Why do some people always reply to your messages in seconds?

The love way of contemporary young people is to have you in mind, with you as the head and you as the second.

So many people use this as a standard to test their other half. As long as the other person does not meet this requirement, they will assume that they are not loved.

But after calm thinking, I will understand that this way is extremely narrow, because true love is not only reflected in these small things, but in all aspects, and we can't generalize.

What's more, it's easy to change the avatar, and it's too difficult to ask the other person to return in seconds. After all, not everyone can stay in front of the mobile phone all the time.

If you care too much about the other person's second reaction, you are likely to miss the person who really loves you, and it is easy to be used by you.

Psychologists have done a study, and the results show that seconds can't represent a person's mind. On the contrary, it reflects the problems of some people and deserves our vigilance.

Generally speaking, there are only two kinds of people who can call you back at any time, but neither of them deserves your deep love.

0 1: Only those who have nothing to do all day have time to return.

If you want a second, you must first meet one condition, that is, you are watching your mobile phone every second. However, modern people are generally busy at work and have time to browse WeChat in their leisure time, which is simply impossible. The only people who can satisfy this are those who have nothing to do.

A person can answer you in seconds, not necessarily because he cares about you, but also because he is too idle. He plays with his mobile phone all the time, so he can always reply to your message as soon as possible and even talk to you all night.

Perhaps, you are just one of his chat objects. When you are busy with your work, he may have become someone else's soul mate, but you just didn't find it.

Therefore, we must be careful of those who come back every second to avoid meeting men who are not doing their jobs. Be more careful of those who reply to everyone in seconds, so as not to encounter people who are not experienced in feelings and let themselves suffer.

02: Come on, personality, it will force you to retreat for a second.

Many people will feel bombarded by all kinds of news and want to turn off all the chat tools at once, but as soon as WeChat rings, you will reply as soon as possible, because you don't want to offend anyone.

Psychologically speaking, this belongs to a pleasant personality category. They don't want to affect other people's impressions, and they are afraid of affecting their relationship, so they would rather force themselves to go back for a second.

But such people often do not treat others sincerely, but have to reply out of courtesy. In other words, in the other person's mind, you are not necessarily the most important person, but the object he wants to please.

A really good relationship should be relaxed, not flattering each other like wearing a mask. This kind of relationship lacks realism, and the feelings of each other will always stay on the surface, which is difficult to last for a long time and will not make you really warm.

Therefore, there is no need to be complacent when being answered by others, but also learn to judge each other's motives.

A flattering person will please you in everything, always talk back and take the initiative to obey you whenever possible.