Proper Speaking is a Practice —— Reading Master Xuecheng's Proper Speaking

Well said is a book recently read by Master Xuecheng. We talk every day, but different ways of speaking lead to different results. Zi Gong said, "A gentleman's words are wise, but his words are not. You mustn't be careless when he speaks. "

Master Xuecheng said: "well said, it is to change fate;" Talking well is a kind of practice. "

If you have many good words, you will become a good person; Speak too many bad words and slowly become a bad person; Speak wisdom and you will become a wise man; Say kind words, and you are a kind person.

Hemingway said: "Many times, the more we talk, the more alienated we become, and the more contradictions we have. In communication, most people are always eager to express themselves, but they don't know each other at all. I have learned to speak for two years, but I have learned to shut up all my life: do you understand, don't say much; Uneasy and calm, speak slowly; If you really have nothing to say, don't say it. "

When a friend was talking to me, she told me something that happened to her, which I always remember.

She is a lively and cheerful child, and her study and life are normal in all aspects.

But in the third grade of primary school, her respected math teacher gave her a nickname in the class and made fun of her, which attracted the laughter of her classmates. Since then, this nickname has been called by students for many years.

This incident did great harm to this friend.

She said that since then, she has been unable to respect teachers and study hard as before. The impression of that incident and the jokes of her classmates kept her in humiliation. She deliberately transferred to other places to escape.

This is the power of language.

An inappropriate sentence has had such a great impact on people.

Sometimes, the power of language far exceeds the external tangible harm.

Now some scholars study the phenomenon of "language violence", which is to realize this problem.

A mature and accurate language system is one of the biggest differences between human society and animals.

Language helps people to express their ideas simply, so that subjective things such as feelings, wishes and feelings can spread smoothly between people.

In the final analysis, language is not just a sound, but a tool to output ideas.

According to Buddhism, our daily actions, words and deeds will lead to karma.

"karma" includes good karma, evil karma, clean karma and trouble karma.

When an industry is created, it will inevitably have an impact on others.

One influence is connected with another in series, so many influences are endless and scattered.

So, it's simple to say, but it's not a trivial matter.

What you say is very important.

Hurting others with simple words may have great consequences.

Warming the world with simple language may bring people help for a while, a day or even a lifetime.

Not only for others, but also for yourself.

Sometimes, we should say what we are.

Students say what students should say, teachers say what teachers should say, police say what police should say, and doctors say what doctors should say.

In this way, everyone has their own duties and is orderly.

But sometimes, on the other hand, we are what we call.

If a person always tells the truth, then everyone will think that he is a sincere person; A person always tells lies, and after a long time, he becomes a liar; If you have many good words, you will become a good person; Always speak ill, people who are not bad people gradually become bad people; Speak wisdom and you will become a wise man; Say kind words, and you are a kind person.

So, what you said is actually what others think of you.

Everyone wants to change their destiny. It's actually quite simple. Talking well is to change their fate.

The depth of the water flows slowly, but the words of the wise are late.

(Text: Lu Jing)