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Is it important for parents to educate their children or to save money for their children?

Many parents around us are trying to make money, but most of them are forced by the helplessness of life, not to realize their dreams.

Especially after having a family and children, what adults often say is to make money and save money for their children.

If you are poor, you will inherit the wind. Everyone wants to create a better life for your children and make their life less stressful in the future.

Although money is important to people's lives, how important is it to children?

No matter how much wealth parents can create for their children, even Jinshan Yinshan will be eaten if their children don't work hard and make progress.

"Children's Personality Education" tells us that personality education is the most important in children's education, far exceeding how much money we can save for our children.

What is personality?

Personality is also called personality. This concept originated in Persona, Greece, and originally mainly refers to the masks worn by actors on the stage.

Similar to the facial makeup in Chinese Peking Opera, psychology later borrowed this term to explain that on the big stage of life, people will change their masks according to their social roles, and these masks are the external manifestations of their personality.

Personality charm is a Chinese word, which means a person's attractive strength in personality, temperament, ability and moral quality.

Only one person can truly have personality charm, then they will be more popular in society and develop better.

Character changes fate.

"Children's personality education" is very important to guide children. A fundamental fact about human development is that people's psychology is always full of vitality and purposeful pursuit.

A child has been in the process of pursuing Excellence, perfection and superiority since birth, which embodies the unique thinking and imagination of human beings.

It not only dominates all the concrete behaviors in our lives, but also determines our thoughts. Because thoughts are not objective, but consistent with the goals and lifestyles we have formed. ''

At present, many parents only pay attention to their children's learning, consciously or unconsciously ignoring other aspects of their children, and the personality education of children will be excluded from the dictionary by many parents, but it is the most important.

Some children always have a sense of inferiority, which directly affects their study, work and life, and personality education can make children know themselves correctly.

Seeing your shining side, thus forming self-confidence and being able to treat life optimistically will naturally change your life.

Childhood is a critical period of personality cultivation.

Sophora japonica sugar experiment

1966- 1970 professor Mitchell conducted an experiment on delayed gratification of 550 4-year-old children in the kindergarten affiliated to Stanford university.

The researcher put a marshmallow in front of the children and told them that he would leave later.

If the child eats the marshmallow in front of him when he is away, he can only eat one piece; If the children wait until they come back, they will get two marshmallows, one of which is a reward for them.

However, when the researchers came back after 15 minutes, 70% of the children ate the marshmallows in front of them, and only 30% chose to wait, so they finally got two marshmallows.

Follow-up research shows that those children who are willing to wait for 30% will be more successful in work, family and other aspects when they grow up.

And those 70% children who don't want to wait, not only don't know how to face the pressure, but also are not sociable, their lives are worse in all aspects, and they are even more likely to catch some bad habits.

Through this experiment, we can easily see that personality has a lifelong influence on children, and those children with personality charm are more likely to achieve success and happiness.

Children's personality education should be formed in childhood. 1978, when 75 nobel prize winners gathered in Paris, a reporter asked one of them, "which university did you learn the most important thing?" ''

In kindergarten, when the 80-year-old man said this sentence very calmly, it was obvious that the reporter was shocked.

The old man recalled:

I learned a lot in kindergarten and I know how to share it with my friends. Know that things should be placed neatly; Know to wash your hands before and after meals; Know how to admit your mistakes; Know that you can't take things that don't belong to you; Know how to feel nature with your heart.

I think, fundamentally, these are the main things I have learned. ''

People, like ceramics, formed the embryonic form of life when they were young. Childhood is like clay for making ceramics, and what kind of education will become what kind of embryonic form. -Cedez

How to guide children's personality education?

Adler, the author of Children's Personality Education, emphasizes that every child is pursuing a sense of Excellence. The task of parents and teachers is to lead this pursuit in a fruitful and beneficial direction and ensure that the pursuit of superiority can bring mental health and happiness to children. ''

1, learn to respect children

Everyone is eager to be respected by others, even young children.

However, parents always hope that their children can listen to themselves, but consciously ignore that children also have self-esteem. Only by protecting their self-esteem can they be more willing to communicate with their parents and have more confidence in themselves.

2. Be prepared to criticize children.

Some parents think that since children are given life, they can control and criticize at will. They can't tolerate any resistance from their children and often criticize them.

But if we say why we criticize our children, but the children can't say why, this will obviously make them unconvinced and make them react to their parents' education.

3. Look at the problem from the child's point of view

When educating their children, parents often habitually try to figure out their children from their own perspective, which is unfair to them.

Children will have their own ideas, and their ideas are obviously different from those of adults, so only by looking at the problem from the perspective of children can we really understand children.

4. Allow children to make mistakes

It is human nature to make mistakes. Even parents themselves can't guarantee that they won't make mistakes in life, and who is qualified to ask their children?

Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes, and don't just blame them for their mistakes. Instead, they should guide their children to learn from their mistakes and lay the foundation for future success.

Let children become more and more confident and brave, let children have noble personality charm and let children have a better life.