How to refuse someone else's request for a treat?

How to refuse unreasonable demands from others;

1. There are objective force majeure factors, such as "Sorry, I'm really busy these two days", "I'm not at school", "I have no money recently" and "My computer is broken".

Advantages and general skills are personal skills.

The target is only classmates and colleagues who have a working relationship and know each other but are selfless.

2, bluntly said that the other party's request is unreasonable, without explanation, "Sister, are you kidding!" "Crazy! Why don't you just kill me! "

Advantages save hypocrisy, slow down and show sincerity.

Good object relationship, less interest disputes, and more friends in personal life.

3. Ignore the other person directly and pretend to miss the phone call or text message after the time. "Oh, sorry, I just saw your news now."

Advantages worry-free, the least face-saving, is my favorite skill, simple and easy to use, necessary for home travel.

The object relationship is too close, and it is deliberately alienated.

4. Put forward the trading terms on the spot, such as "OK, sign me up for the next XX class", "OK, help me get the express delivery", "OK, lend me your mobile hard disk", "OK, help me charge the phone bill" and "OK, send me a postcard"-even if I really don't need these things.

Advantages embarrass each other, give him positive stimulation, remind him to turn over a new leaf and value your value.

The target is friends who are interested in further enhancing intimate relationship and maintaining long-term relationship. Because an equal trading posture helps to promote the equal, healthy and lasting development of the relationship-this is a high-end skill, and it is easy to play badly if it is not used well. There are many subtleties in it, and the subject may wish to practice it often.

In short, the next time you encounter a similar situation, the problem is mainly to examine the value of the other party to you (feelings+interests), and then deal with it separately according to the above strategies. Of course, summing up your own way is the best.

Finally, I attach a passage from an article I wrote a few months ago:

Now that I think about it, the biggest drawback of human society is that it does not respect the equality of transactions, but regards the so-called feelings as the highest value. This actually opens the door for getting something for nothing in disguise. You just need to give your feelings and leave the rest alone. You have friends to take care of it for you. Many people are keen on communication, making friends without principles and eating and drinking everywhere. In fact, this is an abacus. It took me a long time to understand this truth. I used to be helpful and put myself in others' shoes, but life was not easy and I was often wronged. Now I am selfish and indifferent, but I am becoming more and more popular. The circle of friends is getting higher and higher, and life is booming. It's really strange to think about it.