What does "when a person reaches middle age, he does not do three favors, does not spend three things, and does not brag three times"?

1. When you reach middle age, do not take the initiative to help anyone. Be a person who is cold on the inside and cold on the outside. Don't be a good person, and don't lower your profile to offer help. Most help from adults is not appreciated.

2. Don’t help others with important matters. For example, be a matchmaker for others, provide so-called references for others to buy a house or a car, don't provide advice on other people's children's college entrance examination applications, and don't help others find jobs. If this kind of help is good, nothing will happen. If something goes wrong, you will have a lot of responsibility.

3. Don’t do favors for people you haven’t contacted for a long time. Such people only come to you when they need you. They don’t need you to pat their butt and leave without leaving any trace.

4. It is a waste of money without being humane. Some people do not know that there will be no contact in the future, or more cunning people, if they give an electronic invitation, they do not call to invite. This kind of worldly relationship would rather break up the relationship than spend this money.

5. Don’t spend money on unnecessary people. Don’t be too hospitable to relatives and friends who don’t usually move around. After your hospitality spreads, more and more people will come to you. There is no need to spend this kind of money, they treat you like a passer-by.

6. Nowadays, there are many crowdfunding projects, which often appear on the circle of friends. If you don’t know the person, or you are not familiar with the person who posted it, there is no need to spend the money.

7. Don’t brag about how awesome you are, don’t brag about how awesome your family is, and don’t brag about how awesome your friends are. People who brag are because they are not self-aware and do not recognize themselves, but they are very strong and have nothing of their own.

8. Don’t brag about how rich you are. Even if your closest friends don't want to tell you how much money you earn and how much you have in savings, you don't want to expose your wealth. As long as you know you have money, others don't need to know. Knowing only has disadvantages and no benefits.

9. Don’t brag about your plans or the things you haven’t accomplished in the future. If you do say it, you will be empty and your mind will be on bragging instead of doing real things seriously.

Do three favors, don’t spend three dollars, and don’t brag. It refers to the way to deal with others.

In addition, there are

Not making five friends

Not making friends is ungrateful

Not making friends is unfaithful and unfilial

If you don’t make friends, you will kill each other

If you don’t make friends, you will get by

If you don’t make friends, you will not tell the truth

If you don’t tell the truth

If you don’t tell the truth

If you don’t tell the truth

Don’t say angry words

Don’t say panicked words

Don’t ask about four things

Ask about money, ask about officials, ask about longevity, ask questions openly Not happy!

Happiness starts with health! Only with a healthy body can you have a beautiful and happy life! When the weather is cold, be sure to put on more clothes!

As the old saying goes: At thirty, you will not be confused at forty; but for many years, you often make mistakes in middle age; many What is wrong is not the motivation, but the fault of not seeing the essence of things clearly. When people reach middle age, it is even more important to handle their relationships with friends, relatives, and colleagues.

Don’t do three favors:

1. Don’t help other people; the so-called “separate people” means that if someone entrusts you with a favor, you have to entrust others to do it. In this way Busy people are more likely to make mistakes, so it's best not to help.

2. Do not help when it comes to matters of love; when it comes to matters involving the relationship between two people, sometimes it is difficult to distinguish between right and wrong, and helping will be detrimental to the situation. Especially when it comes to favors between men and women, you must be cautious. Especially if both parties have their own families.

3. Strangers are not helpful; modern society has endless ways to deceive people, making it difficult for people to guard against; strangers must be cautious when asking for help. If it is really a big problem, I believe he will call 110 for help instead. Looking for you, we can think about it conversely, why would people come to you, a stranger, for such a big matter instead of looking for the corresponding government agencies? What are your abilities? , I definitely came to you because I have something to gain from you, so I can’t help you with this kind of favor. It’s not as simple as having compassion or not.

Don’t spend three kinds of money:

1. Don’t spend money from unknown sources; people tend to be greedy, especially money and power can often arouse the most primitive greed in people’s hearts. Want, but we must not spend money from unknown sources. Sometimes others will give you money to spend, but never take it. Even if you have a good relationship, if you don’t have money, just borrow it and make money. Don't get yourself into trouble by spending money from unknown sources out of greed.

2. Don’t spend money on raising a lover; the previous netizen has already mentioned it, and I would like to add one more point here. Only when the family is harmonious can everything be prosperous. How can you afford to spend a whole life on raising a lover? The one who accompanies you through the ups and downs of youth without any regrets. As a father or mother, how do you set an example for the next generation?

3. Don’t spend money that will harm your health; now many people hope to extend their life through money, but on the contrary, many people do not cherish their health and spend a lot of money on smoking. It’s really not worth it to drink and stay up late to eat late-night snacks. Being young and not noticing physical discomfort does not mean that your body is fine.

Don’t brag:

1. Don’t brag if you can’t do it; bragging may be something that everyone does, regardless of gender, age or nationality. But don’t brag about what you can’t do. It will do no good except bring trouble to yourself!

2. Don’t brag about things you can do; many times we have the ability to do many things, but we can’t brag to others. Just because you can do it doesn’t mean you can do it well. If others really come to you If you help, you may not be able to do it well. If you don't talk about your feelings when the time comes, you will still cause trouble for yourself!

3. How rich you are cannot be blown away; a big tree attracts the wind. This is an eternal truth. If you have money, you must learn to be calm and don't show it around. When the time comes, there will be more people asking you to borrow money to help. You can't handle it either. At that time, it will not only hurt your feelings, but also hurt yourself.

1 A thankless favor that cannot be helped! Some people are warm-hearted and help with anything, without evaluating their own strength or whether the favor can match their own strength!

The hard work doesn’t count, and in the end it makes people complain if they don’t see the results! It's okay if you don't help, but you can't even be friends if you help!

As the old saying goes, don’t do porcelain work without diamonds!

The story of a migrant worker’s hard work moved his boss and helped him achieve his career!

As a result, the family went bankrupt and became heavily in debt! My career has been fruitless for many years. Not only are we unable to make friends, but we also have hatred!

Wang Ying is a person who is restless with the status quo and highly motivated. He has always been outstanding in his work, but he finally couldn't restrain his passion for his career and embarked on the road of entrepreneurship!

His former leader wanted to do something good, asked Wang Ying to invest, and took the initiative to help her with the project!

But because there was no assessment of the dangers of the project and whether it could be done with its own strength, it ended up being an unfinished project!

The harm caused can be imagined!

2. Don’t help with useless help. It’s meaningless and just a waste of time! When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and they are busy, busy, busy all day long for the life of the family!

I believe no one has so much time to do meaningless things.

Today, Aunt Zhang next door asked you to go to her house to repair the lights. Tomorrow, the neighbor upstairs said that the water pipe was broken and asked you to help repair it. The day after tomorrow, Zhang, Li, Si, Wang and Er Mazi asked you to ask for help!

I come to you for all the trivial matters like sesame and mung beans, but may I ask for your time? So free?

3. Don’t help your colleagues at work! First ask yourself, do you have to do this favor? If you help the wrong person, what will happen if you fail to help?

Does your colleague ask you for help? Does anyone know? Work should not be trivial. If you are doing it privately, who will bear the responsibility if something goes wrong?

Could it be that I want to get you out of class to collect materials? Think about whether this favor can be helped from multiple angles and dimensions, and whether it is worth helping! I think the relationship is very close, and good crisis warning can help!

1 Don’t spend money that is wasted, spend it wisely! When people reach middle age, their earning power decreases and the burden on their families becomes heavier, so they need to have a plan for the money they spend!

01 The random elements are the ones who are taken advantage of! A classmate who you haven't contacted for many years calls you and tells you that the old man is celebrating his 66th birthday! Is there any point in participating?

02 If you invest money randomly, it will be lost forever and you will never get it back! Friends say that micro-business is doing well, and you don’t need to invest too much, you just need to buy some goods! Is it reliable? Just save it!

03 All kinds of health care products are all over the street, so you can use them in vain, but you will have to pay for them later. There is no free lunch in the world. Besides, the best health care products are personal mentality and living habits, and nothing else. Useless!

2 Don’t spend the money you waste on taking risks to start a business! Starting a business is almost like a narrow escape from skin cramps. The family is overburdened and I don’t have so much energy and energy to mess around!

Job stability is the most important thing. Besides, you have reached the age where you cannot afford to lose. If your business fails, it will bring disaster to the whole family!

When people reach middle age, all physical indicators have declined, so it is better to leave it to young people!

3 Don’t spend money that doesn’t yield results! No matter what you do, middle-aged people should have the awareness to prepare for a rainy day!

Begin with the end in mind, investigate and analyze problems when they happen, and estimate the cause based on the results achieved!

See whether the thing is worth doing and whether it can bring value to yourself! You can’t do it based on your imagination, you must be cautious!

1. It’s a shame to brag about how powerful your connections are when meeting someone!

A middle-aged person has both work experience and social experience! I have met a lot of great people and they speak freely!

How many business luminaries and industry experts and leaders have you met? How many things have been done for you and how many problems have been solved! Too much talk leads to mistakes, and the consequences of the incident will be very serious!

2. Don’t brag about how successful your career is! No one likes to hear about your success, they are more jealous and jealous!

This is not to mention invisibly creating competitors for yourself. You don’t even know who will overtake you one day! What’s even more annoying is that you’re not awesome?

Everyone comes to you for help. Do you want to help or not? Don't do it if you don't help your friends. If you help the wrong person, you still have to complain!

So remember to be low-key, low-key! Make a fortune silently! No matter how confident you are, the one who pretends to be stupid and stupid is the one with great wisdom!

3. Don’t brag everywhere about how strong your family’s financial strength is! They all come to you to borrow money. Do you want to borrow money or not?

Make excuses and people say you are too arrogant and bragging! If you borrow it, most of it will end in nothing, and you won’t be able to make friends!

What about the scary ones? Isn’t your family rich? Relatives and friends pay for all the meals and events, and they all come to you to pay the bill! [Hold face][Hold face]

The weather is very sunny today and everything is calm because the cows have gone to work in the fields! God will be happy if you are more practical! People in middle age have already experienced some ups and downs, and they should be able to make correct judgments about certain people and things.

As the saying goes, "No confusion at forty", then what is it if a middle-aged person doesn't do three favors, spend three money, and don't boast three times?

1. Don’t do three things:

1. Don’t do anything beyond your ability.

I remember a skit about a middle-aged man. People, for the sake of face, do anything to help. One of the words they often say is "If you have anything to say, please speak to me." In the sketch, the character Guo Zi stayed up late to buy tickets for others with his own quilt. In the end, he spent a lot of money to help others. ticket. In fact, this is to help beyond one's ability, and the result is only to "slap one's face on others". In fact, it is often to gain face and end up losing face!

2. Being "busy" when you know you can't do anything

This means that many people help others with guarantees, loans, etc., but the result is often that the person who asked you to run away. Well, I originally wanted to do a favor, but ended up breaking the law and being burdened with a huge debt. What seemed like a righteous favor often ended up getting me deeply involved and unable to extricate myself.

3. Not doing favors for unjust people

For example, this person is not even filial to his parents. If you help him, he will be grateful. Picture report? Absolutely impossible, because your position in his heart is only the highest during difficult times, and you will be nothing after the difficulties. If you help such a person, you will make yourself sad. Why bother! In fact, the same goes for making friends. First of all, check whether the person is kind or not. How to judge whether the person is kind or not? It's very simple: "Filial piety comes first among all good deeds."

2. Don’t spend three dollars

1. Gambling money

Nine times out of ten you will lose when you gamble. This is the unchanging truth. Maybe there will be a small profit at first. Small favors lead to addiction to gambling, and the final consequence can only be "the separation of wives and children, and the bankruptcy of the whole family."

2. Excessive overdraft of money

As the saying goes, "It is easy to change from frugality to luxury." "It is difficult to be frugal and extravagant." Once people develop the habit of lavish spending, coupled with their own limited ability to make money, they will overdraw their credit cards for consumption. There are such examples around me, and the result is often withdrawals from this card. After I transferred it to that card, I became a defaulter and had to rely on my parents to pay back the money.

3. Don’t spend friends’ money

The friend’s money mentioned here means: when people reach middle age, they will inevitably have consumption such as friends’ gatherings. Don’t be a stubborn person and spend nothing. , always let your friends spend money to treat you, then your road will become narrower and narrower, and you will eventually lose your friends. In fact, not spending your friends’ money here can also be seen as: spending your own money wisely. Don't lose friends!

3. Don’t brag about the three things you can’t achieve

1. Don’t brag about things you can’t achieve I can do whatever I want, but it turns out that someone in the audience has this need, and the result is that I can’t get off the stage, and I’m embarrassed and conspicuous!

2. Don’t brag when you are angry

People in middle age should be more calm and stop being like young men in their twenties and thirties who always brag and get angry with others. For example, if you say you are very strong, you will try something out of anger, and it will be okay if you lose. If you get injured or get injured, then it is true. A bragging statement will hurt yourself!

3. Don’t brag about your bravery in the past

A good man should not mention his bravery in his past. When you reach middle age, you should recognize yourself clearly, let go of your arrogance, and don’t always talk about how powerful you were back then. In fact, when you say this, others will not envy you, but will probably laugh at you and think you are naive!

In short, when people reach middle age, they must first understand themselves, including their physical condition, abilities, strength, etc. We should bow our heads like mature wheat ears.

We should live in the present, because only living every day seriously is the most important!

The above is my answer. I hope it can help you!

What does "when a middle-aged man does not help, spend money, or brag" refers to, different people have different ideas and priorities, but most people generally agree that:

A. Don’t do three favors

A stranger may be willing to ask you for help for some ulterior reason. It is possible that others are taking advantage of your "kindness and sympathy" to achieve the purpose of deceiving you. This kind of favor obviously cannot be helped.

2. "Cover" for others - don't help

Don't ask you to "cover" for something just because you are a friend or even your boss. cover". Just think about why you don't respond. Obviously there is a "risk" in it. You may "take the blame" for others, or act as a "scapegoat". Covering for others means that others are taking advantage of you. If you do this, you must be a "fool".

3. Don’t help others with their “male-female relationship”

If your husband and wife are at odds or their relationship is in crisis, others will ask you for help in persuasion and mediation. As the saying goes: "It is difficult for young officials to deal with household chores." Anyone who is persuaded or judged by others will have some unexpected effects, often "when people are tired, things will not look good." Therefore, it is better to hide if you can and not to participate.

B. Don’t spend three cents

No matter how "intoxicating" others boast, you must have a backbone. Don’t blindly follow it. Unreliable investments are obviously fruitless. This means money is wasted. Therefore, you should never participate in unreliable investments.

2. Don’t spend money to cure all diseases

There is no “cure-all” medicine in the world. This is obviously an exaggeration of the facts and a strong “deception” . If you still spend money, it is obviously a "stupid" behavior, and the result can only be "spending money but not curing the disease."

3. Do not spend money on "looking for flowers and asking willows"

Finding a lover not only costs money, but also affects the harmony of the family. Sometimes, people and money are even lost. Just imagine, if you have nothing, will you have any lover?

C. Don’t brag

In order to prove that they are very capable, some people always brag that they can do “everything”. When others hear it, they always think it is "gaudy" and judged as "hypocritical". If someone actually asks you to do something for yourself, you may be troubled by not being able to do it. This is a typical example of "asking for trouble." When you are unable to get something done, it gives the impression that you are "incompetent and not the right person". Therefore, don’t brag about such things to reduce your own “trouble”.

2. How promising your children are—don’t brag.

No matter how promising your children are, they cannot “show off” in front of others. This is because if your child is really good and promising. When others hear it, they will also feel a certain degree of "discomfort" and even hurt their hearts. If you exaggerate the facts and brag about your children, this will also be more offensive. Therefore, it is best not to have anything to do with such cattle.

3. Those who can control their "object" - don't brag

People who can control their wives or husbands are a kind of self-deficiency. exposed. You must know that "husband and wife are equal persons" and there is no relationship between managing and being managed. Regardless of the facts, bragging about your ability to control your wife (or husband) is a sign of immaturity. Life tells us that it is better not to brag about this kind of bullshit.

1. Don’t help when you can’t help.

To prove that you have “strength” in middle age, you can’t do it by pretending to be fat and boasting about your abilities. If nothing happens, it will be difficult to end the situation by lying and leaking information in the end.

2. Not helping when there are family conflicts

No matter how good relatives and friends are, they should not interfere in the household affairs between husband and wife. No matter how much outsiders help, it will not be right.

Because, originally, there is no "right and wrong" in family conflicts.

3. Can’t help with guarantees

Relatives and friends can’t help with borrowing money, loans, or low mortgages on houses. People's hearts are unpredictable, and they have a lot of good words to say when needed. When encountering risks and mistakes, they turn their backs on people and ignore people. Not only does their money suffer, but their mood also deteriorates.

1. Don’t spend money “tomorrow”

Nowadays, Ant loan, Weili loan, and credit cards can solve the temporary funding gap. But you must be restrained when using tomorrow's money, and you must act within your ability when you reach middle age.

2. Do not spend money that is not your own.

Never spend money that does not belong to you through your own hands. Middle age is a mature age, and the rights in your hands will be Remember, you must always be awake! Don't be fooled by money you shouldn't have spent.

3. Don’t spend money on “fishing”

There is no such thing as pie in the sky. Don’t be greedy for small profits. Believe in those glib words, the greater the reward. Risks are getting higher and higher, so you should invest cautiously. After all, people's ability to resist failure has weakened in middle age.

1. Do not brag about what happened in the past

A good man does not mention his bravery in the past. When he is full of food and drinks, he often talks about your "heroic deeds" in his youth, and others flatter him on the surface. You, I despise you in my heart.

2. Don’t brag about your children’s growth

It’s annoying to talk about how outstanding and promising your children are. You should know that there are people outside the world and there is a heaven outside the world.

3. Don’t brag about your wealth

Showing off your wealth is a sign of frivolity and immaturity, does not match the maturity and stability of middle-aged people, and also contains the element of bragging. The harm may lead to loan, robbery and even life-threatening.

When a middle-aged person does not do three favors, does not spend three things, and does not brag three times, what does it mean?

Let me understand and answer this question:

Don’t do three favors: First, don’t do anything beyond your ability; (If you can help, just help, but if you can’t help others, Reluctantly.)

The second is not to help people with ulterior motives; (If you are not careful, you may be tricked and used to eat coptis with dumb people.)

The third is not to help people with bad character. People are busy. (There are always people who like to borrow money everywhere without paying it back, and have no sense of credit.)

Don’t spend money: Don’t spend money carelessly; (Middle-aged people need to be rational and understand what they need better. Don't waste your energy, because making money is indeed much more difficult than spending money.)

Second, don't be greedy and easily deceived by others; (the mind needs wisdom and sobriety, fish often eat because of it.

The third is not to indulge in gambling; (Gambling is a waste of energy and money, and a gamble can make people lose everything.)

Don’t gamble. Cow: First, don’t brag about how much wealth you have; (No one would be happy to see you richer than him, human nature has negative aspects such as jealousy, jealousy, etc.)

Second, don’t brag about how great your abilities are. (This can easily lead to a lot of trouble. In reality, the less capable people are, the more likely they are to brag about such bragging.)

The third is not to brag about how powerful your children or relatives are; (Being low-key will make life easier and more comfortable.)

As people reach middle age, they are getting wasted day by day, and they can no longer act as they please, because their responsibilities are getting heavier and heavier.

1. Don’t worry about the matter, hang it high. Don't take the initiative to be an enthusiastic person. If you feel that your life is better than others and your ideas are more upright than others, maybe your life is not as good as others. Human relationships vary, and people who take the initiative to help others may not necessarily have a good ending in the end. They either become more helpful the more they help, or they lose their kindness in helping. Such things abound.

2. Use less icing on the cake and more timely assistance.

If you really want to help others, you must look for the right person. For some people, no matter how much you do, it will just add color and will not leave much impression on others and won’t get much gratitude; while for some people, your actions will not help others. A little care and help may bring about qualitative changes to others, and this kind of help is the most meaningful.

3. Don’t kill a good person, and don’t support your brother. Don't be a bad person in the workplace. The more you help yourself, the more trouble you make. If something goes wrong, you have to take the blame. Just do your part. For relatives and friends, providing help is enough. Those who support their younger brothers may seem to care about family affection, but in fact they have no principles and can only destroy themselves and their families in the end.

1. Don’t spend money on your lover, that is to say, don’t engage in extramarital affairs, and don’t mess with relationships between men and women. Such people will most likely lose their families, people, and money.

2. Don’t engage in useless socializing. You are already a long time old. It is better to be more realistic. The days of hanging out with friends and eating and drinking are over. Spend more time with your family and spend more money with you. It is better than anything else for your family to improve their lives.

3. Don’t risk everything. When you reach middle age, there are many things you need to spend money on, such as the elderly, children, car loans, home loans, etc. Whether you are investing or starting a business, don’t put all your money into it. , be sure to have a backup plan. In addition, you must not get involved in things like gambling. If you do, the family will be over.

1. Don’t brag about your connections. Don’t brag about how extensive your connections are. Instead, brag about how powerful your connections are. As long as you are good, others will see it. If your connections are not good, no one will believe you no matter how much you brag.

2. Don’t brag about your health. Don’t talk about how healthy you are. Get regular physical examinations every year, not only for yourself but also for your family. A serious illness may bring you back to before liberation.

3. Don’t brag about your children, don’t go out and embarrass them about how obedient they are and how well they study. Before they become successful, everything is unknown. Embarrassing them in front of others will only arouse others’ resentment, because everyone has children. .

The above is just a family opinion, and it is also some of the things I hate. Discussions are welcome.