What are the benefits of not getting married?

With the rapid growth of society, people nowadays have not only focused on seeking material things, but also paid more attention to whether they can get enough energy, and their "self-awareness" is constantly awakening and strengthening. We seem to pay more attention to self-realization and so-called freedom than to live by the rules. But some people think that freedom is really the loneliness of another view. Among them, "unmarried" and "dink" are the most counter-attacks. They think that these choices that go against "common sense" are just frivolous and will inevitably regret when they are sad in their twilight years. Is that really the case? I interviewed three 70-year-old men who have never been married, only to know that the answer is really different from what we thought! ? Interviewee 1: Mr. Zhu, "I am very happy, because I am constantly optimistic and the beauty of this world keeps appearing." I didn't think about it in the past, but since I was 50 years old, I have often seen many peers spend most of their lives buying houses for future generations. After retirement, I will work hard for my family and seldom live for myself. Their lives are ups and downs, and they come and go in a hurry. It seems that they have many resumes, but they don't seem to have any resumes at all. I am not judging other people's lives. I just feel weird. Why do I think about other people's lives when my life is not satisfactory? I still remember when I was young, I made such a decision that I didn't intend to get married. Most people have weighed the position of watching the drama, and I regret it. But they didn't compare with that day, because my life was not married, but it kept growing according to the track I wanted, which was both dull and colorful. I have been to countless countries, experienced many different customs and met all kinds of people. I taught myself several ways to speak, some of which can be as accessible as the locals, while others can only ask for directions. I once had a cat, but it walked in front of me. My life now is watching TV and playing chess. There is no suspense in my life, but in this world, it is my biggest suspense. I am happy because I love the world. ? Interviewee 2: Mr. Huang: "Marriage can change your life trajectory, but it can't change your career orientation." When it comes to marriage, it seems far away. When I was young, there was a good premise at home. At that time, I had already gone abroad under social conditions. After returning home, I devoted myself to miracles. At that time, "Fighting for the Rise of China" was not just a slogan. It's not that I'm determined not to get married It's just that my temper at work makes me have no time to eat, and I probably don't have the heart to pay attention to things like marriage and love. My relatives and friends introduced several nice women first, but it was probably because the other person didn't like me, or because I worshipped miracles too much and was afraid of others. In short, these budding relationships ended in nothing. In my thirties, there are always people around me urging marriage. In my forties and fifties, my voice is less. Now that I have retired, I live a leisurely life and can lie in the rocking chair and bask in the sun. No one bothers me, no suspense, only leisurely silence in life. I don't know how to be sad. Many people don't know what they live for all their lives, but I have never thought about the meaning of life. No matter in the past or now, I live a full life every day and look forward to it. I found the price of life and the reason for my existence. Why should I use marriage to prove anything? After all, marriage is just a choice. It can change your life trajectory, but it can't change your career orientation. Happiness or bitterness is your expression, not your resume. ? Interviewee 3: Smith, "My life now is the happiness I want. I am free and calm." Life is fast, time flies, and the blink of an eye is decades. In fact, I have learned one thing in my life. Marriage is not the decisive identity of happiness. In other words, if a person knows how to plan his own life, he can live a happy and peaceful life even if he is always alone; And if a person does not understand the true meaning of life, it is difficult to get happiness even if he is married. When I was almost twenty years old, my parents died in a car accident. After that, I was not alone. I got used to being alone after that. When two people are together, they need to run in and understand each other. With the support of the public, you will never know. I can do everything I want by myself, and I can also face the world with strength and hard work. Why do you need company to be complete? In fact, in your life, no one has defined how to go. You just need to choose the most relaxed and leisurely lifestyle that suits you best. I live a free and stable life. If you want to do something, you can do it spontaneously; If you want to go to a place, you can also travel. The happiness of "unmarried" comes from itself, and its unhappiness comes from the secular. Many people will label us as "abnormal", and there are always people who are not very familiar with you. I was eager to prove before, but now I feel that happiness is my own, so why live in the eyes of others? My life now is to follow the drama like a young man, occasionally go out to play Tai Ji Chuan, dance square dance and keep fit. I don't deny that the elderly are happy to have grandchildren around, but I think my life is also very happy now, and it is the happiness I want. ? In fact, whether you are married or not, happiness is the same: "Even if you have the greatest heart and appreciation for your career, you don't feel sorry for yourself, and you don't feel sorry for yourself; Cherish the right time, spend it hard, listen carefully and take good care of your body and mind; Just silently bear all difficulties and obstacles, and gradually digest the final forgetting; Even if you give harmony and respect to everyone you meet, you will be grateful and moved by the warmth and help you get. " Therefore, people who don't get married can live happily, just like three 70-year-old singles interviewed. Their endings may not be worse than those who get married, or even happier and more regretless. Because not getting married is a choice, not a tragedy. The true meaning of happiness lies in your rich heart, not in marriage itself. Just like some people are not necessarily happy even if they get married, some people can live the life they want even if they never get married.