The undefinable relationships between men and women in the world

Those undefinable relationships between men and women in the world

Boyfriend and girlfriend? It’s hard to say; lover is a comrade? Yes and no; brothers and sisters? You can also say that

In fact, even they themselves are not so clear about their relationship. It seems that he can't live without her, and she can't live without him, but in fact, each has its own sunshine, air and moisture

The city that has always subverted the tradition with multiple values ????is constantly metabolizing, and the relationship between men and women has also become more and more mature. Diversified, the relationship between him and her, from emotion to body, is becoming more and more ambiguous and undefinable.

One of the ambiguous relationships: brother and sister (sister and brother)

Ambiguousness index: ****

Innocence index: ***

< p>Signature slogan: "So-and-so is my brother, we are relatives."

"She is 10 years younger than me, little sister"

Classic shot:

1. Every day at noon, a young woman would appear at the front desk of his company, smiling and carrying a few lunch boxes, and said: "Brother, try the egg fried rice I made today, how do you like it?" Then she smiled and said She watched him finish eating carefully, then helped him clean up, not forgetting to carefully wipe the rice grains from his chin. He said distressedly: "I really don't know what's going on in your little head!"

2. At the party, there were so many beauties around him, and the buddies made fun of each other, so it's not surprising that they often eat tofu. . However, someone told her a dirty joke, which made her blush. He immediately stood on his head and lectured the other person: "You can't bully her, she is my sister."

3. She was fashionably dressed. , but there would often be a young man beside her, sweetly calling her sister. In fact, there is no blood relationship at all. When crossing the road, she would hold his hand tightly, and when eating, she would specially give him a chopstick dish. Many men who pursued her would easily suffer her eyes. Only this little "brother" sometimes looked like He protects his "sister" like an adult, but sometimes he becomes a little naughty person who makes his "sister" laugh or cry.

Relationship analysis:

For the "brother", the meaning of the little sister's existence is to make him have the desire to protect her. When the heroism in the man needs to be poured out, When he feels helpless and lonely, his "little sister's" well-behavedness and tenderness often make him feel more comfortable than ordinary gentleness and considerateness, and her admiration for him makes him feel extra confident, which just satisfies the man's needs. Some kind of spiritual conquest. For "sister", what she wants is very simple to be loved and protected.

For "sister", before there is a perfect boyfriend, "brother" is a very considerate little follower. He has the dual benefits of a man and a boy. He will not deliberately get in trouble with her. When she is in trouble, he will not betray his oath, and when her maternal nature comes out, he becomes a cute and innocent "little thing". For a "younger brother", a "sister" is often a woman who is trustworthy and full of feminine charm.

Potential crisis:

In real life, most "family" relationships are often difficult to evolve into real love relationships. In this kind of relationship between men and women, there are mostly elements of pity and love, and there is rarely any common language, let alone equal experience, and the feelings of "younger siblings" towards "older siblings" are often heavier and more complicated. , and it is easy to fall into it and be unable to extricate yourself. Once the "ambiguity" is excessive, and once the "older brother and sister" have a lover, the "younger brother and sister" will inevitably become a stumbling block.

Ambiguous relationship two: beauty and beauty

Ambiguous index: *****

Innocence index: *

Signature slogan : "A woman's heart and body can be separated. There is only one pure word between us."

"There is no pure friendship between men and women? That's just because you haven't found a confidante."< /p>

"He is my soulmate. We understand each other but will never possess him."

Classic scenes:

1. After every quarrel with my wife , he would rush out of the door and run to her house to cry. Afterwards, he would say: "Why is the person I love not you? Why can't my wife be as understanding as you?" She replied: "If your wife can If you do this to me, she will no longer be your wife.”

2. After being criticized by her boss, she couldn’t figure it out. Her girlfriend refused to invite her to go shopping to relax, and insisted on calling him to complain. For a while, he analyzed examples and principles of life for her until she became cheerful again.

When encountering some major choices, she would also consult with him, and she felt that she had a very similar language. She said: "My boyfriend understands my body best, and you are the confidant who understands my thoughts best."

Relationship Analysis:

When you are depressed, you encounter all kinds of life In times of difficulty, they become fish that "help each other". Once the sea tide returns, they swim away separately. Even if both parties have lovers, some private and intimate conversations are only spoken to the "girlfriend". To a certain extent, this kind of relationship between men and women is mostly love that stays on the spiritual level. It can also be said that compared with the relationship between lovers, they only lack physical communication.

Potential crisis:

Even the most innocent confidante can easily be misunderstood as a third party once one of the lovers is not open-minded and sensible enough; secondly, after all, he is a man Once a woman "wines with a close friend, a thousand cups are too little" and becomes overly affectionate, she will inevitably "take off her clothes and take off her belt". Once the last line of defense is broken, it will be difficult to continue the "confidant" relationship.

Ambiguous relationship three: Internet lover

Ambiguous index: *****

Innocence index: **

Signature slogan : "I love you, even if I never see you. I can feel everything about you, I can't see you, that's not a problem."

"We fall in love in the world of bits, leaving the Internet, this Love cannot survive."

Classic scenes:

1. He goes home every day to eat the food cooked by his wife, and then when she is washing in the kitchen, she hears something coming from the room. to the sound of keyboard tapping. The woman who doesn't have to take care of his life and everything is sharing her husband's feelings with peace of mind on the other side of the Internet. And she is still quietly guarding the soulless body of the man she married.

2. "Dear, I'm sending you 999 roses."

"Really?"

An email with a picture of roses on it" Whoosh" it arrived in her mailbox.

"Let me kiss you"

"Well, I feel it, your soft and moist lips"

"Well, I brushed it specially for you "It's too late."

Relationship analysis:

On the Internet, they "fall in love" and even hold a wedding. They are two strangers who have never met. They rely on each other through word games. and sources of interest. They are addicted to it, and the Internet makes them look "perfect."

Different from ordinary online dating, most of these online lovers will not meet each other, but rely on their imagination of each other to create various romantic atmospheres and assumptions.

Unlike love in real life, the cost of online lovers is very low and there is no need to bear moral pressure.

Potential crisis:

Because what we love each other is only our own imagination and the maze created by words. So if, if we meet, the consequences are hard to imagine. Forget about the beautiful dinosaur, if you find out that the person opposite is actually the same sex, for married men and women, platonic extramarital affairs are good, but if the computer is "poorly taken care of", it will also affect the relationship in real life.

Ambiguous relationship four: opposite sex living together

Ambiguous index: ***

Innocence index: ***

Signature slogan : "Living alone is too heavy a burden, and I'm afraid of the dark. It's easier to take care of me if I have a boy."

"Her importance is reflected in the fact that I don't know what else to eat besides instant noodles every month. "

"His importance is reflected every time the fuse breaks and the gas tank runs out of gas."

Classic shots:

1. He calls his room the boys' dormitory, she calls her room the girls' dormitory, and the rest are shared. The sewer is broken, and even if he is addicted to the game console, he will be there at a moment's notice. It was raining heavily outside and I couldn't go out to eat. I coaxed her a little and promised to have money to treat her to a big meal. I promised that two hot dishes and one soup would be served to her in a short while.

2. There was a party to be held in the evening. She discussed with him: "Maybe I have a lot of friends. I can't accommodate so many people in my house. Can you make some space for me?" He agreed immediately. , said: "Just give me delicious food next time. I will automatically disappear on the day of the party. Send me a text message when the party is over."

Relationship Analysis:

Relatively For women renting together, men and women living together bring more feelings of pleasure, trust and relaxation.

Just like the meaning of "men and women match each other so that work is not tiring" in the office, this type of new tenant relationship is full of interest in another sense. The survey shows that most women who live in opposite-sex apartments believe that men do not care about details such as the size and orientation of the room, who uses the bathroom more or less, and the situation between women. It's much more complicated. In serious cases, it can even lead to an unhappy relationship and friends turning against each other. In real co-housing, men and women respect each other, keep distance, and can help each other. For both parties, they can not only experience most of the advantages of the opposite sex, but also avoid the trouble of mutual suspicion, exclusivity, and preoccupation.

Potential crisis:

The house itself is already very ambiguous. Single men and women living in the same room, even if it is not the same room, are very, very close. People who go home often return themselves to their true nature, where they are casual, free, undisciplined, and even the ugly details of life are exposed in front of each other. Although some people develop love because of their very close lifestyles, after all, they are still A distant man and woman. People of the opposite sex who share a house can easily develop into lovers, and from sharing a house to living together. However, if you seek shared housing out of temporary blindness or with the mentality of solving personal problems, you may be taken advantage of by people with ulterior motives, hurting your feelings and disrupting your life.

Ambiguous relationship five: sexual partners

Ambiguousness index: *****

Innocence index: *

Signature slogan: "You only need companionship, not love."

"There are many solutions to the emptiness of the soul, but there is nothing you can do about the hunger and thirst of the body, so I need a sexual partner."

Classic shots:

1. When she was about to get off work on Friday, her cell phone rang, and his voice rang: "Is it convenient for you this weekend?" She thought for a while: "Let me think about it. Oh, no, I have a friend coming from Guangzhou to see me. I’m afraid it won’t be convenient for you to come.”

He said simply with a smile: “Okay, I wish you a happy weekend. Just miss me.” Call me."

2. At every fixed time, he would pick her up from work and have a meal, then go to his apartment or her dormitory, spend the night together, and then say goodbye. She didn't even know anything about his work situation. The only thing she was sure of was that he was a good sexual partner.

Relationship Analysis:

Wright Mills said in "Private Entanglements": "One of the characteristics of modern people is that they crave unknown intimacy as much as they seek wealth. Love appears and stops at the right time.”

The meaning of sexual partners today is not only to solve physical problems, but also to comfort oneself and escape from reality. After all, they are all people who are afraid of loneliness, and even more afraid of others knowing that they are lonely. We need love and we cannot live without sex. Most of the time, sex and love are equally important. Having a personal partner, at least with the warmth of the body, can temporarily forget the loneliness of the soul.

Potential crisis:

Russell has already made it clear: "Love can renew our entire life, just like the rain after a drought does to plants. Sex without love, But there is no such power at all. After the moment of joy, what is left is fatigue, disgust, and a sense of emptiness in life."

Ambiguous relationship six: part-time parent (driver, bodyguard, nanny).

Ambiguousness index: ****

Innocence index: **

Signature slogan: "Anyway, he has a car, so he just happened to give me a ride on the way."< /p>

"It has always been normal for a man to invite a woman to dinner. If he wants to invite a woman, I will eat, no matter what others see!"

Classic shot:

1 , He owns an Audi; he holds a high position in a large company; he has a girlfriend whom he loves. I don’t remember how I met him. In short, it seemed that since he took the initiative to send her home one night, and since he knew that their companies were on the same line, it became his habit to pick her up and drop her off every day.

2. Every time after get off work, if her boyfriend is not free, she will shout loudly in the office: "Who invited me to dinner today!" Then she will target one of the male colleagues, Jiao Didi. She coaxed him gently and shook his shoulders: "You better invite me, okay?"

Relationship analysis:

Their relationship mostly developed from work cooperation. .

Many times, it is women who take the initiative and believe that it is natural to be taken care of by men, and men's "heroic" mentality makes them feel honored most of the time. In this relationship, there are often more components used.

Potential crisis:

Because such a relationship is based on simply "taking care of each other and utilizing each other", men and women often lack the same language. Once the care fails or the "service" is not attentive, it can easily lead to the deterioration of the relationship. In addition, some scandals often appear around such "part-time parents". Maybe you just hitched a ride on someone else's ride, but how do others know where the ride ends?

Ambiguous relationship number seven: Dating partner

Ambiguousness index: ****

Innocence index: **

Signature slogan: "What fun is there in playing alone? I just found myself a playmate."

"He knows where to find the best food, the funniest and most novel things, and can smell When I go to the "exciting point" of this city, instead of just finding someone to accompany me, I'd rather find someone who knows how to play."

Classic shots:

1. A new issue will be announced every time I go to the theater. During the blockbuster broadcast cycle, she would call him immediately and ask him to prepare popcorn and Coke to accompany her to the movie. She didn’t mind whether she bought the tickets or he treated her, and she didn’t mind staying up all night studying her thoughts after watching the movie. I feel that no one is more suitable to be a confidant in this regard except him.

2. Every time he gets together with a group of friends on the forum, he will call her. Although she never goes to this forum and has no interest in the so-called cultural topics they talk about. He just likes to ask her to keep him company, play guessing and drink together. It was as if her duty was to eat and drink and make money while he was chatting and laughing at the dinner table.

Relationship Analysis:

They are not a couple, but they often date, travel, drink, and watch movies as regular dating partners. In a popular sense, it can also be understood as "fair-weather friends". They often have the same interest in a certain hobby or behavioral habit, and they can be in high spirits, come and go happily every time they date. It also belongs to the fishing mode of Jiang Taigong who wants to be accompanied and is willing to accompany him.

It seems that the relationship between men and women in Xinxin has been divided more and more finely, and it needs to be divided according to various aspects such as responsibilities, hobbies, and specific functions. The subtlety here is that birds of a feather flock together.

Potential crisis:

If the relationship between dating partners is stable enough, established, and based on similar interests and hobbies, it can be called like-minded. If only one party is lonely and needs entertainment, and the other is purely "native company", then such a relationship is suspected of being unclear. Or the person who is willing to accompany you has a crush on the person who wants to accompany you. This is undoubtedly hurting the feelings of one of them and wasting the time of the other person.