Live to be dripping wet, 40 years old-I bought myself a cemetery.

Yes, you are right. Just last week, my husband and I bought ourselves a cemetery. I chose a quiet place, surrounded by many green trees, not far from my father's grave. This is the decision made by my husband and I after careful consideration.

? Let's start with my husband's acquaintances. My husband and I met in the 1990s (it sounds a little long ago), which is an old-fashioned form of introduction through an intermediary. Now I forget what I said at that time. I don't know how to behave on my first blind date. I just sit opposite, or at night. I am nearsighted, and I dare not look directly at each other's faces. What impressed me most was that I looked down and saw a pair of white socks wrapped in his polished leather shoes, which made me feel safe and decided that I was a clean man who didn't drink or smoke. At that time, the introducer praised me all the time, saying that Mr. J was good in character, good in character and enterprising, which reassured me. Mom and dad have always been very open-minded and respected my choice. One year after Hongyan handed in the book, there was no suspense. We're married.

My husband is a thoughtful man with a simple and persistent view of love. He said: If you love someone, you should think of the other person, that is, you should make the other person happy. Then what is happiness? I think 1000 people will have 1000 different opinions. Married 19 years, the feelings with my husband are dull and long, and there is no room full of passion and romance. Some of them do every big, small and trivial thing, including housework. Over the years, we respect and support each other and never quarrel with each other. Communication between us often doesn't need too much language, and most of the time we just need one look. I went on many business trips when I was studying abroad. When I miss him, his message comes, and our message often arrives at the same time. As long as we are all at home on weekends, we will go to the supermarket to buy food together. I like to write shopping lists, but I am careless. Either I forgot to bring it or I forgot what I wanted to buy. But with J around, if I miss something I want to buy, he will definitely put it in the shopping basket quietly. He cares about everything I say, loves my work, understands and supports everything.

My husband and I have supported each other for 19 years. Our parents, our small family, experienced the process from 0 to 1, from joy to expectation, from pain to struggle, from companionship to growth. Every decision, every contribution to the family and parents, and even every item in the family, we have communicated, discussed and supported each other equally. I remember 12 years ago, two fathers died of illness one after another within one year, which greatly changed the lifestyle, family expenses and membership of the three originally happy and peaceful families. Mother and mother-in-law are completely out of balance because of the sudden departure of the other half, just like a ship at sea. At that moment, my husband and I became the only reliance in the big family. The change of roles, the burden of the family, the financial constraints, the emotional comfort to the two elderly people, the 2-year-old daughter still needs to be taken care of, and the elderly need to be considerate. The company should be a subordinate of the leader and the general manager. Economically, because of the huge medical expenses, plus the debts owed by dad and partners in business, borrowing, repayment and litigation, a series of unprecedented things appeared in those two years, and there was no chance for both body and mind to breathe.

My husband and I tried our best to start all the relationships, contacts and money, but in the end we failed to save the lives of the two old people. The departure of my father-in-law and father has made my attitude towards life unsettled for a long time. Only when people have experienced the departure of their families will they cherish life more. That is, after that, I decided to switch from studying abroad to overseas medical treatment. But the direction of my life is still unclear. It was the winter of 14, and I was always excited when I casually visited Weibo, handsome sister. There is such a woman who is not only beautiful, sports-loving, humorous, but also sharing. She can have such a beautiful lifestyle, and she can lead her life so brilliantly. She lives a true and chic life and is not afraid to expose her shortcomings and deficiencies. Such a star-studded person is really so close to you.

After joining the overseas medical industry, I was mainly responsible for customer service. My daily job is to communicate and coordinate between clients and cooperative hospitals. What I hear and feel most is the emotional experience of customers and their families, anxiety, helplessness, expectation, ecstasy, helplessness and great sadness. This is a new industry. In the face of new knowledge and challenges, I contact critically ill patients every day, and my heart is strong enough to support me to get off the boat. I work hard and hope my efforts and persistence can help my customers. People, whether beautiful or ugly, rich or poor, old or young, have only one life for us. As handsome sister once said, "if you have tomorrow, you are willing to do it." If there is no tomorrow, you are still willing to do it. " My life has changed a lot since I paid attention to my handsome girl and grabbed the early opportunity, especially after attending the morning and evening party at the end of 20 15. From body to heart, I was shocked to find that such a group of people, like me, are trying to live bravely and diligently. The world outlook, outlook on life, values and outlook on life determined as soon as possible coincide with my inner thoughts, which are all the goals I want to say or do.

That is, from the 40th birthday, my husband and I agreed that every year's birthdays would increase from 1 and decrease from 40. If we can all live to be 40 years old, we should put on our wedding dresses again and hold another wedding to celebrate. My husband and I both cherish and appreciate the good achievements we have made in our current job and career. Considering that I have a lovely and sensible daughter and two healthy mothers, I think every day is earned and I should be happy every day.

The early spirit was to strive to overcome the weakness of human nature and be a minority. As an early star, when 80% people talk about death, they are either afraid or afraid, and the early star is that 20%. I'm not afraid. I plan ahead for a rainy day, including the arrangement of death and the optimistic face of everything that should come. I even thought of the epitaph. I wish my epitaph could read: "Before it was too late, she was a star. She followed her heart, worked hard, lived without regrets, and lived up to this scene. " After buying the cemetery, I am not afraid of the future, but full of hope. The husband also said with a look of relief: Suddenly, my heart was at ease. From now on, every minute of my life is not wasted. I live to realize myself, manage myself and enrich myself. I am glad that my husband agrees with me again. I want to live a full life. When there is love and hope, no matter where you go, you are not alone. I love myself and my family, and I live a wonderful, interesting and beautiful life. I am running.