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The newlywed son won’t let his mother live in the marital home: You are married for the second time! Mother sued her son for 14 years: Compensate for my mental losses!

75-year-old Luo Wanxiu is a well-known local strong woman. When she was young, she married her visually impaired husband for a job. After her marriage, she not only earned a considerable family fortune through years of hard work, but also helped her two sons find jobs, get married and have children.

What people didn’t expect was that Luo Wanxiu, who was supposed to be famous and enjoy his old age, was tossing and turning all night because of the conflict with his eldest son Jia Yi.

In desperation, Luo Wanxiu chose to seek help from the media!

Everyone says that you are a capable strong woman who can do business, roll, and curse, and you are notorious!

You have a twisted personality and low moral character. You demean others and promote yourself. You are selfish and unscrupulous. You are ruthless and well-known far and wide!

Appearance comes from the heart. When the heart changes, the appearance also changes, and the eyes become triangular eyes. These eyes are full of narrow-mindedness and treachery.

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No one would have thought that these extreme words and intense tone were actually words spoken by a son to his mother.

That’s too much. I can't read it anymore, it's so ugly. How can a son talk about his mother?

However, on June 6, 2004, the day of my son’s wedding, everything changed.

The old man said that his son’s wedding was held at a Loudi hotel on the day of his wedding, and he even gave a 1,000-yuan red envelope to his daughter-in-law. However, the night after the wedding, his son told her face that he was married for the second time and could not If you live in a new house, you can only stay in a hotel.

When her son gets married, the mother cannot live at home, so naturally Luo Wanxiu cannot accept it. However, the son not only ignored his thoughts, but also threatened his mother with his father-in-law:

If you don’t leave tonight, I will throw you from the fifth floor!

In this way, Luo Wanxiu was kicked out of the new house by the bride's family, and from that day on, her status in her son's mind plummeted!

Luo Wanxiu: Before my son got married, I was a qualified mother, a kind mother, an amiable and lovely mother! But starting from 2004, you can't even enter his home.

During the Chinese New Year, he only took his father to Loudi to celebrate the New Year. When I went there, he beat me and said that I was married for the second time!

On the grounds of the second marriage custom, he refused to allow his mother to live in a new house, and he ignored her for the next 14 years. Is what Luo Wanxiu said true?

Luo Wanxiu suggested that her daughter-in-law, Xiaoyu, worked in a nearby company, and she could ask her son to come forward through her daughter-in-law.

At the door of Xiaoyu’s unit, colleagues confirmed that Xiaoyu was having a meeting in the office. However, Xiaoyu heard that she was unwilling to see her mother-in-law or contact her husband.

My son even told his colleagues that it doesn’t matter whether he wants this mother or not. Even in Xiaoyu's workplace, many people know this sentence.

After learning that her son and daughter-in-law were unwilling to meet, Luo Wanxiu suddenly became emotional and burst into tears at the door of her daughter-in-law's unit. It wasn't until the leaders and colleagues of the unit came forward to comfort me that I finally calmed down a little.

As my mother, I feel a shame. (You can record my words), in our family, in our entire family, she is a person who recognizes money but not people. All she has in mind is money.

She is a very selfish person. She either beats or scolds my grandma, dad, and brother. It's the same for me.

She and her father were constantly arguing for a divorce, and she also wanted to misappropriate my family's property. She said that all the property belonged to her alone, and she forced my father to leave the house. The point is, dad is a disabled person and he has no fault at all!

On the phone, Jia Yi said that her mother was selfish and self-centered, and there was no need to communicate at all.

Jia Yi: No.

On average, she comes to the workplace once a month to quarrel, makes unreasonable noises, and goes to the workplace leaders to kneel down. I have no choice but to let her do whatever she wants!

She is a psychopath, or an old woman with a personality disorder. Can't communicate normally with her.

In order to achieve the purpose of eating coarse grains, in 1972, I found a disabled man who farmed during the day and worked at night.

In the 1980s, I was among the first batch of self-employed people and the first batch of 10,000-yuan households in the reform and opening up.

It took a lot of sweat and tears to support this family. There was never any complaint for this family. If my son was disobedient and had no place to talk, he had to cry loudly late at night in a place where no one was around.

I get up after four o'clock every day to buy breakfast, and I have paid sweat and tears for them. When I get old, my son gets married, but he doesn't recognize his mother.

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A thick stack of scattered and yellowed diaries records Luo Wanxiu’s sadness.

Luo Wanxiu said, because Married to a disabled man, I feel insecure and have no support, so I have to rely on myself for everything!

Luo Wanxiu is a famous local strong woman who is vigorous and vigorous. In order to support her family, she made clothes and opened a sewing shop. She pulled a cart during the day and did business at night. She was busy all day long. Everyone who knew her admired her!

These diaries were written intermittently after she had a falling out with her son:

I felt uncomfortable, so I wrote alone at night. I can only write so much at night. talk!

Luo Wanxiu also said that she was struggling to make ends meet and had indeed neglected to take care of her disabled husband, but there had never been any abuse.

Seeing Duan Xintian, Luo Wanxiu became emotional and claimed that it was this in-laws who single-handedly destroyed his family. If he hadn't stirred up trouble on the wedding night, his son would never have done this to him.

Duan Xintian said that before the marriage, the relationship between the mother-in-law and her son-in-law was not so tense. On the contrary, the relationship between mother and son was deep.

Because her son-in-law is the first military officer and cadre in the village, the mother is very proud. So, when they go shopping, they often hold hands.

The current impasse is actually caused by Luo Wanxiu himself.

It turns out that on June 6, 2004, which Luo Wanxiu never forgot, Duan Xintian proposed to arrange a hotel so that the couple’s wedding night would not be disturbed. Everyone lives more comfortably.

Unexpectedly, as soon as this proposal came out, it was strongly opposed by Luo Wanxiu: Who said, I can't live here?

Not only that, Luo Wanxiu also made a jaw-dropping move in her son's new house:

Facing all the doors and windows in the house, he bowed, knelt, and paid New Year greetings , chant the incantation!

On her daughter's big day, her biological mother actually did such dirty things in the new house, which Duan Xintian couldn't accept at all costs.

So, after several attempts to dissuade her failed, Duan Xintian said something that Luo Wanxiu would remember for 14 years:

If you do this again, I will kick you out of the building Throw it up and down.

And Luo Wanxiu didn't know how to give in, and even asked his son and his wife to divorce on the spot! Duan Xintian, who was out of control emotionally at that time, said something extremely irritating to his mother-in-law:

Our family does not have the habit of divorce, unlike you.

In this way, due to different customs and respective considerations, the parents of both men and women had their own opinions, attacked and hurt each other, and the wedding night broke up unhappy.

From that time on, Luo Wanxiu began a long journey of complaining.

Duan Xintian said that he has repeatedly advised his daughter and son-in-law to have a good relationship with the elderly. Once on the old man's birthday, his daughter and son-in-law went to see the old man with gifts. As a result, she carried a load of feces and placed it at the door and refused to let him in.

Luo Wanxiu's extreme behavior and extreme methods put Jia Yi in a very embarrassing position, and naturally the relationship between mother and son gradually became alienated.

They still don't know what this mother wants after 14 years of trouble!

After Duan Xintian’s communication, Jia Yi finally agreed to meet with her mother to negotiate and solve the problem.

Jia Yi said that her mother had an extreme personality and did a lot of things that hurt herself and her family, and these injuries inevitably brought about some negative ways of dealing with it. Now, it's not that he doesn't recognize this mother. He will still fulfill the obligations of a son, visit her during the holidays, and support her when she gets sick and old, but he can't do anything else.

Jia Yi: He said in front of her uncle that my father was not good enough for her, that he had delayed her youth all her life, and that he wanted to find another one...

Luo Wanxiu: Why did I used to be a qualified mother, a kind mother, an amiable and lovely mother, and you still held my hand when we went out in 2004? Why did you change after we got married?

Jia Yi: My father is a disabled person...

Luo Wanxiu: I just want to ask you, why have you changed!

Jia Yi: Have you washed a piece of clothing for my father? Have you fulfilled your responsibilities as a wife?

Luo Wanxiu: Who earned my money? I had tens of thousands of dollars in 1993. Is your disabled father earning hundreds of thousands for a house now?

Jia Yi: You are really a strong woman. You have filed dozens of lawsuits, and your neighbor went to court for thousands of dollars just for 100 yuan! Argue with this one and curse with that one!

Mother and son stood on different channels, blaming each other for their faults!

The mother emphasizes her dedication and contribution to the family, while the son emphasizes the strong, competitive, and intolerant aspects of his mother.

Luo Wanxiu said that she wanted her son to prove his innocence, apologize for the labeling he received in the text messages, and compensate for the mental losses he suffered over the past 14 years.

After hearing this, Jia Yi felt a little subdued and said:

Mom, let’s forget about the past.

Unexpectedly, as soon as these words came out, Luo Wanxiu suddenly ran away and said loudly:

You must give me dignity! You must give me an understanding!

At this time, Luo Wanxiu was very emotional. He was tearing his hair with both hands, shouting and breathing heavily...

Jia Yi: Everything in the past was all my fault...

The more her son apologized, the more excited Luo Wanxiu became, and she kept beating herself up, crying, and talking about herself. Not easy:

How did I get here all these years...

Luo Wanxiu believed that her tall image in her son's heart had collapsed, and her son's perfunctory apology could not make up for it. I can't bear the hardships and grievances I have endured for more than ten years or decades.

The old man who calmed down said that she was an educated person. Although she married a disabled person due to the pressure of life, and there was no love between the couple, she never resented her.

This is the inner demon that has entangled and tortured the old man for 14 years.

Speaking of this marriage, Lao Jia shook his head repeatedly. He said that for so many years as a couple, Luo Wanxiu cared about the outside world and was unwilling to accept the family's wealth. The couple kept arguing and eventually parted ways. According to the divorce agreement, Jia Yi is responsible for the support of his father, and his younger brother is responsible for the support of his mother.

As for his ex-wife’s character, Lao Jia said:

No one among the more than 800 people in this village dared to offend her! If anyone says something bad about her, he will carry a load of feces and leave it at someone else's house.

Luo Wanxiu has a powerful personality and is well-known far and wide, and has offended many people. As for the grudge between mother and son, the neighbor said that it should be divided into two.

Neighbors said that Luo Wanxiu lacked care for her husband and son, but her hard work and achievements outside the home were obvious to everyone.

Also, in terms of relationships with people, Luo Wanxiu has a good mind, but is too talkative and has never hit her husband. Many of the bad things the son said were forced on his mother.

In the end, everyone’s summary of Luo Wanxiu is: Without her, this family would not be able to survive. She made no fundamental mistakes.

The community secretary said that they had actually mediated their conflicts many times. What Luo Wanxiu meant was that his son could not just admit his mistakes in private. He had to admit his mistakes in public and restore his reputation.

After contacting her by phone, Jia Yi agreed to apologize to her mother in front of her uncle and relieve her mother's knot.

Luo Wanxiu came to the community with her relatives. She also agreed that as long as her son bows his head, she will no longer pursue the past.

But in the end, Jia Yi called and said that it was okay to apologize in person, but two additional conditions must be met:

First, my father wanted to live in a new house (brother's house) , the old house can no longer be inhabited.

Second, she gave half of her retirement salary to my father. (Because she asked her father to marry her at that time to solve her job problem. This recruitment quota was given to her by her father.)

Jia Yi’s parents have divorced, and there is an agreement on their parents’ pension. Obviously, there is no such requirement. reason.

I didn’t scold her, hit her, or insult her.

Mediation failed. Luo Wanxiu, who had lost confidence in her son, finally decided not to go to him or negotiate with him in the future, but to go to court to sue him.

This is a capable and strong mother I saw on Xigua Video (2018). @老公在70的意思 When I wrote this, I felt mixed emotions in my heart.

The mother was pregnant for ten months and raised her son to adulthood, but she ended up like this. Is Luo Wanxiu's life a success or a failure?

From the perspective of supporting the family and contributing to the family economy, she is successful; from the perspective of handling the relationship between husband and wife, mother and child, Luo Wanxiu is undoubtedly a failure.

These two labels on Luo Wanxiu are both derived from her strength. Strength is not only the protective color of her successful life, but also the catalyst for her tragic fate.

Because she is married to a disabled person and because she has to support her family, Luo Wanxiu must be strong. Only the strong can survive, and only the strong can live!

Otherwise, a disabled and weak family will not only live in poverty, but they will inevitably be ridden on and stepped on!

However, Luo Wanxiu used her strength and hard work to make the family have enough food and clothing, and made the neighbors look up to her!

This is Luo Wanxiu's greatest success, but a by-product of her success is that she inevitably neglects her care and care for her husband and family.

This shouldn't be a problem originally. Because no one can do everything. We cannot ask Luo Wanxiu to be both external and internal, and to cultivate both internal and external aspects!

If the family can treat this great wife and mother fairly and in two, the family will definitely live happily and happily!

It is a pity that Luo Wanxiu’s son, who worked hard to raise him as an adult, has embarked on the road of antagonism and confrontation with his mother just because of a friction at the wedding!

It can be said that Luo Wanxiu's paranoia today is related to his strong personality, and is directly related to Jia Yi's attitude towards his mother.

There are no bad parents in the world, and there are no mothers who insist on being enemies with their children.

If Jia Yi could concentrate on resolving the conflict from the very beginning, instead of focusing on his mother's mistakes, attacking her arbitrarily and amplifying the conflict, her mother's knot would never have evolved into Today’s “inner demon”!

I hope Jia Yi can realize his mistake soon, let go of his prejudice against his mother, and return to the good time of walking hand in hand with his mother!