Suo Yang: Why did you die at a young age, because you went to the toilet to dig holes, keep warm and burn furniture?

I believe everyone has heard of the "lazy story" when they were young. Mothers often use this story to teach their children to be diligent and not starve to death with a pie around their necks like that lazy man.

There is no way to prove the lazy man in the story. Maybe it is just made up by parents to educate their children, but there really is such a lazy man in reality. He is "the first lazy man in China"-Suo Yang.

Suo Yang, the "first lazy man in China", went to the toilet to dig a hole to warm himself and burn furniture, and died at home at the age of 23.

1986, Suo Yang was born in a small village in the north, and he was also the only child in his family. His parents attach great importance to this son.

The old couple, whose family is not rich, tried their best to meet all the needs of their son, and really achieved "clothes to reach out, rice to open their mouths." Sometimes a son wants to move by himself, but his parents refuse.

In this way, Suo Yang was brought up like a giant baby. The villagers advised them not to spoil their children, but the couple wouldn't listen. Until the age of 8, they didn't let their children's feet touch the ground for too long. Pick your son with a pole every time you go out.

Later, in the first grade of primary school, Suo Yang's "little emperor" temper and lazy temper made the teacher unbearable. Every time he criticized him, he went home to complain to his parents. His parents immediately came to the teacher to judge, but the teacher had no choice but to persuade him to leave.

Parents still have the ability to work and have been raising their sons until Suo Yang 13-year-old father died of illness. The burden on the family also increased, and the mother was reluctant to let her son work. Finally, Suo Yang 18 died.

Mother was very ill before she died, but worried that her son would be left unattended in the future, she asked someone to find a job as a hotel waiter. But Suo Yang became the "grandpa" in the hotel, sleeping and eating all day, and was finally sent back by the boss. At this time, my mother regretted it, but it was too late.

Suo Yang has been living in his shabby house since his parents died. Occasionally, relatives and villagers will come to deliver food to him, but they are too lazy to deliver it to the door. Don't go out to the toilet, just dig a hole in the house and solve it on the spot. In winter, heating will burn all the furniture and quilts.

At the age of 23, his relatives went to deliver food to him and found that he was lazy and died at home, so his great youth disappeared.

Who is to blame for Suo Yang's "lazy death"? Most of them are parents' "giant baby parenting", which is also the social status quo.

Suo Yang's life is absurd. He was once made into a movie to warn the world that no matter how good the material living conditions are, you can't "raise a baby", otherwise you can only end up like Suo Yang's parents.

Suo Yang's parents' education mode is also the social status quo. Parents do everything for their children. In the end, children have not experienced any setbacks and lessons, and it is difficult to grow up in society.

To put an end to "giant baby parenting", parents should check whether the following two points have been achieved:

1) Is education "utilitarian"

Some parents attach too much importance to their children's learning, thinking that "everything is inferior, only reading is high", children only need to study, and other things are arranged by parents. In the long run, children use learning as an excuse to order and threaten their parents.

Educating children should abandon "utilitarianism", develop morally, intellectually, physically and artistically in an all-round way, and become a nerd will not be promising. It is the most important thing to cultivate children's practical ability, thinking ability and independent ability.

2) Can you "let go" in your life?

Just like Suo Yang, he starved to death without the care of his parents. When the food was put aside, he was too lazy to reach for it. This is the performance of not being able to "let go".

In real life, parents should teach their children basic life skills from an early age, not only to prevent their parents from taking care of themselves, but also to reduce their pressure.

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