Don't say such empty words: "I'm going to do more physical exercise" or "I'm going to read more". Instead, it should be specific and clear-"I plan to walk for 45 minutes every morning" or "I plan to read for an hour every Monday, Wednesday and Friday".

Fourth, weigh the pros and cons.

If you are half-hearted about physical exercise because you can't see the actual benefits, you can't make you wear running shoes willingly just by wishing.

Professor Pross suggested that those who went to consult him could draw four squares on a piece of paper and fill in the short-term and long-term gains and losses respectively. If you are going to quit smoking, you can fill in the short-term loss in the top two boxes: "I felt very sad at first", and the short-term gain: "I can save a sum of money"; Fill in the bottom two boxes with long-term gains: "My body will become healthier" and long-term losses: "I will promote a method to relieve boredom". Through such careful comparison, it is easier to gather the willpower to quit smoking.

Five, change yourself

However, just knowing the harvest is not enough. The most fundamental motivation comes from wanting to change your image and control your life. Truth can be convincing sometimes, but only when emotional factors are aroused can we really respond.

Tom smokes three boxes of cigarettes every day. Although he coughed badly, he didn't listen to the doctor's advice. It's about going your own way and smoking correctly. "One day, I suddenly realized how stupid I was." He recalled, "Isn't this suicide? In order to survive, we have to quit smoking. " Because quitting smoking can make him feel better, Tom has the perseverance to get rid of bad habits.

Sixth, pay attention to the spirit.

Toulouse,/kloc-a famous French general in the 0/7th century, is famous for being the first soldier. He always stands at the front of the team in every war. When asked about it, he bluntly said, "I acted like a brave man, but I was scared from beginning to end." I didn't give in to my timidity, but said to my body,' Old chap, although you are shaking, you must go forward bravely!' "As a result, resolutely charge before.

A large number of facts have proved that acting as if you have a strong will helps you become a strong-willed person.

Seven, temper the will

As early as 19 15, psychologist Boyd Barrett once put forward a set of methods to exercise his will. This includes getting up from the chair and sitting down for 30 times, emptying a box of matches and then putting them back in the box one by one. He believes that these exercises can strengthen willpower so as to face more severe and difficult challenges in the future. Barrett's specific suggestions seem a bit outdated, but his ideas are enlightening. For example, you can arrange what you want to do on Sunday morning in advance and make up your mind not to eat lunch unless you do it well.

Bill bradley from New Jersey is the star of new york professional basketball team. In addition to normal training, he comes to the court early every morning to practice shooting and aiming at foul balls alone. He finally became the person who scored the most shots in the team.

Eight, stick to the end

As the saying goes, "Where there is a will, there is a way", which means to fight against difficulties and overcome them. After studying people who quit smoking and started smoking again, Pross found that many people did not seriously consider how to deal with the temptation of cigarettes. So despite the courage to quit smoking, you still can't stick to it. When someone handed a cigarette, they took it and smoked it.

If you are determined to give up drinking, don't touch the cup on any occasion. If you insist on jogging, you can exercise indoors as usual even if it rains heavily in the morning.

Nine, seeking truth from facts

If you are required to lose 25 kilograms in three months, or you must do physical exercise for three hours every day, then no matter how strong your will is, it will not help such an unattainable goal. Moreover, the consequences of failure will eventually make you want to try again.

In many cases, it is a good idea to break down a single big goal or multiple small goals. Bob, who is going to quit smoking, put up a sign in his room-"Don't drink every day". Because the overall goal of abstinence is broken down into concrete actions day by day, I can make my determination clear again the next day. By the end of the week, when Bob looked back on his series of "victories" in the past seven days, he was full of confidence and finally said goodbye to the wine.

Ten, step by step training

Strong will is not suddenly produced overnight, it is gradually formed in the process of accumulation. There will inevitably be setbacks and failures in the middle, so we must find out the reasons that make us lose our fighting spirit, so as to solve them in a targeted way.

When Mary gave up smoking for the first time, she made great determination, but it ended in failure. When analyzing the reasons, I realized that I needed to do something, not take cigarettes. Later, when she wanted to smoke, she bought knitting wool. A few months later, Mary gave up smoking completely and knitted a sweater vest for her husband, killing two birds with one stone.

XI。 Win a victory

Practice has proved that every success will further enhance willpower. If you overcome a bad habit with tenacious will, you can gain the confidence to duel with another challenge and win.

Every success can increase your self-confidence and provide you with a solid "foothold" in the difficult cliff climbing journey. Perhaps the new task we face is more arduous, but since we have succeeded in the past, we will certainly win this time and in the future.

Will is not born, only exercise can make it. Young friends can consciously cultivate and exercise their good will quality from the following aspects.

1. Establishing a correct outlook on life can stimulate people's strong will to face all kinds of difficulties in life and consciously and firmly achieve their goals in life. Although some egoists can also exert strong willpower, they can't reach the perfect height after all. Only by establishing a beneficial and effective outlook on life and putting it into concrete actions can we maintain strong and lasting willpower.

2. Exercise their will quality with the help of collective strength. Teenagers often live in groups (such as schools and classes). Living in a group, we must abide by the discipline and rules and regulations of the group, which in itself is the process of will action. The supervision of collective public opinion, the praise or criticism of your behavior in the collective, the tasks entrusted to you by the collective or the responsibilities you undertake in the collective may all become great motivation to motivate you to realize your will and action. Therefore, you should set clear requirements for yourself in the group, learn from the behaviors of outstanding members in the group, strive to make your performance conform to the group orientation, and overcome all kinds of difficulties that may be encountered in the process.

3. Exercise your will through some specific methods.

(1) Try to do meaningful work that you are not interested in but must do. Not everything in life is so charming. Some things need to be refreshed before they can be done well, such as paying attention to lectures in class and insisting on running. Doing so is a good opportunity to test and exercise your will. You should set a goal and force yourself to do it. Of course, you can start with small things, such as getting up on time and keeping a diary. The process of completing these little things is also a process of improving your willpower.

(2) Exercise the quality of will through physical activities or participating in labor within one's power. Every sport can exercise the corresponding will quality, such as running, cycling, swimming and so on. You can exercise tenacity, dive, run obstacles and climb mountains. You can exercise courage and determination, ball games can exercise initiative and independence, gymnastics, skills, track and field, perseverance and self-control and so on. Labor can also exercise various will qualities. Therefore, as long as you often participate in sports and labor, you can naturally exercise your perseverance and perseverance, which will help to improve the overall quality of your will.

Whether you are a student or a teacher, whether you are a white-collar worker or an ordinary employee, I believe that people have strong will and extraordinary willpower, and can be competent for many jobs and even develop unlimited potential. The development of unlimited potential ultimately depends on willpower.

People who have no willpower are anticlimactic in everything they do. Cantonese means "refresh a fresh pit in three days", but many things in this world can't be completed in three to five days. If you learn any skills, it is unlikely that you can learn a high level in three to five days. Without willpower, it is almost impossible to make yourself a learned and successful person. Success requires persistence and never give up, until the belief in success requires a strong will.

How can I exercise a person's willpower? My personal experience is to practice push-ups every day. I remember when I started practicing in 2003, because I haven't practiced since I came out of school. When I do 25 push-ups at a time, I can't hold up to 30. Then I insisted on doing push-ups every day. At first, it was two days plus one. I can do 50 push-ups at a time in less than a month. In order to exercise my willpower, I insist on doing push-ups every night before taking a shower and going to bed, and exercise by the way. A year later, I competed with other colleagues and supported more than 80. Colleagues say that my skills are not up to standard, and I can only support 50 according to the most standard. Later, I practiced every day, and now I can support 80 in a very standard posture. My goal is to support 65,438+000 soldiers this year. It seems that China's special forces are also a force supporting 100 people. I want to keep up with them. Practicing push-ups makes my body stronger and stronger, and my figure is also very standard. There is no excess fat, only strong muscles, and more importantly, a strong will.

When training students in the super whole brain learning method, I deeply know that a student can't apply the learned method to his own study for a long time without strong willpower, so I also call on students to exercise in my course. Boys practice push-ups and girls practice sit-ups every day. As long as we persist, as long as we love this exercise with confidence, as long as we make a little progress every day, we will soon kill two birds with one stone.

Another way to exercise willpower is to practice long-distance running. Long-distance running is an exercise. It can exercise our endurance and will. If you are a sports enthusiast, you might as well run long distances every morning.

Another trick to exercise your will is to keep a diary every day. As students, what should we write? What you have to write every day is:

1. Review your thoughts and behaviors during the day, ask yourself what you are happy about during the day, and ask yourself if there are any problems in your study during the day and how to improve it.

2. Make new goals and plans through review, whether it is a life plan or a study plan. Simply writing it down will help you realize it tomorrow.

3. Write about the experience that you deeply felt. People can express anything that happened that day.

4. Write down positive words that can motivate you to make progress. For example, what are the benefits of this matter? We should be good at turning disadvantages into advantages and write down every day: "I am the best, I will succeed!" " There must be a successful way, not impossible, but I haven't found a way yet! I must stick to it and I won't stop until I succeed! "

As long as you actively think and act every day, constantly break through yourself and change yourself, I believe you will become a very outstanding and successful person! Success is not far away, let's do it!