What did Zhang Xin say to Zhang Yi the night before the wedding?

Some people choose to marry their partners, not because of love, but because they feel that they are old, the other party is good and suitable for each other, or their parents are urging them to get married. Of course, some people want to forget old love.

I have always felt that marriage needs honesty, not only in language, but also in body and spirit.

In other words, when you are sure that you have not forgotten your old love, you must not rush into the next relationship. This is irresponsible to the next one and disrespectful to your hasty behavior.

A good relationship is two people who love each other. Because I love each other and want to grow old together, I choose to get married. When you still have someone who misses you, what you have to do is not to start a new relationship, but to learn to forget the old love.

Until one day, the shadow of that person in your heart slowly fades away, and you choose a new person to start a new relationship, so that the relationship will be stronger.

Otherwise, one day your old love will come back, and you will be obsessed with getting back together with him.

Love a person, there is no right or wrong, love is love, not love is not love. The reason why I forget my predecessor and love the present is to avoid future regrets and do things that hurt myself and my partner.

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You never know how long a person can hold a grudge. In the TV series Bai Yueguang, Zhang Yi found out that her husband Zhang Xin had betrayed their marriage. She went to ask her husband if there was anyone outside.

The other party didn't answer her directly, but told her: The night before we got married, you said you were going to meet someone, and that person was your ex-boyfriend. You went to Donglaishun to eat hot pot, ordered 10 bottle of beer, and talked for three hours.

Zhang in the mind a surprised, how can you know about it?

Zhang Xin added: I followed you that day. I remember it snowed heavily. I waited for you in the snow for three hours.

I don't know where you went and what you did afterwards. The next morning, when you came to me in your wedding dress, I chose to trust you.

He said that you were with another man ten years ago, and I chose to forgive you, because I trusted you, so you should trust me ten years later.

This answer is very clever, neither admitting the fact that he made a mistake, but also making the other person feel guilty.

In fact, Zhang Yi really chatted with her ex-boyfriend that night, but she didn't go to see him because she still loved him and still wanted to develop with him. She thinks she is getting married and wants to say goodbye to the past before marriage.

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There are many ways for one person to say goodbye to another. Do you need to meet alone to say goodbye? In this matter, I think Zhang Yi did something wrong.

In fact, she can tell her fiance in advance, or invite him to go with her.

Of course, in this case, it is very likely that the other party will not agree to go together, but at least if you tell them in advance, they will feel respected and trusted.

A good partner won't do anything unqualified.

The so-called disqualification is not just the fact that something unspeakable has happened, but to avoid all possible misunderstandings as much as possible.

Just like there needs to be an appropriate boundary between men and women, especially married people, only by keeping an appropriate distance can they not be misunderstood by others and their partners will not be hurt.

Once one day, the other party finds out that you cheated him, these things will be deeply rooted in his heart like a thorn. At the moment when your secret is known, you will eventually live with guilt.

Everyone has his own weaknesses. Some people's weakness is love, while others are children. No matter what you care about, you must understand that only you deserve it, and only you deserve it, can you have everything.

Zhang Yi didn't kiss her children, not for other reasons, but because she didn't spend enough time with her children and put too much energy into her career, which gave other women an opportunity. They just spent a little time doing what they wanted to do and stole a little girl's heart.

This is a mother's dereliction of duty and can't blame others.

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What is the most important thing in marriage? Not love, not understanding, but trust.

Love will disappear with time, understanding will be disintegrated by trivial matters, but as long as there is trust between each other, all problems can be solved.

There is no longer trust between two people, and any behavior of the other party will be mistaken for infidelity. A person who is always wary of his partner's betrayal can't get a happy marriage.

Zhang Xin remembered Zhang Yi's date ten years ago, and this was not just what he said.

A man can remember this for 10 years, which is enough to show his love for you. Many times, the more he loves a person, the more he will do things that he can't control.

Some people like to check their partner's cell phone. On the surface, she really loves each other and wants to know his words and deeds. But if you look closely, you will find that her love is out of control and you can't help but want to peek. It's not that she doesn't know that this kind of behavior is not desirable, but she just can't stop.

Just like Zhang Xin, it is torture to remember one thing for ten years, but he can't stop and forget it, because everything proves that she doesn't love you that much.

In feelings, the loved one is always fearless, but the unloved one suffers from loss.

No relationship can get rid of the shackles of love. If you want to get real happiness in marriage, you must learn to communicate with each other and tell him the truth, instead of letting each other guess and make up for it yourself.