Family Education Classroom-Understanding Children

? Our parents' class started this week! I am honored to be the first again. Every time I am assigned to the first class or lecture, it will give me pressure. There is nothing to choose from "turning pressure into motivation". Let's go

At the beginning of the course, we gave parents a vaccination: parents and friends, when learning, we should pay attention to six words: "studious, good at learning, persistent, empty cup mentality, active participation and hard experience."

? The object of this course is mainly the parents of the seventh and eighth grade students in our school. Children in grades 7 and 8 are in adolescence and have their own development characteristics. For this special group, our curriculum design is as follows:

First of all, introduce the development stage of children;

1. Infant stage

? The ability to understand children's emotions in infancy has developed rapidly. They can understand their emotions from their parents' expressions and language, and they usually listen to their parents' opinions out of their attachment to their parents. Moreover, at this stage, children's self-evaluation ability has just begun to develop, and their understanding of themselves is easily hinted. If adults have any comments on them, they will believe them and may develop in the direction of adult suggestions. At this time, children's acceptance of parental education is very high. Therefore, parents' timely and accurate implementation of education will have a good direct effect on children's education.

2. Primary school stage

? At this stage, children's sense of independence has gradually developed, but there is no strong desire to get rid of parents' constraints. Children's self-evaluation ability has further developed, but their dependence on their parents is still very strong, so they are more obedient to their parents' authority. At this stage, children's self-esteem and self-confidence begin to develop, that is, as the saying goes, "children know how to love face." At this time, parents' encouragement and praise can play a very obvious incentive role. As long as children are praised in a targeted way, they can listen to their parents.

3. Middle school stage

? At this stage, students' thinking form is mainly abstract logical thinking, so they have a deeper understanding of language, not only the superficial meaning of language, but also the implied meaning behind it. In family education, children will understand their parents' words more deeply. If parents don't pay attention to their words, they are likely to make their children feel hurt. As the saying goes: "The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart."

? Thirdly, let parents and friends discuss in groups, "What are the challenges your children bring to you? Write specific events ";

Most parents wrote: love playing with mobile phones, procrastinating, sleeping late, talking back, self-discipline, blx, etc.

Then, understand the iceberg map, the mistakes children make when seeking "sense of belonging and value";

? Adler classified the purpose of adolescent children's wrong behavior into four categories: seeking excessive attention, seeking power, revenge and giving up self.

1. Seeking excessive attention: I hope to be seen first and feel love before I feel valuable; With the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, they will become particularly sensitive and begin to pay attention to their appearance and identity. The seeds of love make them make some extremely risky decisions to attract the favor of the opposite sex, or set some goals that are difficult to achieve in a short time.

Parents can let their children feel their position in the family and let them know that they have made contributions to the family by arranging them to participate in a beneficial task. Arrange special time to accompany children and let them feel the love of their parents; Hold regular democratic family meetings to share what happened in a week and talk on an equal footing;

2. Seeking strength: I am eager to have my own time and space, pursue independence and individuality, hope to get rid of my parents' control and start looking for a sense of belonging outside my family, which is deeply influenced by my peers. Adolescent self-esteem urges them to put forward new requirements for themselves in study and performance;

Parents can be consultants and leaders without forcing their children; Evacuate the conflict and calm yourself down; Firm and kind; Decide what you should do and let the daily affairs decide; Cultivate mutual respect; Guide children to use their rights in a positive way; Hold a family meeting.

3. Revenge: Why is there a tragedy of adolescence? This is revenge on my family. I ruined myself. See how you live.

Parents can. You may be crazy or sad at this time. How can a child treat me like this? Detect the child's behavior in advance and deal with the child's feeling of injury: "Your behavior tells me that you must feel hurt. Can you talk to me? " ; Avoid punishment and counterattack. Reflective listening; Apologize, let children know your concern, prove everything with actions, and encourage their advantages; Hold a family meeting.

4. Give up on yourself: If you are not encouraged when you grow up, you will be addicted to the game to find a sense of accomplishment. What the child wants to express is: don't give up on me, let me see a little progress.

? Parents can express their trust in their children, stop criticizing, encourage any small positive efforts, give their children a chance to succeed, really like this child, and encourage, encourage and encourage based on their interests; Hold a family meeting.

Only when we really understand the purpose behind children's behavior can we make an encouraging response, which requires us to keep learning, trying and making mistakes, and grow up with them.

Finally, end today's lesson with "Little Fist of Making Games":

? A clenched fist is equivalent to our heart. If it is opened in the right way, then the one who clenched his fist is very willing to open it, or establish a mutual trust dialogue platform; However, the way of opening is incorrect. People who clench their fists will have stronger resistance, lose control of their emotions, or choose to give up.

On the bright side:

1. Before each lecture or class, I will build a successful image and give myself confident ideas, which will make me confident in class. No matter what class you take, you must first have confidence in yourself. If you don't believe it yourself, how can you make others believe it?

2. Learn from past experience and make full use of parents who think they are successful in education. Praise and encourage them and follow their example. "You see that such excellent parents are still studying, and we have to work harder." At the same time, constantly encourage and guide parents to actively participate in the classroom.

Where improvements are needed:

1. In the course of curriculum design, the objectives are not clear enough and parents don't know enough;

In the future, parents attending classes can be investigated before class.

2. The word-for-word draft design is not suitable for parents' actual situation, which leads parents to think that language is a little biased towards children's personality characteristics in class.

? Learn more about parents, pay attention to children's psychological development, read more cases and take notes.

3, if the field is completed, it is not enough. This seems to be one of my weaknesses. I always think that as long as the content is attractive enough. )

Sometimes my "empty cup" is not enough. In fact, I haven't figured out whether this is "unwilling to accept other people's opinions" or "really just think that constant change will affect my performance in class"

Accept the opinions of others with an open mind. A threesome requires a teacher.

5. Not wise enough. When guiding parents to participate, they fail to use the language that attracts parents wisely, and the connection of each activity is not enough.

"? The art of language, the charm of language ".

6. The design of games and activities needs to be improved, and the explanation is not clear enough.

Read more books at ordinary times, watch other teachers' classes, learn from others' experience, and handle classes flexibly.

? Educating children is a process of self-growth. We learn to keep our mouths shut, stop controlling or manipulating children in disguise, give them freedom and power, love them unconditionally and trust their growth.