How to pursue a girl?

First, learn to show yourself correctly.

Some time ago, I often brushed a video about If You Are the One repeatedly, which was roughly "the worst male guest in history". In the video, the boy showed his Dongfeng car, but it didn't come out, and all the female guests in the audience turned off the lights. Later, I learned that it was just a spoof video.

But it also reflects a very important question: "How to present yourself correctly in the first round?"

For most diaosi and straight men, they tend to ignore this link. They don't pay attention to the preparation of the first link at all. Instead, you can show your usual appearance at will and don't dress yourself up.

Although all emotional marketing numbers emphasize that girls are not chasing, but attracting; You must learn to build yourself first. You must know the importance of the "first cause effect", but the premise of doing this is to learn to show it to the other party correctly. Has anyone told you how to show it to each other? What should I show?

Few people talk about it, but no one asks. This is an important link that many people want to pursue and ignore.

In order to learn how to show each other correctly and establish the attraction of girls to you, we must first understand the "attributes of each other", which can be understood as their status, hobbies, personality characteristics, family background and so on.

For example, if the girl you want to chase is a college student, you can grasp the common weaknesses of girls of this age. For example, because of the relatively shallow age and experience, I have some illusions about beautiful love, such as infatuation with the image of a materialistic boy or a sunny man. You can give it to each other in this respect, that is, show it as much as possible.

At this time, some people may ask, isn't this the real me?

If it is true, it is estimated that no one likes it. Most people are like this, showing their best side in the pursuit stage, packaging themselves, and disguising their true side a little. At the beginning, you need to have some value charm and know some skills of chasing girls, so you don't have to cater to each other blindly and chase them so tired, but the point is that many people have low value and are still chasing someone who is several steps higher than their own value.

Secondly, it is to cater to each other in their respective interests and values, giving each other a feeling that you like these as much as I do, that you know me and that we can talk very well.

If you want to catch up with girls, what you really want is to give them an emotional point. Otherwise, why do you say that girls' sensibility is rationality?

Bian Xiao, I am a super introverted person, that is, the diaosi man in the hearts of girls, so that I am still a place at the age of 29. Later, I saw a book on the internet that taught people to pick up girls-the secret of Zhuge's love, and the dry goods were full. Now my girlfriend changes every time, which makes everyone in a trance. I don't know if I want to get married now. For brothers who are still single, they can also learn to improve themselves. There are e-books and the secrets of Zhuge's love. Anyway, they can learn to think about love and improve themselves without spending money. I feel nothing better than this.

Second, learn correct communication skills.

Chatting runs through the center of the whole pursuit, so it is very important to chat with girls correctly.

If you really want to teach this problem about communication skills, you have to start a course, which depends on your emotional intelligence about love, your understanding of women's thinking and your ability to improvise during chatting.

The emotional intelligence of love we are talking about depends on your pursuit experience and the number of love experiences. If you are a person who has no experience in this field at all, and at the same time because of the influence of living environment and circle factors, you are born without this specific ability to fall in love. Congratulations, you are a typical straight man in legend.

Let's talk about the female thinking that straight men need to know. Only by roughly understanding girls' thinking and emotional points can you better respond to the replies in the chat process and know what girls want in different situations.

For details, please refer to the following:

Chatting with girls is not something you can learn just by reading a few articles and talking at once. People with this need suggest taking courses. On the basis of understanding the relevant chat skills, they can also find girls of different ages on social software to exercise their chat adaptability.

Third, learn the correct way of invitation.

The correct way is:

First of all, make sure the other person's impression of you.

I'd like to add here that if the other person doesn't like you online, I don't actually recommend asking you out, because it's much harder to make someone like you online in reality, and once you don't do well, the other person will look at you with new eyes, and it's even harder to make progress in the future.

I believe many people have experienced this. With the mentality of trying to understand, they went out to meet the opposite sex. After the first time it is determined that there is no good impression, the other party will basically push back.

Second, in the case of ensuring a good impression, start the invitation from the other party's interest points.

Suggest using the food that the other person likes to invite.

Because of girls' hobbies, it is difficult to have the same ones as boys, or even if there are, for most girls who like shopping and taking photos to go to tea shops, they prefer to go with their girlfriends.

So what are we going to say?

If the other person likes to eat xx, you can say.

"Recently learned that you like to eat a xx shop opened. Shall I take you to have a try? Let's make an appointment. "

This sentence is actually quite wonderful (there is food that the other person likes, and you also notice what the girl likes to eat, and you are willing to take her, which will make the girl feel very warm and leave at an appointed time)

Better than those who just say "Let's go to xx tomorrow afternoon". Unless the other person really likes you, it is easy to be rejected.

Invitation is ok, but now as a friend, before each invitation, you should tell the other party a purpose of doing something and refuse an invitation without a purpose.