My girlfriend won't let me text her, so I'm in a dilemma. . .

This is all an excuse! I think it's still the reason why you are not good at communication! You think texting is easy, and you don't know what to say when you call! If you really want to make a phone call, there is no limit to working hours. You can't call after work. There is always a time to go home in front of parents. Close the door of your bedroom! Didn't you always keep your head down and send a text message to the leader not to see your parents?