How do you say that your loved ones have passed away and you still send friends?

The circle of friends is a matrix network with friends and relatives as the core. When a loved one dies, saying "Go all the way" in the circle of friends not only reflects your thoughts about your loved ones, but also tells your circle of friends that you are the core network and expresses your condolences to your loved ones. It also implies that they can help you when you need comfort or help, and help you get out of the grief of losing your loved ones as soon as possible. In this way, in the era of mobile Internet, mourning for loved ones has become a new fashion.

So, for a person who has lost a loved one, what stages of loss do you often go through? How should he treat and get rid of the pain normally?

The pain of losing loved ones is also a necessary survival course for everyone. The end of life is an inevitable part of life. How should we understand and prepare for the death of ourselves or our loved ones?

Are you experiencing these feelings or situations? These are common reactions to loss, disaster and misfortune.

Ironically, even if you want to say "Go all the way" in the circle of friends to comfort your condolences, telling all the relatives and friends who can see your circle of friends can also be very useful.

Evolutionary psychologists believe that the pain and sadness of losing loved ones may be an adaptive mechanism for human beings and non-human animals.

This kind of pain-I wonder if you will feel pain when making friends-will prompt parents, children or spouses to find each other.

You send out "Go all the way" in your circle of friends after the death of your loved one, and you will also encourage people in your circle of friends who care about you to help you as an individual who has lost your loved one.

The four stages of normal mourning after losing a loved one, if a person loses a loved one, will he become indifferent at one stage? What does this mean?

Mourning after losing a loved one is a complicated and personal process, just like you hesitate to say "bon voyage" in a circle of friends.

Just like there is no right way to die and no right way to mourn. Perhaps it is one of the right ways to say "Go all the way" in a circle of friends. If you think so, what are you waiting for? Just do it, it will be of great benefit to you to get out of the mourning period as soon as possible, integrate into and build a new life, and it is also the emotional expression of today's people based on China's cultural foundation and fashion elements.

Generally speaking, a person's happiness or mourning after losing a loved one will go through four stages:

The first stage of pain or mourning: numbness:

As Peter M Williams, quoted above, wrote, people who have lost their loved ones usually look at the loss and have almost no emotions except numbness or emptiness. They may deny death and firmly believe that it should be a misunderstanding.

The second stage of pain or mourning: missing.

I have a strong yearning for my deceased relatives, even guilt, anger and even resentment.

People who have lost their loved ones will even have hallucinations, and they will "see" the dead people sitting in their favorite chairs, or they will think that strangers are dead relatives on the road; There will be vivid dreams, dreaming that the dead are still alive, or feeling that the dead relatives "appear" around. Sometimes I feel a strong sense of guilt. I don't think that if I sent the person I love to the hospital earlier, I wouldn't die, or I would show more love.

Sometimes, it shows resentment. How can a person who hates death leave himself behind? Even asked, "Why did you want to be yourself or did he (she) leave? Is this unfair? ! )

The third stage of pain or mourning: disintegration/despair

At this stage, people who have lost their loved ones will feel that life seems to have lost its meaning, feeling listless and indifferent.

With the passage of time, whether intellectually (because death is real) or emotionally (memories are pleasant and painful), I will gradually accept the reality of the death of my loved ones.

This acceptance, coupled with a new self-awareness, such as realizing that I am a single mother, I am already a person who will never have a father again. This also marks the beginning of the fourth phase-

The fourth stage of pain or mourning: settlement and reorganization

At this stage, individuals gradually begin to go to society with a new identity and mentality, engage in their original or new jobs, and even after a period of time, they will reorganize their families and re-establish a new social unit.

According to individual differences, splitting and recombination will show differences in length and manner.

So how to actively solve and reorganize?

As the replacement group said, saying "Go all the way" in the circle of friends is also one of the ways to solve and reorganize.

Generally speaking, how to solve and reorganize?

How to treat your loss and pain correctly? Psychologists have summed up many skills. You may need the following-

1. Accept the lost reality and allow yourself to express your sadness.

Despite a strong sense of loneliness, please remember that the loss of loved ones is a part of everyone's life, and accept the comfort of others, avoid excessive pressure, ensure adequate rest, and enjoy life as much as possible, so as to take care of yourself.

2. Establish a daily activity schedule.

The best way to solve the listlessness and depression caused by pain is to force yourself to fill the time with meaningful activities, such as studying, washing the car and doing housework.

Ask for help:

Everyone has his own friends, family and friends to help him get rid of the loneliness and pressure caused by pain.

But remember, if there is extreme and persistent numbness, anger, guilt or depression, it is necessary to conduct necessary professional consultation and even take treatment measures.

In short, after the death of a loved one, pain and mourning are inevitable and necessary, but if you are deeply involved for a long time, it is an abnormality or disease, which is not good.

I hope the above answers will be helpful to rational science in dealing with the death of relatives and help in thought.

If your circle of friends can cover your relatives and friends, some relatives and friends often contact in the circle, but don't often meet or live in different places, it is reasonable to suggest that you send obituaries in the circle.

Today's circle of friends is like a teahouse in Beijing's Daqianmen. Friends get together from time to time to drink a big bowl of tea and chat. Under the big elm tree in the country, the villagers get together after dinner, and the parents will have a simple chat. This process knows that the aunt of the Zhang family gave birth and the sow of the Li family gave birth. Uncle Wang next door was ill, and Liu Qu, a carpenter from the neighboring village, died. With WeChat chat, the chat has been changed to online. There are fewer people drinking tea in the teahouse, and there are no boasters under the elm trees. So, whatever you want to say is online.

It is appropriate to post in online circles, because the circle of friends is the best posting platform now. If it wasn't like this before, I was afraid of breaking the rules, because there was no internet before, just like informing friends far away that they had something to write. Now all you have to do is make a phone call or send a message, but it is still unreasonable to ask for a letter notice.

When it comes to the death of a loved one, an obituary is issued in the circle. On the one hand, I express my gratitude to my loved ones, on the other hand, I inform my relatives and friends of the specific schedule of the funeral arrangements for the deceased relatives, so that they can get the news in time, and then arrange their own work and prepare to attend the funeral on time.

Of course, the death of a loved one is a big event, and there must be some etiquette. For example, close relatives must send someone to inform them, and the person in charge must send someone to invite relatives and friends who are not in the circle but need to be notified. Wait a minute.

This matter is a matter of opinion. In this society, people say everything you do; You do nothing, or someone says. So, to send, why do you think so much?

However, since you asked this question, I already know what you think: you want to make friends, but you are afraid of being told, aren't you?

Then let me help you analyze it and see if what I said makes sense. If it makes sense, you will send it; If it doesn't make sense, it won't be sent.

First of all, I want to say. People, in this world, birth, old age, illness and death is a normal state! No one can live forever, so no one can ignore death! Death means a lifetime of hard work, once lover, once glory, once beauty, once joys and sorrows, once favorite food, games, pets, once hated everything, all return to zero! After that, with the passage of time, the grief of the living will gradually fade away. Wait until one day in the future, people who miss them all die, and then the bits and pieces left by the original deceased in this world will completely disappear. The ancients once said: "Three inches of gas is not as good as a thousand. Once impermanent, everything will stop." That's what it means.

So, I often think about this problem. What is the meaning of man? The answer is, if you can make your relatives and friends remember when you die, it's not in vain.

So in this sense, our circle of friends is a yearning for our loved ones. We can't leave us just because they are unconscious. In that case, we must be worse than animals.

At the same time, after the death of our loved ones, we hope that they can enter a better world without pain and only joy, which is what we call heaven. "Go all the way", this simple sentence, is a kind of sustenance of thousands of Qian Qian people to their loved ones! I hope there is another world, I hope they can enter that world, immortal!

Therefore, what you should consider most now is whether your expression to your loved ones is appropriate, and don't worry about those who have nothing to do with you!

In the past, when a relative died, he hoped to have a cemetery in the house, where he would mourn for three years! This is an expression of the kindness of raising relatives!

This is obviously inappropriate. After all, the living have to study, work and earn money to support their families. However, we can express our grief in another way! For example, as you said, isn't it good to send a "happy trip" in the circle of friends?

If we are worried about this, it is really unnecessary! After all, it's your relatives or friends, not the families of those who tell you what to do! Wait until the future, you will inadvertently see your circle of friends again, and you will be moved by your sentient beings and righteousness!

Send it if you want, send it if you want! For the dead, and for yourself!