What does his wife mean by sending her ex a message wishing her a happy birthday?

Your wife sent a message to her ex after marriage to wish her a happy birthday. There is nothing wrong with what she wrote. It is nothing more than a blessing to my predecessor. I hope her predecessor will be accompanied by a lover in the future and find her own happiness. If this is the only thing, I advise you to leave it alone. After all, the content of your wife's text message is not to get back together with others, nor to say anything ambiguous. You care too much, but it seems a little careless.

But when you asked your wife about her birthday, she said that she didn't remember your birthday, even her parents' and family's birthdays, and that she had a bad memory, but she only remembered her ex-boyfriend's birthday, which made people feel very hurt. It is not that she doesn't remember your birthday. After all, you two have only been together for half a year, and you have only been married for half a year, which adds up to one year. For some people who are not sensitive to numbers. It's normal not to remember your birthday. My best friend and I have been friends for more than ten years, and we didn't remember each other's birthdays until a few years ago. My husband and I have been married for more than ten years. In the first few years, I really couldn't remember my husband's birthday, and I really couldn't remember my parents' birthdays, so I only remembered mine, and I was helpless about it. Unless I wrote a memo, I really couldn't remember it. Your wife can remember her ex's birthday, perhaps because they spent a long time together, or because your wife wrote a memo, set an alarm clock for herself, and automatically reminded her whenever her ex's birthday, but anyway, since we have broken up, we should pay more attention to you now that we are married to you, not to your ex. I think this is the most heartfelt place.

I don't think you two have deep feelings, or no feelings at all. Marriage must be possible, or because of parents' urging. When you make do, you should think that this will happen today. Maybe six months together is not enough for her to let go of her ex and forget her ex. It's not enough that she loves you and cares about you. That's why this is happening. Before I was with my husband, I had a unrequited love. That was my first love. Although I learned later that he regarded me as a spare tire, I told him to be friends and I wouldn't have any wild thoughts about him in the future. But how can a boy who is tempted for the first time be willing to die of old age? So even if I don't chat, I still keep each other's contact information, but later I fell in love with my husband. After being with him, I really didn't have the slightest affection for him from the bottom of my heart. I remember one time he took the initiative to find me and said that he saw me kissing my other half downstairs in the dormitory, which was very sour. After listening to it, I found him very annoying and disgusted. I told him it was none of his business. In fact, according to my personality, having a boyfriend will definitely black out all the opposite sex I liked or had been with before, but at that time I was madly in love with my object, and I really forgot about it. If he hadn't died, I really couldn't help hacking him.

I have always felt that whether in love or marriage, we should cherish and be responsible for the present people. The most basic sincerity is to make a clean break with your ex and never contact her in her later years. It may be that I broke up with my ex not long ago, so I will send my best wishes on my birthday this year. Maybe she doesn't have deep feelings for you or no feelings at all, so she doesn't care about you at all when she does such a thing, but since she married you. At the very least, you should pay more attention to your predecessor. If you can't remember your birthday, you should set up a memo. When you ask her, take a quick look and tell you the exact date, instead of just saying that you don't know or remember.

I think when you reply to others, when you talk to your wife about this topic, she will say that you don't trust her and even threaten to divorce. Your wife has such a reaction, either because she really has a clear conscience, so she thinks that your little doubt is an insult to her and doesn't want to entangle with you on this issue, or because she is haunted and dare not answer your question directly, she can only turn against you and use trust as an excuse.

Either way, the most important thing is to know whether your wife has feelings for you and whether you have feelings for your wife after you get married. If you find that there is no affection between you this year, she doesn't love you, and you don't love her, and everyone is completely together, then I advise you to stop loss in time and your parents urge you to get married. The most fundamental reason should be that you want to have a companion around you and hope that when they get old. But if your marriage is not happy at all, will they be happy? If there are no children now, well, if there are children in the future and they grow up in such a loveless family, what kind of mentality do you think your children will have and what kind of life they will have? Then you two will quarrel at both ends for three days. Who will get hurt? I will always be the innocent child who was brought into this world, but I have a deep understanding, because I grew up in a family where my parents quarreled for three days, which brought me the greatest influence that I dare not have children until now. Although my marriage is happy now, I am afraid that one day my marriage will be unhappy and my children will live like me and pass it on from generation to generation.

If you think there is love between you, but it's just not that deep, then find an opportunity to have a good talk with your wife and tell her what happened before and let it go. You just want to have a good life with her from now on Since there is love between you, as long as you manage your marriage well, your feelings will only get deeper and deeper. How much she cares about her ex. Sooner or later. It is agreed that neither of you will take office early, don't think about your predecessor, and don't send blessings on his birthday. Give each other a chance to start over, and I believe your marriage will be on the right track.