When you grow up, which six "hidden rules" of life can make you better and better?

Health is more important than anything else.

Regarding happiness, the famous philosopher Zhou gave the answer: Only a healthy body and a quiet soul are happy and a happy person.

Nowadays, many young people, not knowing the importance of health, stay up late desperately, eat high-calorie food and never exercise.

Staying up until the last night and wearing the most expensive mask is the truest portrayal of the life of contemporary young people.

Many people will regret losing their health.

Only when you reach a certain age will you find that a healthy body is the most precious wealth in life.

Health is like the number 1. Career, family, status and money are all zero. With the text 1, the following 0 is meaningful.

Only by having a healthy body can we do what we want to do, love the people we want to love, witness the growth of our children and repay the kindness of our parents.

Only with a healthy body can the money, status, house and car you earn be meaningful.

As Yu Juan, a 32-year-old female doctor of cancer at Fudan University, said: At the critical point of life and death, you will find that any overtime work, too much pressure on yourself, and the need to buy a house and a car are all floating clouds. ?

There is a saying that a healthy beggar is happier than a sick king. ?

Without a healthy body, the so-called money, status and feelings are illusory bubbles.

Therefore, from now on, only by living well, not staying up late, eating healthy food and doing regular exercise can you make your life go further.

Don't lend money to acquaintances easily. It is easier to borrow money than to collect debts.

There is a saying on the internet: the friendship of adults ends with borrowing money.

I'm impressed.

Mengniu Group posted a slogan at its headquarters: 80% of comedies in the world have nothing to do with money, but 80% of tragedies in the world have something to do with money.

Money is really a good thing. It can meet our material needs and enrich our spiritual world.

But money is also the easiest thing to hurt feelings. No matter how good a person is with relatives and friends around him, once it is related to money, it is easy to have problems.

Some people are very kind and generous, and their friends do not hesitate to lend a helping hand when they are in trouble.

But when my friend's difficulties passed, I forgot to borrow money.

At this time, if you take the initiative to ask for it, it will appear that you are too stingy. If you don't, you will feel very uncomfortable.

My brother Han Xiao is like this.

One of his buddies borrowed 1 1,000 yuan for turnover, and said that he would pay it back after half a year. He kindly lent it to the other party.

But after waiting for a year, the other party did not pay back the money. Han Xiao urged the other party for more than five times, and the other party said that he would pay back the money after a while.

Han Xiao knows that the other party is not without money, but he just doesn't want to return it because of all kinds of travel photos in the other party's circle of friends.

Han Xiao directly poked at each other for the last time. The other party directly becomes angry from embarrassment:? Isn't it 1000 yuan? What about you? I have never met such a stingy person as you! ?

In the end, Han Xiao got his money back and lost this friend.

Some people say, what if you lose this friend without borrowing money?

I want to say that if a person wants to break up with you because you don't lend him money, then he doesn't really regard you as a friend.

When friends are in trouble, we can help them, but this kind of help is best psychological or action, and try not to have economic contacts. Otherwise, if something goes wrong, my friend will be fine.

Help others, not too much.

In China's values, helping others is a traditional virtue. Therefore, in social interaction, when people seek help, many people will try their best to help those in need.

But remember, help, don't help too much.

First of all, the more you help, the less you cherish it.

When Sun Li first became famous, she began to support a high school student who had difficulties at home, helping the other person pay tuition and living expenses and alleviating economic pressure.

This group lasted for four years. When the high school student was admitted to college, Sun Li said that he would continue to support another student to finish college.

Unexpectedly, the boy she sponsored, who just went to college, posted an article of nearly 5,000 words on the Internet, accusing Sun Li of failing to honor his promised aid.

Later, it was verified that Sun Li cut off her confession because the student spent a lot of money, but also concealed the 6000 yuan subsidy given to him by the school and kept asking Sun Li for money. In the end, Sun Li was fed up.

This is the real version? Farmers and snakes? This story.

Raise rice, raise goodness, fight rice and raise enmity? That's the truth.

Secondly, the more you help, the more likely you are to make mistakes.

Many times, you find that when you try your best to help a person, if the result doesn't meet the expectations of the other person, the other person will not only appreciate your efforts, but will blame you for not doing well and screwing up his affairs.

As a result, you spent time and energy, but in the end you didn't get any benefits.

Osamu Dazai in Disqualification on Earth:? No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, you increase the probability of not being cherished. So indifference is the normal state of the world. ?

Therefore, in interpersonal communication, help should be enough, and never be too enthusiastic.

Don't show weakness to others easily, no one will really sympathize with you.

When we were young, we always liked to complain to our friends, hoping to get their comfort and understanding.

It is the most useless thing to show your weaknesses to others when you are mature.

Because no one will really understand and sympathize with you.

As Lu Xun said:? The joys and sorrows of human beings are not connected. I just think they are noisy. ?

When you complain to your friends, they can hardly feel the same way. On the contrary, maybe they think you are incompetent in their hearts.

Too much complaining and pouring out will only turn you into a negative energy body and make friends around you choose to stay away from you.

After complaining, you will find that the problem has not been solved, and all things still need to be faced by you alone.

Show your weakness to others easily, and people with ulterior motives will often use it as a handle to praise you.

Never test human nature

In the world of adults, no one will be smooth sailing. However, mature people will choose to digest their emotions alone and lick their wounds slowly in the corner.

When you are in out of the dark, you will find a stronger self.

Don't be afraid of troublesome people, many relationships are troublesome.

There is an argument in "Seven Pa Shuo": Is it a virtue not to disturb others? Most people will think that this sentence is correct, because what was the education we received from childhood? Everything is on your own? .

So in most cases, many people are reluctant to ask for help when they encounter something. I always feel that disturbing others is an embarrassing thing, and I feel that it is a very educated thing. High emotional intelligence? The behavior of.

However, many popular people actually like it? Trouble? Someone else's people.

There is a Franklin effect in psychology, saying that the best way to make others like you is not to help them, but to let them help you.

In social life? Trouble? Others are essentially one kind? Come and go? .

You ask someone for a favor, owe a favor, return the favor next time, the relationship will be closer, and the contacts will be accumulated.

Luo Zhenyu mentioned in "The Story of Chipa": Each of us has no rights and resources in society, but there is one thing we can do, that is, give social money, and giving one is to cause trouble to others. The money in society is limited, so we can't use it at will.

Trouble? While others, in the process of getting into trouble, their own value has also been improved, so as to go faster and further.

Never believe in the power of single-handedness, don't you understand? Trouble? People in other families are bound to be isolated.

Learn to save money, you never know which comes first, tomorrow or accident.

Some time ago, Teacher Ye Qiu sent a Weibo, which got a lot of forwarding:

Today, my wife took a taxi, and the taxi driver took the initiative to tell her that a man who had just got on the bus began to cry.

This person was an executive of an enterprise in Wuhan years ago, with an annual salary of more than 300,000. He bought a suite with a monthly payment of 5,000 yuan and just bought a car with a monthly payment of more than 300,000 yuan.

Originally, I thought about doing a big job this year, paying off the mortgage and car loan, and being a middle class with a house and a car in the future. Unexpectedly, the epidemic passed and the company declared bankruptcy.

Now I can't find a suitable job in Wuhan, and I can't go out of town. Unexpectedly, in just a few months, my life will be so reduced that I can only cry in a taxi. ?

I believe that through this epidemic, many people have deeply realized one sentence:? You never know which comes first, tomorrow or the accident. .

Maybe one day you will suddenly lose your job; Maybe one day your parents suddenly became seriously ill; Maybe one day your children will study abroad.

When an accident comes, a deposit gives us a sense of security, gives us confidence in facing difficulties, and gives us the motivation to bottom out.

A person who has no savings, when an accident comes, you will be instantly beaten back by life.

Just like a sentence: although money is not everything, it can't solve the problem of 100%, but it can solve at least 99% of the problems.

So, from now on, restrain your desires, don't consume more than you can afford, and save money well.

Life is impermanent, and saving money is more important than anything else.